Best of luck to your daughter. I would not have inferred you were inquiring about GPA requirements, philanthropy, dues and socials from the question "What's your own personal take ... with each sorority?" I think any reasonable person would infer you were asking ASU students and alumni about their personal experiences with the sororities. And personal experiences with the sororities would likely be inferred as personal interactions with members, as the average person really isn't paying attention to other sororities' dues and GPA and volunteer requirements.

So from that, I don't see how the original question you posted was misread. Most of the posters who responded gave an answer that any reasonable person would give, whether they are an ASU student, a student at OU, Duke, an alum or a parent of a member. I regret that you feel you have been treated poorly, but the recommendation that we "need to get a life" is a bit out of line. I do take offense to that and so would many others.

Your daughter will learn all of these things at recruitment, in addition to getting a feel for each chapter. For now, she may call ASU's Office of Greek Life/Panhellenic Council to get some basic information over the phone regarding dues and GPA requirements. Most of the sororities have national and chapter web sites. She can get a better feel for the individual events and such. She will learn all about these, as well as volunteer requirements, during recruitment.

This is really insulting. If you are seeking to become a member of this online community, please curb the generalized attacks. People will be more inclined to want to assist you. That being said, welcome to Greek Chat. Please check out the below linked thread in my sig for a "Recruitment 101" post of anything and everything your daughter might like to know about recruitment in general. Any questions she has specific to ASU are best asked by an official representative of ASU sorority recruitment-- the Panhellenic Council at the university. Anything told to you by a member of Greek Chat is not bona fide information. This being the internet, you never truly know if you are actually talking to someone who is as credible as they claim. Be very careful of this, and make sure to verify information with an official source. Nothing on a message board is gospel!

All the best to you and your daughter as she begins college. ASU is a wonderful school with a great Greek System.

I've got this Buck Cherry song stuck in my head..."crazy bitch..."

Now, you must make your girls proud Alex....lol What sorority do you belong to? Can you say scary? Just playin w/ya....:)

The Panhellenic Creed

We, as Undergraduate Members of women's fraternities, stand for good scholarship, for guarding of good health, for maintenance of fine standards, and for serving, to the best of our ability, our college community. Cooperation for furthering fraternity life, in harmony with its best possibilities, is the ideal that shall guide our fraternity activities.

We, as Fraternity Women, stand for service through the development of character inspired by the close contact and deep friendship of individual fraternity and Panhellenic life. The opportunity for wide and wise human service, through mutual respect and helpfulness, is the tenet by which we strive to live.


Those of us who belong to a group in the NPC recognize that all of our organizations have a rich tradition and history. All of our organizations have stellar chapters and chapters that struggle. All of our organizations have certain expectations in common: Philanthropy, Scholarship, and Maintaining high ideals of womanhood. Therefore, in the Panhellenic spirit, we are not going to dish out "dirt" on any chapter at any university on a public internet forum. Additionally, the stereotypes that usually conveyed in response to a question such as your original question are usually wrong, like all stereotypes.

The best thing for your daughter to do is to go through recruitment, meet the women, think about which groups she feels connected with and attempt to get a bid from one of those groups through the formal recruitment system. It is kind of like buying a new house.. all houses have the same basic structure, but for some reason, when you walk into the right one, you know it.

As per your original post, highlighted in bold so you won't miss it:

So let me get this straight, you wanted our own personal takes on the good or bad volunteer opportunities? The good and bad fees? The good and bad GPA requirements? Um...yeah. I'm not buying the bullshit you're trying to sell us. You had every intention to come here and hear generalizations about the chapters (which you have a hard time understanding, logic tells us that chapters are made up by the women who are in the chapter)-which chapters are "good" and which chapters are "bad." You can try to backtrack now, and any sucker that believes you & wants to befriend you over it is fine by me, but don't be mad that we were sincere, honest, & polite with you when we told you that your question was impolite & tactless. If you don't want to hear the truth then don't post HERE!



Sometimes it doesn't matter how nicely you say something, compared to how some people get treated on this board we rolled out the red carpet for this helicopter mom.

No kidding. I've been trying to play nicer, seriously.

Had I know what a bitch this woman was going to be, I wouldn't have bothered with the niceties.

ETA: I think the reason (for future newbies' reference) why she "got the red carpet rolled out" is because, even though her question was inappropriate, she was still polite (at first) about it, and took the time to form spesfic questions. Unlike the huge amount of post-and-runs we get on here that start a thread saying "Tell me the reputations of the chapters at State U". I really believe that people get out of their answer what they put into their question. You make and effort, we make an effort. However, there are still certain questions, such as this one and NPHC membership questions, that never have and never will be answered here on GC, no matter how nicely the question is wrapped up.

I do indeed make my sorority and my sisters proud or I would never have gotten a bid :) I also know they're highly amused by my previous post.