i can dig what this man is saying. it's already somewhat difficult to step to a chick you don't know an spark up convo. i don't particularly like it...then have to deal with an attitude waiting for me to say something crazy or mess up? naw, i'm good.

You are nuts! LOL!

Hey, I like to follow the drama.

Speaking only for myself...
 

You know what, starang? It is all about CONFIDENCE. If a guy can't approach a woman with confidence, he can keep it moving. You only get attitude when you come with a lame line or on some disrespectful angle. If men would just approach women, respectfully and with confidence, you all wouldn't get nearly as much attitude as you do.

It is like when you were trying to get to know members of the org you wanted to be a member of. You had to approach them confidently and respectfully. You would have never approached a member of Iota and said "Ay dawg. What yo' name iz? I'm trying to be down with that brown and gold ish". And if the member brushed you off, I know you wouldn't say "screw Iota. Y'all colors are ugly anyway." But that is what you all do to us. You would approach a member with respect and be serious about it. Women expect the same treatment.

Men need to realize that women (attractive ones) get approached by men ALL OF THE TIME. (Just like member of orgs get appraoched by interesteds all of the time.) It gets quite irritating when you come at us wrong. Don't think that when you approach that you are the first person that day to approach. You may be the 10th person--by that time all patience is gone and if you don't come correctly you will get embarassed.

At the same time, I think that many women DO get carried away with their responses. But most of the time it goes back to being badgered by idiot men so often that we are often frustrated and don't want to be bothered. Sometimes the guy who is sincerely interested gets brushed off...blame it on your friends. *shrugs shoulders*

Soror,
Your first sentences in the first paragraph reminded me of yesterday's TVOne episode of Good Times. It was the episode where Michael liked the chick (forgot her name) and she came over to return Micheal's notes. She comes over and sees JJ. Michael was very shy and not confident. So, JJ tries to "help". The chick "digs" JJ and Michael gets mad. Flo puts Micheal in "check" and tells him basically what you said regarding confidence.

*just an FYI*

I am married and my husband is a wonderful man that did not have to use piquant lines to speak to me...

I think many ladies have an inability to use "innuendo"... Now to use "innuendo", it is usually when a lady finds the other guy attractive... However, most of the time, the guys who are unattractive give the lame pick up lines for whatever reason, too drunk, no confidence, a dare, as a "wingman", whatever...

Men who step up to me (before I was married) with lame lines usually will get put in their place quickly by me. If they are attractive, I let them off easily... If they are unattractive, I say I have to go to Church to scare them off. Sometimes it works, sometimes it does not...

I never had to use any lame lines to pick up on a man. They all had to come to me. And if I stood like a wall flower all night when I hung out with my girls, then, hey, fine with me...

But when a MAN had the guts to step up to me, I did try to listen what he had to say unless he was drunk or high. And the conversation would take off from there.

However, several men have misinterpretations and misguided perceptions about women, generally. And I classify them as pure mysogynists. I have been harrassed by men before that have been ugly and hurtful. Most women would have slapped these guys or called the police after what was said to me. Then I am asked for forgiveness of there inane reactions. So, as a defense mechanism, I am extremely STOIC which is INTENTIONAL and scares most men away...

Only the strong man can survive me...

Hence my husband...

Right now, KT, you are showing out how you treat your wife... How long do you think you will remain married to her with YOUR attitude? You are borderline abusive. And you take words to a whole nother level that it is not all that serious...

Who cares how old fools step up to women? And why are you worried that these women are eliminating "potential husbands"?

It sounds like you still "party" at the clubs and get homegirls numbers, thinking they gave it to you...

I find that juvenile and pathetic.

Re: Speaking only for myself...
 

of course, i understand that it's about confidence...but it's stepping out on a limb. that in itself can be very difficult for a lot of guys. even the most confident and cocky individual has his own insecurities. even more so, we were all once newbies in stepping up to the plate to get our mack on. my game isn't super strong, but i'll make your ass laugh a whole lot enough to slide me the digits later on, lol. believe it or not, rejection isn't something that people like to experience....and for some, it affects the macking abilities a little more than others.

trust, i live in south florida...i've heard all of the:

"pssst....psst, ay you...in the pink tank, with the thighs.....ay guurrrll"

*proceeds to flash gold fronts*

i don't step to a woman in that manner, thankfully. now if men are stepping to y'all like that....by all means, light him up like a christmas tree.

now in reference to me expressing interest in Iota......

:cool:

strictly confidential between me and my prophytes.

^^Humor works wonders....if what you are saying is actually funny and original.

I am from South Florida so you and I are >>>>here<<<<.

Of course, my references to you/Iota were mere anology. ;) Just wanted to put it all in a context that we all could relate to.

:D

uh oh

Where is msn4med1975?

Let's get some help for your addiction.

LOL!

"Girl you so fine, if we were in Vegas I'd marry you right now!" :rolleyes:

Let the church say AAAAAAAAMMMMEEENNN! I couldn't agree more!

Agree!!!!

The title is worst pick up lines. I don't get any pleasure out of "turning" a man down, but if you come with bull, you get...well we are all grown here. A decent man that is GENUINELY interested in talking to you won't come with lines and stupidity. I am just shocked a man would even dare any educated, sophisticated sister of AKA, DST, ZPb, or SGRHO to debate with him. C'mon now, debate? Argue? With a sister? Whispering in our ears with your hot breath, and weak game? Naw buddy, can't win that one.

Well, I know I am new to the forum but hopefully I am not overstepping my boundaries. I think that, as stated previously, women are approached many times by men who are mean, disrespectful, obnoxious (just to throw a few adjectives out there) and we grow tired of the nonsense. I think the purpose of the thread was just to vent a little about how we are approached by men and to relate to each other regarding these silly lines that are thrown at us. Now, before I was involved with my bf, I know that if a man approached me in a respectful manner I would always give him that same respect back. I do not know too many women who take great pride in dissing men. That is just childish. Now if a man approaches me in a way that I feel is disrespectful in any way then no, I will not talk to him. I will probably just ignore him. :rolleyes: I certainly will not feel like I am letting my future husband slip away. Now, I will proceed in presenting my "worst pick-up line": Yeah,....you know, I wish I could be a decimal point so I could have a place in your life. :eek: This was said to me on the train coming home from work! Ya'll know I was tired right??....

MY bad pick up lines...
 

It's funny that as a girl, I can't stand corny "pickups", but doing the same thing to guys always gets their attention.
The other night my best friend and I we were at a party, and she asks these 2 gents, "Are you guys swingers?" They perk up and come over in a hurry, "woah! okay, okay! umm, what, you and your girl into that kind of thing? Umm.. how does this usually work out?" As if we were REALLY serious... :rolleyes: She goes, "I'M talking about the swings outside the apartments... what were YOU thinking?"

lol... so we all enjoyed a nice little moonlit chat on the porch swings outside. A little laugh goes a long way.

Had to post this one
 

"Miss, I almost FAINTED when you walked through the door. You have got to be the prettiest woman I have ever seen."


I'm thinking "you don't get out much do you?".
:p