Yep, I think we understand each other. Other people don't agree, and that's okay. Many people do just as you recommended, but I foolishly chose a user name when I registered that provided more info. than in retrospect was really wise or necessary, not that there have been any problems that I know of. If I had it to do all over again, I think I would have made my campus and group affiliation less obvious.

I agree with some others that it's foolish to stereotype a group based on one person's actions or ideas, especially one on an anonymous message board, but I also know that how I regard groups is at least somewhat based on the people who I know in the group and how they act. Why chance the impression you're making of you and your group, over someone's reaction to the advice you gave? People will find out soon enough whether you know of what you speak. That's all I meant originally.

Just a heads up: I suspect that this might get ugly/uglier because Tom has joined the thread. I'm not trying to make you shut up, but I'd just let it go, unless you just want dramatic and hostile back and forth over not much.

Hostile towards me or other GC-ers...I don't really understand what he posted, the sentences don't make sense. But I've seen enough signatures that include his name to know that I don't want any part in the battle between him and others. Theres already enough drama/hostility over nothing in this thread.

Does he normally post on Sorority recruitment threads? Seems rather odd.

Oh he's the resident self-proclaimed expert on all things sorority and Alumnae Initiation.

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I don't know much about things Greek...but is it normal for a guy to claim he is an expert in things pertaining to sororities?

And does he normally drink before he types?

ROFLMAO

This thread finally got fun! lol

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Sadly my initial thoughts after reading it was "Vicuious...now what the hell does that mean?!". *grabs dictionary*

ROFLMAO!!!

People who have been here for a long time, like Sandy and I, remember when GC WAS happy pony rainbow land. There was nothing but positive encouragement offered, no matter the PNM's particular situation. Then those PNMs came back devastated because they didn't get bids. We learned our lesson. I used to say "junior? LSU? 2.0? Go for it!" I would NEVER say that now, not without a disclaimer.

If you went on collegeconfidential or other college entrance info type MBs and said "Hey! I have a 1.9 and have never been in any extracurricular activities, and I want to go to Harvard!" people would tell you very quickly that your chances were practically nil. That doesn't mean you would never go to college because all those people in college are so mean.

Please check out my signature. He tries to call me out on it everytime I post. It's getting to be quite funny.

let's keep on topic..ok?

I'm some what confused on this :confused: If I'm answering this question with complete misunderstanding to what you typed, I apologize in advance. I guess I'm not sure which your implying, that I am not considering Greek because of this thread, or that I'm not going to college because of this thread. Either way, its a wrong assumption. I never asked for it to be constant encouragment, but I did ask for advice on a specific question, not opinions about my life. I'm still going to college.. I don't know if I'm still going to rush because I was never sure if I wanted to in the first place. I was seeking out more information on it, and thats all. I don't recall coming onto GC with "OMG I SO WANT TO BE A SORORITY GIRL!!! I JUST HAVE TO GET IN!! ITS MY WHOLE LIFE!!!" I completely agree you should be honest on here, don't sugar coat things, but there is a line between giving truthful advice and opinions on whats been asked, and giving negative opinions about a persons life and expecting them to be happy about it. It works both ways. You don't give me "happy pony rainbow land" advice because its wrong and ends up hurting people in the end, I respect and agree with that. I don't give "happy pony rainbow land" kiss ass answers back because its wrong. I'll never answer something that makes me angry or upset with "Wow, like, thank you sooo much for your hurtful comments! Like, you are so smart *twirls hair* " It's not me and its fake and people who do it are sucking up to you.

Yeah, you completely misread my post.

To summarize:

If you ask us, we will tell you. Some people more directly than others. If you give us information, we will assume you don't mind an analysis of it.

I'm guessing that the thing that upset you was people pointing out that while tough semesters and financial problems do happen to everyone, some of the things that happened to you seemed within your control.

There was a poster on here a while back who rejected a sorority for what seemed really lame reasons and I called her on it - once she clarified a little, it made more sense. But you have to realize all anyone has to go on is words on the screen. There's a difference between (example) "I transferred 4 times" and "I transferred 4 times because my father went into bankruptcy and I had to be living with him for him to get benefits and he moved from place to place to find jobs" or whatever.

If you can't take the scrutiny of posters on a MB, rush might be a very upsetting experience for you. Sororities ARE going to look at things like transferring multiple times.

Theres no problem with them looking into it, theres no problem with them asking about it. But as you've just said, they are going off of words on the screen. Making assumptions about a persons charactor or integrity based on a few words in a thread is rediculous. And you won't find any person with a brain who would take it with a smile. There are contributing factors to why I changed schools that I will not ever put on GC. They are personal and no one here needs to know them, if it comes down to it in recruitment (if I decide to do it) then I'd talk about it. There is no need to post every single bit of information about me on this site in order to ask a GPA question.

~Ok I just posted this and re read it and forgot to say thanks for clearing up the confusion about your post :) ~