Families trade race on 2/16/06.

I saw a commercial advertising the show....they showed the people pre and post change. It was interesting. Can't wait to see the show.

Re: Re: Re: Cheating is not purely physical ...
 

dang, i didn't even see this.

yea you bring up a good point, but yet and still...it's neither physical or emotional. we're human beings with feelings in our loins. porn is the extreme, but in the barest sense it's being turned on by someone who you find attractive.

I saw Oprah today with the two families. It was good. I hope more attention is paid to this show on FX and the accounts given on Oprah by the families of what experiences they had. Maybe it will shed some light on this crap that some folks like to say about this type of stuff never happens or we are just paranoid and what not.

I watched the beginning of it last night (DVR). The Indian version of people basically all looked the same to me.

http://www.oprah.com/money/debtdiet/..._284_101.jhtml


Debt Diet featuring a Soror and her family. :o

I saw this show when it aired last week. It was quite an eye-opener b/c I didn't realize that intelligent, college-educated people could be in such denial about their financial situation.

I could actually see how they could.

I didn't watch the show, but I just read about them on their site. Sometimes we get too caught up in image and what we want other people to PERCIEVE what we are. And I think that's what happened with them. There are a lot of people out there who LOOK like they have it all under control when the reality is, they are literally living from check to check. Sometimes, we're just trying to "keep up with the joneses" when it's just making the situation worse. No she doesn't necessarily NEED 5 cars or getting her hair done every week, but she might have wanted people to think that she had it like that.

I know I was like that with debt. I didn't tell my family or friends when I was struggling--they only found out about it when it got out of control and I REALLY needed some help. I didn't want people to know that I was doing badly, and I wanted to try to resolve the situation on my own--but by that time, things had gotten too bad! One of my goals this year is to start living more responsibly when it comes to money. I'm not very good at managing money sometimes, but I know I don't want to keep living my life like that. I'm looking for another apartment and getting a car real soon. I want to keep both! So I know that I'm going to have to take a real hard look at my spending, and just live on what I NEED more as opposed to what I WANT. All those expensive things don't mean much if it's sittin out on a curb someplace.

Sorry it got so long but it really hit home for me, and what I'm trying to do personally.

I haven't seen the show but I've been reading about the families on line and I think this is so sad. We often like to give the illusion that all is well by the amount and quality of our possessions....not realizing that it can all fall apart in a moments time. But at least they are working to control the problem.

There's a lot of good info on this site!

Just reading her story made me realize how ridiculous some of my spending is! However, it is interesting that she can't maintain her own hair for an extra week so that she could cut the hair bill in half. And what salon is she going to where her hairdo only costs 30.00 a week? Does she get perms? trims? color? Imagine how much she is REALLY spending... I can't wait until March 10 for the follow- up!

I guess when I say denial, I was referring to the fact that she said that she'd just max her credit cards out and never pay on them once or just throw her bills in the garbage w/o even opening them. I can see someone getting carried away or going overboard w/their spending. I can also see them hiding their situation from friends/family. However, to just ignore/deny the problems to yourself like they don't exist or will go away is just beyond me.

I can understand that too. But there are some people who do that because, quite frankly, it's just too much to face sometimes. Who really wants to spend their day thinking about past due bills--especially bills that are just SO high, you can't do nothin' about them anyway so....you get my point.

I'm not excusing it because it's a really irresponsible way to treat your debts. Sometimes you just get into that "eff it" mode and voila! The bill is in the trash...out of sight, out of mind. It makes you feel better temporarily because you don't have to think about it. But best believe that it will come back to HAUNT HAUNT HAUNT you afterward, especially when you're actually trying to do better.
I guess I can see both ends of this, because I've been just like her.

i wish my wife would...

I go to school in a Midwestern college town and I only pay $27 to get a wash, deep condition and basic style every 10-11 days. If I went every week, my beautician would only charge me $24/wk. Relaxers are $55 and she throws in the trim for free as part of basic maintenance.

I'm still catching up on my Oprahs by DVR. THat Katrina Oprah has me 'bout in tears right now. That poor 82 year old woman....:( It took 5 months to notify the family? America is seriously not doing enough. This reminds me of Hotel Rwanda where the Joaquin Phoenix says "I think if people see this footage, they'll say Oh, my God, that's horrible. And then they'll go on eating their dinners. "


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