I really don't want a wedding or a reception but if live-in's mother makes me have one (she gave me the evil eye the last time marriage was brought up because I told her I wasn't sold on the whole huge white wedding thing) I think I'd want karaoke at my reception, because eventually all my family weddings turn into that anyway.

So I suppose our first dance would be to my cousin's drunken rendition of "Bills Bills Bills."

My dad recommended Vegas, too. But I think he just wants an excuse to use his timeshare. I wonder how live-in would feel life I was like "No, we HAVE to get married this week in February because my dad won't be able to stay for free otherwise!!"

One of my sisters had a destination wedding in Jamaica. They had two attendants (MOH and Best man), then their immediate families were there. It looked BEAUTIFUL and they had a blast. Seems like the way to go.

I'd be happy with a Justice of the Peace though. If I end up regretting not having a big wedding down the line, that's what vow renewals/second husbands are for!

Live-in's mom is planning a huge wedding for her and her boyfriend. They're not engaged yet, but I'm sure they'll walk down the aisle before we do.

I suppose I should add that while she was giving me the evil eye for not wanting a big wedding shindig she also said "Oh but I would so love to take you wedding dress shopping, since your mom won't be with us."

Uh... talking about a potential wedding and/or during/before/after/around my wedding plans IS NOT THE TIME to remind me that my mom won't be there. You don't forget your mother passing ever. Thanks.

I so agree. DH and I wanted a small white shindig, and that's exactly what we had. We invited those family members we were close to, a few family friends on each side, and our friends. (MIL added a bunch of her friends to the guest list, but she paid for them.)

I once joked in front of MIL that DH and I were going to elope. MIL threw a tantrum worthy of a three-year-old. :rolleyes:

To steer this thread slightly back onto topic... The fact that we were having a small wedding was a big factor in our choice of band. The band we chose was not only really good (they played at a friend's wedding and we all but booked them on the spot), they adjusted their volume to the size of the venue. If you have fewer than 100 guests, you don't need a band that makes Metallica sound like a bunch of monks observing a vow of silence. Our band played at just the right volume - loud enough for dancing but not so loud that you couldn't hold a conversation.

No kidding!

As if you don't EVER think about that and need a reminder.

Right. She didn't mean any harm by it but it's hard for some people to imagine getting married and having kids without their mom there. She was much older when her mom passed. She also doesn't realize that my mom and I were very close, so we'd already talked a lot about making relationships work before she passed. I'll probably take her up on the kids advice, though. All my mom ever said about that is that she and my dad made sure to have settled careers before kids so they could afford them.

She's ok, she just needs eveyone's attention on her all the time. We get along well but if live-in and I had a big wedding, she'd drive me bonkers during the planning. If I wasn't positive that she actually did like me a lot I would worry more about her doing the really crazy MIL things, like wearing white to the wedding and insisting that live-in sit with her instead of me during the reception.

ETA: Sorry for the hijack. My song is a few posts back. Drunken Destiny's Child. Bonus points for it being a song about a man who did you wrong.

There's a not-at-all-startling lack of creativity in this thread so far.

You do have to dance to it, right? So why would "At Last" be a starkly better choice than, say, "Digital Love" by Daft Punk, which is actually a much more appropriate 'love song' for the occasion? It's like theknot.com has turned every f-ing wedding I go to into the exact same lame doppelganger party. I'll take the chicken, by the way.

You mean you don't want the beef?

Would you like mashed potatoes or roasted red skinned ones with green beans almondine?

Funny this thread was bumped, I was thinking of first dance songs this morning (not sure why). I really like Tim McGraw's "All We Ever Find".. it might be my top choice now for the big day, whenever that happens!

You know what I think would be great? That Ella Fitzgerald and Louie Armstrong duet, "Let's Call The Whole Thing Off."

First wedding: "Always" by Atlantic Starr (barf)
Second wedding: "All I Ask" from Phantom of the Opera, which was much more creative... I'm not sure I've heard it at another wedding as the first dance.

My Daddy/Daughter dance at both was "Color My World" by Chicago, one of my dad's favorite songs. I never considered myself "Daddy's Little Girl" and wasn't going there with that song. My relationship with my dad wasn't typical until the last 10 years or so.

FI and I thought about doing "All I Ask" from Phantom for our first dance. It was actually a really tough pick between that and the one we ended up deciding on ("Come what May" from Moulin Rouge). Our last dance at the reception will be "Thank You" by Dido.

My b/f and I have been together for 2 years, but I really doubt any engagement will happen soon.

One song of ours its "Somewhere Out There" from the movie "American Tail" by James Ingram and Linda Ronstadt. 3 months after we started dating, he was going to India for 3 months for a Hindi language program, and I was spending the summer in New Orleans doing an AmeriCorps VISTA volunteer program. One night before he left he showed me this song and was like these lyrics are what I think of when as we're going to be apart this summer. As a surprise I went and downloaded the song and put it on a CD to give to him right before he left.

There's a couple of other songs that I love, and sometimes, yes I am into the sappy love songs. Some of my favorites have already been mentioned on here. Others I like are "How Did I Fall In Love With You" by the Backstreet Boys, "I'll Be" by Edwin McCain, "This I Swear" by Nick Lachey, "I Could Fall In Love" by Selena, or "It's Your Love" by Tim McGraw and Faith Hill.

I am obsessed with Phantom of the Opera, so should I ever find the right guy, fat chance given my track record, I would want "All I Ask of You" to be our first dance. If not that, then Billy Joel's "Just the Way You Are" or, yes KSUViolet, "Broken Road."

I would have gone with "What's Your Fantasy?" by Ludacris.

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