My relationships have never worked out, that's why I'm skeptical about getting involved in another one. It must be me, because I can't figure out why they don't work.

Maybe you're picking the wrong girls. So it is you, if you are.

Its hard being a pimp - lol - Because there is such a shortage of available black men, women are always after men regardless of the fact that the man may be in a relationship. To that end, it can be challenging for many men to remain in committed relationships.

Bruh, you're joking with this, right?....

the pimp part, of course i'm joking - but not about women chasing men in relationships.

No I meant the "challenging for men to remain in committed relationships" because there are always availalble women part?

for me, the key is what type of "man" we really want to be, and how quickly and surely we come to understand what we want. Sure, we all play the "get all you can get while you can get it" game. Women play it too. Emotional maturity shows a man -- or it should, anyway -- that life, and relationships are about depth, intensity, the recognition that a relationship that is good and fulfilling is well worth the "allure" of what's still out there, what we've been chasing all our lives up until the point of our maturity.

I just do not think my ability to be "committed" is affected by who else is after me. If I make the decision to make it "good in my house," then it doesn't matter who is down the street waiting for an opportunity.

This is just what I'm talking about - - - for me, it has nothing to do with my maturity. Its about why women are always after men that are not available. I'm just like the next man, sometimes I'm weak and give in to having conversations with women when I should just keep moving. At these times, I set myselft up for trouble.

I was on a visit to Atlanta, and although I know that Atlanta ain't the best city to try to be focused in, the women were rolling up trippin'. It's hard man. Anyway, I came across some women who just didn't give a damn. Some were married, and most weren't. I was with some of my Bruhs, and oh boy, my newly married Sands' would show the women his ring and then he'd say, "oh, I'm married" and some women were like, "so, I didn't ask you that". I was like, okay. The world can be a debauched place, but, its all about the character of both the man and the woman, and ultimately, the role that Christ plays in their lives.

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Tony, this is why I loves you man!

Professor, I'm sure it's hard, but it's not impossible. You can only control you. Not a thing in the world you can do about these women. Don't even try to figure out why they are rolling up on you. YOU JUST DO THE RIGHT THING! So whether you have to walk away or RUN AWAY, then you need to do so. Don't even get caught up. As your frat (TonyB) loves to say, "don't start none, won't be none".

What's the saying about character? It's doing the right thing even when no one is looking.

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I have always been taught that "the way you get a person, will be the same way you loose them..." meaning, if she is married and throwing it at you, then she will do you the same way with some other man. About the ATL situation, since I have ties to the ATL, I can say, women in the ATL are very aggressive and confident. They will roll up in the parking lot!

The Truth...
 

I have always been taught that "the way you get a person, will be the same way you loose them..." meaning, if she is married and throwing it at you, then she will do you the same way with some other man. About the ATL situation, since I have ties to the ATL, I can say, women in the ATL are very aggressive and confident. They will roll up in the parking lot![/quote]



Bruh, I agree with you 100%, the women in Atlanta are on a different level. The ratio of male to female is like, less than 1 male for every 21 females, and then you have to figure into that equation, all of the different semantics of what we as a people are facing down there, from that Down Low shit, to the number of incarcerated males, to the number of men who are married but are cheating, to that lower numeric of males who are single and trying to take care of business. It's such a rough game. Nationally and statistically though, its the worst place for "us" to be married. That's pretty bad considering how much we are interwoven into the fabric of the city, but, I think that the many different facets to how we're living down there, is negatively impacting what could be an awesome place for us to converge with our beautiful sisters, and to make families and to live progressively.
Let me ask you this though Bruh. In regards to people schooling us that, "the way we get them is the way we'll lose them", does that mean that we should anticipate that it's inevitable that we are going to lose them, regardless of what we do, how hard we work, or how much we love them? What's the truth, mang?

the7th

I think that is meaning, that if you get a woman who is still in a relationship, then if she is cheating to be with you, then she will sooner or later cheat on you!

Onnnnnnnnnnn the next episode of 'Black Men Revealed'... :p :D :cool:

LOL

Ahhh blast from the past threads...

ahh, here come them signifying AKAs :rolleyes: .if they wasn't so dayum fine ...:p

Is it better to have loved and lost, then never too have loved at all?Try this one on for size, I was in a relationship for five years and thought I had the real deal but in hindsight it was wrong from the beginning-why because it was not of God. As someone stated earlier you will know if someone is right if you look at that person's character. Sometime we don't because were caught up into how that person looks or makes us feel. Mr. Fine or Miss Fine may not be the right one! How do you know if they are the right one-there are signs from the beginning. In how that person behaves and or lives love is blind, we should be more discerning.

Selections...
 

