Thank you for posting that link. It was HIGHLY entertaining. :) I dont knwo how I missed that the first time around! :)

Must have been twins separated at birth.....er, hatching....

This is also true for Kappa. I told my girls up front that me being their mama would only get them back in the door of the Kappa house for the second round, but then after that, they would be on their own.

Actually, I think I told each when she was in 9th grade that I could not "get her in" a sorority, that she needed to make sure the ladies in town liked her and would be willing to rec her before they went off to college. I was doing my part, but they had to do their part too. As a result, I think they learned a lot at a younger age.

I read the first couple of pages of that thread. I snorted some water outta one of my nostrils!

I just felt the urge to bump it. Too bad OTW isn't still here. I never enjoyed her tormenting a pleebe so much, and think I had a few snorting spells too.

AnchorAlumna-thanks for the info about the news! I guess with all of the girls, this is just like a major sporting event! I am still learning and appreciate all of the information on this board!

Thanks Again!

Just got a text from my daughter & she got 9 invitiations for Philanthropy Day!! I'm so excited!! Her best friend got 10 & her roommate got all 11 she ranked!! Proud of all the girls!! Good luck to all the Bama PNMs & their Moms!!

My daughter got 8 invites for Philanthropy day and I don't know what they are yet. Looking forward to hearing!

That's great TideMom! Congrats to your daughter & all the other PNMs!

heard from mine too...11. she's already having a tough time..she likes everybody!

My daughter sent a quick text...full schedule only dropped by 1 of her picks. She had said the day before her girl at that house was hard to talk to, so she was expecting this. D is looking forward to visiting all the houses again, even the one pick-up off her drop list.

By the looks of GC posts, there are a lot of happy girls in Bama today.

Anyone heard if the number of PNM's is holding up? There are usually quite a few resignations at this point.

All the Bama girls seem to be doing really well. My daughter is on the other side of rush (yes I still call it that. Recruitment sounds like they are going in the military!) and they did 23 parties the first 2 days! Brutal! If it was like the year my daughter went thru (2008) expect MAJOR cuts after Philanthropy round. But as everyone on here always says. You can only join one sorority so in the end one is all you need!

Well, I was going to hold out posting but I think I need moral support. Lost my old username so I registered. Have two PNMs in my life rushing--one at Bama, one at AU. The Bama PNM is a dear friend and the Auburn PNM is a cousin. Auburn PNM seems to be doing well. Bama PNM was only invited back to 4 today. She's handling it well but there's not much room for more cuts. I've had the "only takes one," "they're all good," talk to try to offer support. I think she's disappointed but I think she's realistic as well. Not great grades but should have met the cutoff on most. Will keep you all posted and am so proud of the other PNMs--it's a tough week!!!!

I agree and we're dealing with somoene who hasn't been groomed her whole life to be in a sorority like many of these girls. So I knew going in there would be some challenges with grades, right things to say, etc. I have just tried to be her #1 cheerleader but realistic with her and prepared her for this situation. FINGERS CROSSED EVERYONE and thanks so much for the support. Can't wait to see where everyone goes.

Throwing some hugs your way!

This is a very tough time for so many people. It is not just the young ladies that feel it, but also mom/dad/siblings/extended family/friends etc. It is a long chain that the process takes its toll on. We can't all get what we want or hope to go where we want to go.

"It only takes one" and "they're all good" doesn't always work in every single case. The process does work, but not for everyone no matter how openminded young ladies are.

I hope there is happiness in the end for your pnms:)

I heard from my daughter and she had 10! Has already been to one house that she didn't think was for her, but was pleasantly surprised after her visit today. I told her it seems to always work out for the best and just keep smiling! Glad to see so many happy moms today! This is much more nerve racking than I could ever imagine!!!

I have decided that it might be better for dd to go to college where there is no AXO chapter. I'm having a hard time getting through this week and it is only volleyball tryouts! I feel for all of you Moms out there. I think I would need an IV drip of comos or something to get through it.

