Chiming in kinda late :) but I'm sort of with XOAlumXO on this one. I would be bothered by a very high number for a man, simply because I believe sex should be about more than physical intimacy, and I would only want to be with a man who felt the same way. It takes time to build a connection that's more than physical (I'll stop short of saying "love"), and a high number indicates that he wasn't willing to take that time with some or all of his previous partners (and/or that he had multiple partners at the same time). I would have to evaluate whether he was just sexually promiscuous a few years back and has come to share my viewpoint, or whether he's still just interested in one-night stands.

The issue of STD's doesn't concern me too much as long as he's tested ok.

And... all I could think of reading the beginning of this thread was "THIRTY-SEVEN!" ;)

I love slutty girls.

-Rudey

Um, if you get done with him, can I marry him?

So judgemental some people are! I don't think I'd care about a person having a high number if I knew them to be a good person. Everyone makes mistakes, or has periods in their life that they're not proud of, or hell just wants to ghave a good time! As long as they are not exposing me to a disease it is not my business. I would go on who I knew them to be, not a number. I haven't asked my distraction his number and I doubt that I ever will.

I plan on keeping him around for a while, but if I die early, he's all yours! ;)

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Wow. I miss the old ZTAngel that came up with threads like this one.

I have to post this. I know this guy who thinks he's all that and a bag of chips - never mind that he LOOKS like a bag of chips! He had considered becoming a priest and so has a low number of sexual conquests (around five, I think).

So, a friend fixed him up with a woman, and they went out this weekend. The first thing out of this woman's mouth was, "Does it bother you that I've had sex with 58 men?" My friend's jaw just dropped. Then, this rocket scientist said, "Well, most of them were one night stands, nothing serious."

He won't be taking her out again.

Personally, I don't care, but on the other hand I can see why many guys would.

Living that lifestyle and having a high number says a lot about who you are, what you do, and what kind of morals you have.

I'd date a girl with a high number....but I think it would be harder for me to bring a girl home because the girls that I do know that have high numbers really aren't the type of girls I like.

To be honest, the only guy that has asked me about my # was a guy I dated that was a virgin, and even then he didn't ask about exact #, just if I was or wasn't still a virgin. I pretty much skirted around the issue and to this day he has no idea if I am or not.

If asked about the exact # I would just say something like "less than 5" (which is the truth). I usually don't want to know my guys #. It just brings insecurity into the relationship.

I think I'd much rather have a general impression of the person's history. That'd be more informational than anything else, I think.

Consider if a 25 year old guy tells me he's slept with 10 girls. That doesn't mean much. He could've lost his virginity at 15 and been averaging about one girl a year. Or lost it at 22, been in two long term relationships, and been going absolutely bonkers the last three weeks.

So, rather than "I've slept with 10 girls," I'd rather hear, "I lost my virginity in high school, had a wild year or two in college, and had a couple long term girlfriends." That tells me a lot more.

Ha. Plus the STD test, obviously. :)

I didn't want to bother reading the whole thread, so I just thought I would post my opinion....

I ALWAYS ask before I sleep with a guy. I want to know just how many chicks have been there before I have.

The most I've had a guy say was either 17 or 20, I don't remember which. The main warning sign I watch out for is when (and this actually happened once) the guys says, "I THINK it's been x number."

I think you should at least KNOW for sure whether it's 5 or 50. MY advice- know the exact number. BTW- I didn't spend much more time with the "i think" guy.. And NO I never slept with him.

I alsknow a girl (I wouldn't really call her a friend but I know her) who NEVER asks and NEVER tells. She doesn't even know the exact number... She says there's no reason for it because the person is with you right then. Apparently she thinks it doesn't matter.

Sounds like a good point until you consider that the girl has a little bit of funk in her. :eek:

Summary- ALWAYS tell the truth.... The right person won't care how big the number is because it is YOU that they love.