Then WHY did you come here?

I do not consider this a derailment of a thread. It is really a first look at what can happen to derail a recruitment that ends in a, "Why Wasn't I Chosen?" thread.

My youngest was a model (professional, not department store) and an actress (you might kind of vaguely think you knew her from somewhere when you saw her in the street kind of actress). NEVER did she think that she was a shoe in for the best house on campus. NEVER was she rude or condescending to her fellow pnms or Actives in ANY house. And frankly, she could have been difficult. But I like to think that she just knew better.

lolz!

WHATEVER! I do what I want!

Because you said this: I'm glad to hear that. Now we are getting somewhere.

I wasn't insulting your family or your background (I assume your perception of that was in a different thread). I just wanted to clue you in that, at SOME schools, connections do matter A LOT. My alma mater is not one of them. I am the first one to go Greek in my family. I did not know anyone Greek before I joined (rather, I did not know people I knew were Greek), and I did not have any recs. All I was trying to get across were that your grades/scores/activities will not be enough at certain schools if you don't have connections, or recs at least.

I truly do wish you the best of luck during recruitment. I hate the fact that at some schools, the average girl with a lot of desire to get involved in a chapter is unfairly disadvantaged because she doesn't know the right people.

Once you decide where you are going to school, I'd recommend registering with a new username and doing more reading than posting. There are some really great comprehensive threads on GC, and then you can ask more specific questions.

Re-routing to the young lady:rolleyes: originally at the heart of this cautionary tale. It's not out of the realm of possibly that her "colony" experience was ended for her with a polite "no thank you" making it possible for her to participate in informal recruitment in the same school year. I'm thinking that a parent who goes to the trouble of getting involved with the Greek life office over their daughter's recruitment/membership issues gets promoted from "heli" parent to ultimate nuclear submarine parent, pretty much eliminating the possiblity of their daughter getting a bid from anyone, anywhere.

A dictionary entry simply means a word is in usage - NOT that it is correct usage, as I point out to every student who tries to tell me "ain't" is in the dictionary. It is a shibboleth - thankfully, it helps weed out the uneducated.

Oh honey, she was just raised right. :)

That idiot keeps messing up "seams," "there," and "apart."

She/he can't possibly really be an AP student. Making mistakes once and a while is one thing. Making mistakes almost everytime you type means you're dumb and Greekdom would be better off without you.

You see, the problem isn't that you don't proof your grammar/spelling and/or punctuation. I am now saying this as a mom (I do that a lot I guess): The problem is that you aren't reading for content and how you come across. Truly, if you are in a recruitment party and your mind isn't in gear with your mouth you will say or do something unfortunate. And since I went through, as did my daughters, a VERY competitive recruitment system, thinking before writing or speaking is imperative.

My older daughter's recruitment came to a grinding halt (last party before Pref and she had to miss the first round because of class) when the Active who was rushing her started complaining about how much she HATED dating and parties. My daughter went into mental overdrive as to what she meant. She had her first thought and then said, "Oh, I know how hard it is to meet nice guys. My boyfriend has lots of good friends that I could introduce you to..." The girl then said, "No, I HATE dating and boys!:

Without a filter someone might say, "Are you gay?" (or something like an epithet). My daughter "knew" what the girl meant when Active began to fall apart. Daughter knew her recruitment was over, but she said, "I understand that relationships are difficult." Period, end. Get it? A filter and an edit button are importent companions.

SWTXBelle: Thank you.

Good job. Do not pretend as though the other stuff was just typos. You know better than that and so do we.

When you come HERE and wish to engage US in discourse, turn your brain on and proofread your posts if you cannot get it correct the first time around. Save the dumb stuff for your peers (whose parents and teachers need to keep in check).

As for your attempt at advice, you are just a (troll or a) child. If our attempt at saving you from dumb before it is too late bothers you, don't read our posts. Better yet, don't log on again.

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