Originally Posted by 2GQ4U
(Post 1659415)
Really, go back to some of my old comment if you still can, I think some of them are still quoted. I did not become hostile and defensive until I was attacked and ganged up on by the majority of the people on this board. I came here humbly asking a question and I then learned I was wrong for some of my tactics, apologized, but the verbal assault continued, so i began to defend myself. The way that I defended myself was wrong, and I often posted without thinking, but it is almost like my constant apologies for things i realized i did wrong, and thank you's to the couple people that helped me went unnoticed. And I think what I was really expecting in this situation was constructive criticism. I asked a question that was out of line, ok, I apologized, what more can I do? Are the constant "lock" comments necessary? Does someone need to question my desire to become a member? I felt that what should have happened was someone to tell me "No, that question is out of line." Even a "none of your business" would have sufficed, either one of those would have been better than some of the pointless responses that were posted. I received two offers for help from people on this board. One was from the Kappa that told me to message him (who never wrote back) and the other was from an anonymous board member, who i think never even posted in the thread, that ended up telling me everything that i needed to know and then some... other than that, there was nothing... I am successfully enrolled in college and will be attending in the fall, on a full athletic scholarship, so its not like I have Kappa dreams and am not going to college... I graduated with a 3.84 GPA and am a member of the National Honor Society, so I get my work done in the classroom... I was not concerned with the Academic requirements because I know that they will not be an issue... You are right though, I do need to work on how I take criticism because when I am put in the position where I feel I need to be defensive, I become aggressive, and nothing gets accomplished... And please believe me, I have done my research, if the answers to my question were as easy to answer as searching on Google or this site, I would never have posted... But they weren't, so I did, and I wish you would have told me "if you cannot find it, it is not your business to know" in the first place... To the elder sorority member who I have offended, I am extremely sorry, I really do mean that... I allow my attitude to overpower my mind sometimes and do not think before I speak.. But please, aside from all of the "debating" can you please give me whatever constructive criticism you feel appropriate because you really do seem like someone that I can learn a lot from... I just want to know what I should be doing so I don't ruin my chances..
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