Holding hand up as a guilty-as-charged mom. It's definitely a bit of a surreal experience ... but I was a fast learner when I moved to Alabama before my daughters were born. What do they say? When in Rome?

Best of luck to your PNM.

When in Rome for sure--I don't blame those moms at all and had one to a degree. Which helped. Thanks so much for everyone's supports. More info to come.

I have two girls that I am really close to that are rushing at Bama. Both of them received a full schedule of 11 parties. One of the girls received invitations from all but one, the other girl received all but three. So far, so good in Ttown!

so how heavy should we expect the cuts to be for the next round?

11==>?
9 ==>?
7 ==>?

They can go back to 7 skits at most.

[QUOTE=BSCAXOalum;1966696]Well, I was going to hold out posting but I think I need moral support. Lost my old username so I registered. Have two PNMs in my life rushing--one at Bama, one at AU. The Bama PNM is a dear friend and the Auburn PNM is a cousin. Auburn PNM seems to be doing well. Bama PNM was only invited back to 4 today. She's handling it well but there's not much room for more cuts. I've had the "only takes one," "they're all good," talk to try to offer support. I think she's disappointed but I think she's realistic as well. Not great grades but should have met the cutoff on most. Will keep you all posted and am so proud of the other PNMs--it's a tough week!!!![/QUOTE

sending you crossed fingers and moral support. how lucky she has you to help her through it.

[QUOTE=Tuuthfairy;1966780][QUOTE=BSCAXOalum;1966696]Well, I was going to hold out posting but I think I need moral support. Lost my old username so I registered. Have two PNMs in my life rushing--one at Bama, one at AU. The Bama PNM is a dear friend and the Auburn PNM is a cousin. Auburn PNM seems to be doing well. Bama PNM was only invited back to 4 today. She's handling it well but there's not much room for more cuts. I've had the "only takes one," "they're all good," talk to try to offer support. I think she's disappointed but I think she's realistic as well. Not great grades but should have met the cutoff on most. Will keep you all posted and am so proud of the other PNMs--it's a tough week!!!![/QUOTE

Oh that is really hard for your Bama girl. As you mentioned it is likely based on GPA this early. Did she have recs to all the houses? Around 1640 went through ice water teas Monday and Tuesday and those numbers are so huge that cuts are just going to happen. I hope she has a good day today and tomorrow and she has an enjoyable skit day. I'm sure you are doing a great job keeping her spirits up. Just remind her not to "tent talk" about her parties, etc. etc. Keep us posted.

Cuts are extremely heavy after Philanthropy Days - this is when many "courtesy return invites" will be cut. The girls go from a Maximum of 11 parties to a Maximum of 7 returns to Skit to a Maximum of 3 Pref parties. So, they will get their Skit day lists Friday morning and this will be narrowed down considerably. My daughter went through last year, and I so well remember sitting by the phone waiting for her messages. It MAY be harder on the Mommas!!!!!!

From an unbiased perspective, What are some pros AND cons about being in a sorority. I know you make friends, help the community, attend events, etc... list any non-obvious pros. And I would love to know some CONS!

I spoke with a friend today and asked if she would ever think about rushing and she said no, because she didnt want someone bossing her around and telling her where to be and at what time. And also she didn't want people telling her what to wear. Is this true in a sorority?

i understand that the max is 7, so the 11 party girl will probably just go down to 7.

what about the girl who only had 7 or 8 parties for today and tomorrow. how many would she likely be invited to for the next round? 3? 4?

i haven't followed this in the past, so i have no idea what the norm is.

what is a courtesy return invite?

Bama.mom, she had some recs but I don't think she took that seriously enough. Again, I didn't get ahold of the situation until about a month ago and she was scurrying to get everything. But there's only so much you can do/say. She just didn't know what to expect but hopefully she can salvage something.

