Wow, this is a good question. I think I have been blessed with the ability to find out within the first few minutes if I'll be dating someone period, let alone a second date.

Now, let's see here:

1.) I would look to see how he treats the women in his family. If I ahead of time find out that his rapport with the family isn't stellar, he might as well hang it up because there will be no second date. Red flag! Just stop right there.

2.) If he walks around with his pants hanging off of his behind(not that there is anything wrong with that, if that's what you like), there will be no second date. That's just not for me. You don't have to walk around dressed like your going to the academy awards, but you need to look decent. You're an ADULT now. Red flag.

3.) If he's not chivalrous. Nope. No second date. Treat a woman like a woman and remember to open doors, and pull out seats. I know this is 2007 and times have changed, but mannerisms shouldn't. I know this may seem kind of mean or even silly, but so what? Chivalry is like totally dead and decaying.

4.) I would consider myself an intellectual kind of girl so if he's more preoccupied with what happened on 106 & Park or the latest version of Jordans that came out, he can count me out.

5.) If he's sarcastic. He might as well not even bother calling.

6.) If he stays in the mirror more than I do, I would be worried. True, you should care about your image, but my goodness.

7.) If he talks too much, there will be no second date.

8.) I can't stand emotional or whiny type guys. No female wants another female around so if he's a whiny brat that always finds something to complain about, he needs to stay away from me.

9.) If he indicates anything that would make me think he is controlling. Uh uh, that's not going to work. If he thinks he's going to control me, he's got the wrong sista!

10.) If he smokes, ummm, ewww! That's gross. Cancer sticks-bleh!

11.) If he's a momma's boy, he might as well stay there with his mommy and not bother me.

ummm yeah you're FAR from a gaint lol...I'm 5'10...6 ft plus with heels...unfortunately I would have to look down then over you little man...;)

I'm 5'3. Most of my boyfriends have been 6'1 or taller.

I like being a foot shorter than my date, honestly!

I guess my strikes also include smoking (I don't smoke anymore, so if you do don't come near me), spending more than 20% of the time looking below my neck (the only exception is if I have a stain on my shirt and you're trying to be subtle about telling me).

Hmm...guys who are total pushovers are a biggie. If the answer to every question is "Me, too" then forget it. I've worked hard to have my own mind. I don't want a guy who works hard to have my own mind.

PrettyBoy you're a little guy. I'm 5'7". I don't wear really high heels but the heels I do wear I would stilll be taller than you. We should start calling you PrettyshortBoy. LOL.:p

If he used "n$gger" at any point to anyone even as a joke...yellow flag. I generally don't like to hear people use it, no matter what race. If he used it directed at me: red flag. If he was a non-minority and used it at me: I wouldn't even say good bye as I headed out the door.

6ft in flats.....and I LOVE HEELS:D

Aren't you overreacting just a little? Metaphors are cool. I sometimes say I have "raven waves" or "creamy skin".

Perhaps it may be a pet peeve, but does it merit a RED FLAG? Shouldn't the term red flag be saved for true dealbreakers like "she does drugs" or "she's pressuring me to do things I do not feel comfortable with" or "she has absolutely no ambition other than to get a sugar daddy to buy her stuff"???

Nope. It's not overreacting at all. It's the small things I look for, that determine if she's right for me or if I'm right for her. Drugs are the last thing I look for. The small things put her in the friendship category way before I get to the drug use and alcohol abuse. And yes, that is a definite red flag. Now of course, if she's a druggy or a drunk, oh yeah, immediately she's done. I wouldn't even be friends with a woman like that. If she smokes weed or any kind of drug or drinks to get a buzz or drunk, she's history.

I've never heard anyone use raven waves or creamy skin. That wouldn't raise a negative flag. It's certain food and beverage comparing that raise them. "Olive" complexion would be o.k. too. It's just certain ones. Similar to the ones I mentioned above.

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Granted, I do agree that he is overreacting. But at the same time, metaphors like your examples aren't cool when it comes to describing oneself. Unless maybe you're writing poetry or something creative. Even then, terms like you used are sorta corny.

The way I see it, if you're having to describe yourself in the first place, you are obviously using either the internet or some sort of dating service, as people who have met in person, don't generally describe themselves to one another - so you're already "that person" anyway.

Oh snap!