But see this is what I don't understand. If a young woman doesn't know about attire, etc., I would hope that her parents would have taught her to take the time to ask about matters that you are unclear about - especially if the matter is important to you. I don't understand not asking if one is unsure - even if one has to ask her girlfriends, cousins, whomever. To me, if it is important enough to her, she will at least figure out if a Rush requires more "interview" attire or more "come as you are" attire.

SC

We have had a few like that.

One one line, one delivered the week before initiation, did her little one day stay in the hospital and kept going. She is still very active and is the treasurer of our chapter. On the other hand, her line sister delivered the day of initiation, we held a special one for her after she came home and we haven't seen her since.

On our last line we had a prospect who delivered the week after initiation and she now our social action chair.

So I say that to say, while they all looked ready to deliver at the Rush, they made it through and if we had of held it against them we would have missed out on at least two good workers.

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Sigmadiva,
I understand what you are saying but I just don't agree. She should have known that she was coming to a Rush for a BGLO. If a woman comes to a Rush for a BGLO, I think that she should know something about the organization and the plight of African-American women over time, which has shaped the organization. Our organizations are not solely shaped by the women's movement *in general*. Our experiences include the *unique* experiences and shaping from African-American women.

I don't buy the argument that she may have been there to learn and therefore we need to cut her some slack. As African-Americans, we always have to compete *on level* with all other races for anything that we want - we have to be on point (or BETTER in most cases). Likewise, IMO she should have to be on point when it comes to participating in BGLO affairs.

SC

Those Mary Kay women are PUSHY as hayle!!!! Unless you have petroleum jelly CHEAPER than Wal Mart, BUZZ OFF!!!

For real!
CT4, you are hilarious!! :D

SC

no, i think she had an office job. and target colors are red shirt and tan pants, and she wore red pants and a white shirt...

i mean she could have very well had not known better... but i put my money on her "trying to make a good impression with the deltas by wearing their colors..."

LMAO...jump in the handbasket! :D

I understand and agree but you know sometimes all we get is that first impression. And folks were murmuring during the rush about the few pregnant women there. Mainly about their ability to sacrifice that money and time. I'm not sure if they were granted interviews or if they applied really but I'm thinking it could have been a liability for them if they had.

Our undergrad chapter had a rush not long ago. I'm sorry but I was not impressed- AT ALL. There were of course, girls in red, girls who looked like they just rolled out of bed, a girl with flip-flops on, etc. I couldn't believe it. The one that took the cake was this girl who had on a see-through shirt! Many of the older graduate sorors were there and we were just all embarassed for her. I was like "what would possess you to go there?". I really want to pull some of the ladies to the side just to "talk" to them, I just really wanted to ask them if they realized how utterly disrespectful they were being.
The dumbest question, by far, was this one:

"Um, so, like, what do y'all talk about at your chapter meetings? What do you y'all do?"

I just wanted to reschedule the rush for another day. That did it for me.

I read your post, saw that your signature says Spring 2004, and thought I was trapped in the Matrix.

Okay, you're '04 grad chapter and you and your grad chapter sorors were at an undergraduate rush.

Got it ;)

Yep, you got it. :D It was a rush for a newly chartered chapter.

I was thinking the same thing that someone posted earlier. The older sorors kept saying "It is a new breed. They just don't know. That is why they need mentors". But I was like, couldn't they have at least looked at it like a job interview? At the very least, a job interview. I thought that it was common sense to dress professionally for such an event, but I realize that common sense isn't all that common.

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Oh, my word. I would probably have had to leave the room.

does anyone have their own embarassing rush moments? im more interested in hearing about how u made a fool of yourselves than how "some girl" came to your chapter's rush doing, saying or wearing x, y, z.

chances are none of you ladies probably ever made these mistakes, but we are human, so spill it!

well at my rush i had just come from the dentist for a filling. instead of novacaine they gave me something more along the lines of "byaatch-feel-this-pain-acaine" and that mess had me in pain throughout the whole program that i was crying. so of course people are wondering wth my problem is and the sorors thought i was that nervous. they teased me about it later.

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ROTFLMAO!!!!!

Maybe she thought she was at the Tri-Delta rush!

What a dummy!;)