A courtesy return invite is an invitation that might be extended to a girl because her mother or sister is in the group or maybe other relationships to members in the group. Some groups policies require certain girls to be invited to at least one invitational round, which here would be philanthropy. After that, the group may release her if they aren't really interested in offering her membership.

I don't think there's any formula you can use to guess about invites from round to round because groups make their big releases at different rounds. It's possible that a girl with only four invites could be invited back to all four* for the rest of recruitment. Or it's also possible that as those four groups make releases, she could gradually be cut over time. The best plan is just to see it through and try to like the places you are invited back to.

*ETA: well I mean those four might not cut her; she could only get invites to the maximum number of pref parties which is fewer than four. sorry.

The thing is, there really is not a "norm". She should get back invitations to skit, but it could be to her top houses or bottom houses or some combo in between. The sororities make their cuts as do the PNMs. It is definitely a put your best foot forward, keep smiling, and be confident kind of week. GOOD LUCK!

I heard earlier this afternoon from my aunt that my cousin's daughter got 11 invitations back for Philanthropy Day :-) She's having so much fun & other than sore feet she had no complaints. I think all PNM's are actually getting use to the terrible T-town heat. I've been told they have plenty of water available & that's good because we didn't have any back in my day & it was sweltering!!

Good Luck to the PNM's & those mama's...please keep us posted...I just love reading how everyone is doing & look forward to hearing happy Bid Day stories!!!

please keep us updated about your cousin's daughter, too!

Just heard from one of my girls and she had a great day. She is aware that big cuts come after this round, so she is trying to find several that she could see herself in and not putting her eggs in one basket. She is most concerned about her roommate, who only received 5 invitations back and is terribly upset.

Good Lord, I hope she never gets a job in the real world or she is in trouble with these types of issues.

With regard to a sorority, I prefer not to answer because I think you are not legit...

I think you can meet some CONS in prison.

Nobody tells me what to do, I'm sorry that your friend thinks she would allow herself to be manipulated

Maybe she has bad taste in clothes

You think I'm not legit? What is that supposed to mean? Here's a little info about me:
I'm going to be at Bama next year. I hear that sororities are a big deal at most SEC schools. I don't know many sorority girls and I don't have any family that went Greek, so I do not know that much about what it is like. From what I can tell it is alot of dressing up and going to formals, parties, etc. I also know sororities do community service. I have a few friends that are rushing right now and that's kinda what got me interested in the whole Sorority thing. I'm just not sure what the pro's and con's are. In other words, what are the good and bad things? I know people that are in a sorority do not want to say bad things about their sorority, but I honestly just want to know. I'm not particularly asking what is bad about your sorority, but more like what is the less attractive side of sorority life. If I'm going to be paying money to be in a sorority (if I were to get a bid), I don't want to regret it. That's why I'm asking. No disrespect, I just don't know much about what a sorority is like. I'd really appreciate your help/input.

To answer your question missblonde, one "bad" side of sorority life might be that they can be superficial. For example, my daughter is rushing at Bama now and got cut from one house because of my occupation. I have heard of this before. I am an artist, and that is not what they are looking for.

Every sorority experience is different. You will like some girls in the house, and there will be some that you are not as close to. It's a life long decision decided upon by mutual agreement over about 2 hours worth of meeting and putting your best face forward called rush. Not the most ideal way to choose friends.

But very exciting and it can help make your way a bit easier in the big university.

Sorority life is a lifestyle and it is not for everyone. I wish you luck as you move forward!

I also have a question for the Mom's on this forum - anyone know anything about dues? There has been a little talk in my daughter's Rho Chi group about fees and the Rho Chi cannot give any specific information, just averages. There was talk that one sorority was $3500 per semester; again, the Rho Chi could not say which one.

Is this kind of like, "if you have to ask about money, you can't afford to be there"?

When I went through rush in the mid 80's at another school, Panhellenic put out a sheet with all the sorority costs listed. It was extremely helpful in planning.

Anyone willing to share?

How would you know that your daughter is cut due to your occupation?