I'm not surprised that the "talking white" phenomenon occurs in other communities of color, particularly those who have been extremely marginalized. I wonder, though, whether it goes on in Asian Pacific American communities.
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In the study I've done about racial assimilation, surgery to have eyelids "Americanized" is popular in some Asian communities. I don't know about language/linguistic issues, though..hmmm

add to that peroxide treatment to supposedly have lighter skin. it's more a phenomenon outside of the US.

assimilation is rampant in the asian american community. it's evident in the disparity of interracial dating differences between asian men and women. a lot of different reasons for it.

Re: Your "Blackness" Questioned?????
 

HK, I understand your annoyance with your friend b/c she was making many assumptions. However, I also understand why she may have made those assumptions. Many of us (black people) get our jobs and move as far away from black people as we can and never look back or try to aid the community from when they came. I don't think that it's absolutely necessary to live among blacks (although I will b/c when I go to work in the mornings, I want black children to see a young black professional and know that they too can do that), I do think that it is essential to continue to take part in the struggle.

Don't be mad at her. Maybe she didn't mean any harm. :)

SC

Re: Re: Your "Blackness" Questioned?????
 

My sister called and my answering machine came on once and she said that she hung up b/c she thought that she had dialed the number of a white woman. It wasn't my English being proper (b/c my mother didn't raise any fools and she speaks proper English as well). It was the inflection in my speech. I can't deny that other races do tend to have a different inflection when speaking and more of a nasal way of speaking sometimes. Of course this does not go for everyone but I must admit that I understood why my sister mistook me for someone else. It's just like how I can tell if I'm talking to a black woman when I call the telephone company - and it's not a matter of her English being proper or not.

It may also be a regional thing b/c when I lived in Cali, quite a few times while riding the train, I thought that the person standing behind me talking was white and turned and the person was black. It was not a matter of proper English. It was the nasalness of it all.

SC

Re: Just some thoughts
 

I totally agree. To me, the *real* sellouts are all of those rappers like Jay-Z and 50-cent who have made $$ off of the backs of young black boys that we bury every week from trying to emulate that crap that they sell to them. Jay-Z and 50-cent would rather put $$ into their pockets than to stop shoveling that life-threatening crap into the minds of their own black brothers and sisters who are dying from that mess daily.

The rappers need to learn how to keep it real b/c that is *not* keeping it real. That's keeping it real ignant (as CT4 said).
SC

I have had this same experience and totally agree with your post Doggystyle.

I had this problem a lot in middle school. All of sudden I was an "oreo" because I hung with a multicultural group and took higher level classes. That's alright because I am doing something with myself unlike those same people who called me names.

That was my name in middle school too. I didn't understand why getting good grades and thinking about going to college was "selling out". I come from a line of educated AA's in my family and all of them where teachers. They expected me to go to college, and havinf two parent with four degrees, there was no way that I could not go to college and get an education. I also remember one semester I received 3 A's and one of my AA classmates grabbed my report card and shouted, "you made three A's?" like AA's kids didn't make A's.


But lately I have come across those who made fun of me back in the day and it funny how they act now. I even had one girl who tried to bring back that middle school mess and I was like sorry, I have moved on, maybe you should to. Then got mad at me because of the way I reacted. But that was over TEN years ago and I have grown up.

Thank you! I dealt with this too :rolleyes: Ya know most of the folx that gave me isht are:
dead
in jail
got babies mommas/babies daddies scattered to the 4 winds
Or on drugs somewhere.

I know for sure that the one who was a big player in making my school years hayle was killed in a drug deal gone bad.

Karma can be a beeotch!

Oh my goodness....
It depresses me to see how people are still having their blackness questioned. I don't understand and I don't think I ever will. I thought since I was born African-American that would more than likely classify me as black, but now you have to act the part and not just look it. I always tell people that make " you don't act black" comments that I am not trying to put on an "act" for anyone including you. :mad: Maybe I don't understand...is it more about where you came from&your upbringing as opposed to who you are as a person? Well...I never need anyone to remind me that I am black. I am always reminded that I am black when one of those stuck up people in mid-town Manhattan mistakes me for the help. :( It sucks, but it happens:(

Bringing us up or tearing us down
 

I haven't seen this topic, so if it has been posted already can someone please refer me to it? Thanks in advance.