Bruh,

I feel you on this one. Sounds like, you need to stop being the President of your selection committee and you need to hand the reigns over to God. He'll work His magic. Too, what are you asking for, specifically Bruh? If you don't make it specific, He won't know what your needs are, mang. Just have faith Bruh. He'll get you what ya need. He always does.

the7th

oh my....
 

Wow...never knew this was America's number 1 topic.

Just joined and saw this in the frat's section. Heated convo eh?

This is the way I see it. There's a poem I'm sure we all had to memorize/learn/live with by the name of Inviticus which I will use to argue my point of view

"Out of the darkness that covers me
Black as the pit from pole to pole
I thank whatever gods maybe
for my UNCONQUERABLE SOUL."

-The human spirit is quite strong. However we, as human, don't truly live up to our potential. We were made in the image of God....nuff said.

"In the fell cluthes of circumstance
I have not winched nor cried aloud.
In the bludgeoning(check my spelling) of chance
My head is BLOODIED BUT UNBOWED."

-Whoever said it'd be easy. Blood, sweat, and tears come from experience. Sometimes we have to make a mistake in order to never do it again. In defense of the Six that made the mistake(Professor), I say that we all have the potential to cheat provided that we are put in the right place at the right time. Never said it was right though. Again, we are human.

"In this place of wrath and tears
Looms the horror of the shade.
And yet the menace of the years
Finds me and shall FIND ME UNAFRAID."

-Be a man or woman and face the consequences of your decisions. It's a part of maturity.

"It matters not how strait the gate
How charged with punishment the scroll
For I AM THE MASTER OF MY FATE
and the CAPTAIN OF MY SOUL."

-One of God's greatest gifts to mankind/womankind is the power of choice. Please use it wisely.

And it's not just to the brothers either. This is to women too! I've been burnt before. And I never cheated in my life!! Stop this idiotic cycle of pain and frustration here and now please.
That's my 6 cents!:cool:

Hilarious!

Cheating men will get caught eventually. Maybe not by the original cheated, but maybe by a lately cheated... Women cheat too. I don't know if they are fundamentally similar in tactics or different in outcomes? But, bottom line, humans have high infidelity wired into our systems. It is the same with the chimpanzee. Whereas, the gorilla males generally have 2 mates only and always...

Survival of the fittest...

But if we are talking about love, a trule erotic deep love shared by a husband and wife before God and all that good stuff, then the room for cheating is a spiritual infraction and blasphemy before God. If one in the relationship can live a lie to his or herself and enjoy deception and become demonic by adding things that ought not be present in a Shiva/Shakti relationship, then hey, I hope they can live with themselves...

I can tell, you in my marriage, I have no control if my husband cheats on me. But those are things I do not hope to happen. However, if it did, because I made the commitment myself to not cheat on him, so he'd be the one cheating, then I hope he is happy with his life without me. And I will move on.

I have been with a cheater before I was married. I know what one looks like and the behavior. That is not a life I wish to pursue.

I never cheated, but if all the cool kids are doing it, I feel like I am missing out. :(

Temptation From Outside Pulling The Inside
 

Yes, Sir, Professor, I concur: it's a pickle of a situation from a man's point of view.

Women can be dangerous to a man because they appeal to the very basic part of our nature: our desire to mate/breed.

As an almost married man, I see traps with beautiful eyes, hair, smiles, and body parts everyday. What keeps me out of trouble is the yucky feeling and consequences that could result from becoming intimate (either emotional or sexual); it's both divine (1 Thessalonians 4:1-13) and earthly.

Keep Smiling:)

YES! One.is.enough. And sometimes too much! Anything more than one...is a headace!

finally - an honest answer - lol

Some men don't need an excuse to cheat...they just do it.:rolleyes:

Ditto. :)

That's the unfortunate part. God made us to be emotional, forgiving beings. So we're more willing to compromise or work it out.


BUT...

Let us cheat on our man! Oh my goodness, there will be hell to pay.

lol :p

I agree. I used to keep taking my X back after his cheating ways, but I wouldn't do that now. I would just move on. It would be hard but I think I could do it.

You are so right and that's the sad part.:rolleyes:

Speaking on behalf of my soror, who I will not name...RIP. Her fiance' cheating on her while they were dating. He dropped his side lover when they got engaged. The side lover got mad and killed my soror........so is it really worth it? People are crazy you just go around cheating on people. They snap...Think before you do. It's not always that easy. You reap what you sow. It'll come back to you 10x. And why would you want to cheat on someone you love?:confused:

Usually I find that when a person cheats, it's often due to some type of deficiency they have themselves and they look to fill it with someone else.

Very well said, PB. And while that sounds so logical to you, me and others, other people don't grasp that concept. That's just the way it is unfortunately.