I don't understand how someone can truly be "too nice." However, I don't like dating guys that I could take advantage of. Of course I want a guy to go along with things (if they are within reason) and he knows it will make me happy. But I couldn't be with a guy that agreed with everything I said or wanted to do.

I don't like a bad boy at all, though.
I think for most women it all boils down to accepting shit from men because that is all they think they can get.

no, the guys who complain about being to nice ARE soft. nothing to do with being nice.

My co-worker freaked out a few weeks ago because she was on an elevator and the men on the elevator got off before her. She said that in the south, men open doors for women, and wait for them to get off the elevator first, because that's how it's done. I was :rolleyes: at her freaking out so bad about not getting off the elevator first.

If the guy was nice to you, why would you try to take advantage of him? I think women like the bad boys just because, not because they think that's all they can get.

O.K. I agree.

I agree with your co-worker.

OMG. She wasn't saying she's a horrible person who would take advantage of someone when given the chance. She means that she wants a man who can stand up for himself, not "yes" her to death and have an opinion that isn't directly dependent on HER opinion. She doesn't want a guy who is a freaking doormat because IT'S NOT AN ATTRACTIVE QUALITY. I've heard plenty of guys say that they want the same thing in a woman, so this isn't only about men.

When I said nice guy, not one time did I say doormat or a nice guy is a guy who says yes and if you say jump he says how high. Why do women consider this a nice guy? I was reading all these post and virtually all of them describe a nice guy as being soft and a whimp. That's proof right there that most women believe that a nice guy is considered to be a whimpy mama's boy who can't make his own decisions. Ladies......this is not a nice guy. This is a boy not a man.

The difinintion that I have for a nice man is one who knows how to treat a lady like a gentleman should treat a lady, not one who can't make up his own mind.

A nice woman is a woman who not only respects herself, but one who has her own opinions and is able to make her own decisions and one who also wants a man that repsects her and treats her like a lady.

The bad boy is the player, user, and the one who disresprects women every chance he gets. Based on these post it seems to me that women feel this is the definition of a strong man.

just to reiterate.


you're looking WAY too much into it.

Seriously

KAY10 - No one has a problem with a guy who is 'nice' according to your definition. These guys tend to have success in dating. Unless, as I stated before, the guys are seeking out women who are superficial and have their own esteem issues to deal with. What women do have a problem with are guys who do fit the profile of soft or doormat. These are the guys who often run to every female friend that they have and ask why girls are leaving them for being 'too nice'. This further solidifies their 'soft-ness' b/c this lack of self-confidence and need for affirmation is even more unattractive.

I think you should calm down.

KAY10

I married a nice guy and I used to date a whole bunch a thugs.

The reasons why: because at least I'd expect the thug to do me wrong. Maybe 'cuz of poor self-esteem on my part, maybe because I thought I was less deserving. Whatever the reasons. The fact that I wasted my time and psyche with fools who cared less about me.

But then, there's this thing about "God's time". Well, I wasn't on His time and I had to wait. I tried to force it, but it never worked or it worked for the worst.

Then, I had a "paradigm shift", short of a "revelation" from God. And that's when I met my now husband...

So, I think you've got to give some time to growing up and experiencing life before you "settle down" with someone you make your spouse. Slow down, homey...

Also, the flip side of your question:

Why is it that bruhs only like fake heifered strippers with no clothes on and 10 inch hells. That have 5 kids from 7 different baby's daddies. Living in the bottom with no direction in life but ho'ing?

And don't say she lookeded real good up in the club after a few drinks...

Monet, girl, ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D

No. You are completely wrong. If you got that from the posts above then you should really go back and re-read them. It seems to me like you've decided that you have all women pegged....so there's really nothing any of us can say to change your mind. Good luck to you.

Why women like bad boys...
 

Bad boys are just more fun period. Women get excited about a man whos behaviour is a bit random. They dont know what to expect from them.