Well, here's my story. I'm really lazy :o and I have been saying for years how I want to go to the gym to tone up, get the legs and thighs in good shape. Now I'm not big, not thick or anything, I am a petite person. I do, however, complain if I have to walk up some stairs or participate in any type of strenuous activity (yes, I consider that strenuous lol).

Soooo, I decided that since I live by the lake I could get some skates and skate on the bike path when spring time hits. It's minutes from my apt, walking, and I figured I would be able to get fresh air and exercise at the same time. My community is diverse and all types of people are along the lake (Hyde Park for you Chicagoans) in the spring and summer. I decided to tell a black male coworker today (I'm black too) and he said: "You always acting like a white girl." I was like :eek: I got so offended. I didn't talk to him for a long while. I refused to discuss the situation with him.

My question is, did I overreact? I mean, should I have been that upset for him saying that to me? I know that you shouldn't take comments like that to heart but it really hurt me. Do you all think that comments like this build someone's character, meaning that someone will think that there is no such thing as a "stereotypical black person," or do these comments more tear people down, meaning someone will think "well, maybe I don't act black enough/act too white" and therefore should change.

This isn't the first time this has happened to me, and I'm sure it won't be the last. I've been called white and that I think I'm "too good for anyone" for going to college! :o Do we, as blacks, take things too far when trying to generalize our culture/people?

This particular issue is something that really used to bother me when I was still trying to find myself. People would often make comments on how I spoke or my hobbies or my ambitions. It really did hurt. When my walk with God became strong I realized God made me the way he wants me to be, special and set apart. Then I had to really think. Who are these people who are saying this? Who are they to me? Why are they saying this? Is it done in love or to try crush my spirit? Most of the time, the person was no one to me. So I really stopped caring.

Our community is infamous for sterotyping and not embracing the differences within our culture. I personally think it is one of many hold over issues from slavery. Back in the days, elders taught youth to not be to proud or bold and 'stay in your place' or run the risk of offending any passing white person. I think the "you think your cute" and "you tryin' to be white" is the modernized version of so called putting someone in their place

Aw, girl, I get this a lot, as well. Usually my response begins with, "Well, I'm sorry that you associate intellectualism with 'being white', but hey, that's on you." or in your case, "Damn, it's too bad that youuuuuuur blackness is defined by such unimportant things. Mine isn't."

...and top BOTH off with a smile. :) I save the latter for when I'm really offended, though.

After coming from being the only black girl in a graduating class of 848 (and LOVING my alma mater) and then going to an HBCU, I got used to the "white girl" comments fast. Safely attribute it to other people not having diverse enough friends/neighborhoods/circles/cliques to respect your uniqueness, and believe in the phrase "The people who matter don't care, and the people who care, don't matter.".

That's what works for me NOW.



As for over-generalizing, of course "we" do. For me, it seems like a really deep connection to not being satisfied with where one is in life, and the more they see other people in that same place, the more comfortable they are.. thus shuning those who are different. I know that doesn't sound like it makes much sense, but I swear it makes sense in my head, LOL.

Stereotypes have been around for years on top of years, and they are not going anywhere. I think we have all been guilty once upon a time for stereotyping. I know I have. You basically have to be an open-minded individual to allow yourself to look pass those that are close-minded and see things only one way.

I would have been slightly offended, but being the outspoken person I am, I would have inquired as to why that was stated. I then would have educated him in a nice nasty way on my view of the situation as a whole. I would not have stopped talking to him. I feel it's a petty situation. Also depends on how serious the comment was intended to be. Whether stated in a jokingly manner in oppose to act your own race. Always have to look at both peoples side and communicate to clarify situations.

All and all, I've been through a lot, and I'm content with me. I've been called stuck up cuz I'm pretty. A b*tch cuz I'm outspoken. Country cuz I'm from the south. Ghetto cuz I'm from the hood. The list goes on. The only people that can get to me now are my loved ones.