You are the one who has missed the point entirely. I applaud people who go back to school to get a degree. It's no easy feat, especially when you have a family. 33girl's point was that sororities are an additional and substantial time commitment, one that would be too great for moms at most campuses.

The poster didn't even mention if she was going to school full time or part time; if she is working while attending school (and if so, full time or part time), if she is married (if not, does she have full or partial custody), the ages of her children, the type of campus she is attending, the type of sorority that interests her, etc. All of those things will determine her eligibility, chances of receiving a bid, and chances that joining a sorority would work for all parties involved (slim to none).

I was initiated prior to my 18th birthday. My parents did not have to sign a consent for me to rush or get initiated. Of course, that was 1993...maybe things have changed.

"Mature? I'm 40 years old, you jackass. "

Umm..yeah, spoken like a mature woman there.

She mentioned wanting to join a sorority...and asked a bunch of sorority girls about it. To have you lay into her with out any more background on her situation does not reflect what I would expect from a 40 year old. So yeah, you sounded like a youngin'.

My response to her question was more inline with her question that your flippant attitude regarding what her priorities should be. As VIOLET later points out - in a sad attempt to back you up - we do not know her situation, whether she has a hubby, close family, a job or anything of the sort. Do not prejudge, lest you be judged yourself, darlin'.

Chemcat - Sockpuppet for no one. Too bad you think someone would have to put up a facade to face you and your fellow "sisters."

34. Single mother. Kicking ass in chemistry and mathematics. 3 kids UNDER THE AGE OF 12. And would want no sister of mine, to be anything like you.

^^^Don't believe.

Congratulations, Darlin'

This reminds me TOO MUCH of REACH THE ARBONNE!!!

Let me expand on that a little. I pointed out those factors because there are a very limited "alignment of the stars" where I think a mother would be able to feasibly join a social sorority.

I'll assume, perhaps incorrectly, for the sake of argument, that the poster is interested in NPC membership.

If she were going to a commuter school with lots of non-traditional students, not working (or working less than 20 hours a week), which presumes she is married to someone who is providing, or living with family who is providing, has significant help in caring for her children, then MAYBE.

If she is going to a big flagship state school, working more than 20 hours a week, and not getting any help with caring for her children, it's not going to happen.

NPC sororities require potential members to be full time students, so if she's not a full time student, she won't even be eligible.

The makeup of the campus (ie how many non-traditional students) will determine how realistic it would be for her to be considered. She would not have a shot at a campus that caters to traditional students.

I just don't see how anyone could possibly manage class + homework + studying + work + sorority obligations + kids + household chores. Oh yeah, and at least 4 hours of sleep per night would be good.

This isn't likely to be a matter of time management. Let's just be blunt that unless this is a very non-traditional campus, a bunch of 18-21 year-olds aren't likely to want to hang out with a 30 year old, and they get to pick.

Yep, exactly. We did have a 29 (I think) year old PNM on GC who joined an NPC at a small state school. But she wasn't a mom. And her case is pretty rare.

A sockpuppet would know how to use the quote feature, wouldn't it?

I actually thought about that too. But, maybe it's a sockpuppet that knows we would think that, and doesn't use the quote feature on purpose to look like a n00b.

A smart sockpuppet...

Irish is right on target with her last statement.

Which is why a referral to other groups is more of a productive statement than righting her off as having her priorities out of wack.

*sigh* You girls are sad.

Obviously not kicking ass in English.
The one about you being a smart sock puppet?:p

About Irish's "last statement."

..not the one about the sockpuppet, mindyou...bout the reason why a 30 year old would not be accepted...