So it's different to make fun of people for having wedding receptions at White Castle in the ghetto weddings thread, but if someone came and posted in the D&R forum about wanting to have his/her wedding reception at White Castle you wouldn't nitpick at those details?

Yeah...I got that. Thanks! :rolleyes:

Anyway, I haven't nit picked...only answered the question that was stated. Did u miss that post? Additionally, perhaps I am a bit pretentious. *shrug* Doesn't change the fact that if you look back at some of our wedding thread, these 'ladies' have attacked some of the ideas/customs/traditions/whatever with a nastiness and cruelty that is unrivaled.

You'll want to reread my post for the portion that discussed extremes versus small details. Of course we'd call someone out for asking what the board thought about having a wedding at White Castle. While, I'm not sure that I'd be as nasty as some of the people on here about even something THAT off color, I would definitely discourage it. However, when I read one poster say "Oh we had a dollar dance at my wedding." or "I sent out a registry announcement in my invitations." and the next post says something to the tune of "That is the MOST tacky thing I have ever heard of someone doing. I absolutley hate it when people do that, and they simply don't deserve to get married." then I have to say that you should limit your wedding questions to those who know you, your situation, and have similar thoughts/traditions as yourself.

I think she was saying that that other thread highlighted some extreme wedding no-nos that the average person would deem inappropriate. Fighting at weddings and nuptials at McDonald's are fine if that's what you want to do, but the general consensus is that those things are crazy.

However, wedding advice on and off the web should be taken with a grain of salt. Some folks will think it's okay to put gift registry stuff on the invite and others won't. As long as you aren't getting married at Burger King, you will be fine with whichever you choose and be able to ignore the naysayers.

This is true, and I will own up to being hyper-critical (but really, I'm like that about all social events and social etiquette--even funerals!). I remember reading one post where a member basically said that a wedding has to have a band. That, to me, was beyond the pale and is beyond being nitpicky--that's just classist. I may make a big deal about brides inviting people to the shower and not to the wedding, or about registry cards in the invitations, or people registering for anvil loppers, but I try not to be classist about my proclivities. After all, not many people can afford $40K weddings...

The most elaborate wedding I attended commenced the shortest marriage; meanwhile, my parents went to the JP and just celebrated their 35th. Food for thought...

Speaking of anvil loppers, I heard that she and plastic sawhorse served sheetcake at their wedding.

OH TEH HORROR.

I've been noticing this for some time now. The other thing I've noticed is that when a couple develops a "you & me against the world" attitude towards their marriage, hardly anything can break them up (elaborate wedding or not!).

This is a gay thread.

-Rudey
--In fact I bet this gay thread is having sex right now with another gay thread.

That is completely your right. Honestly, my wife and I had a more "traditional" wedding; we got married at our Episcopal church in Boston, invited a whole bunch of family (and some friends), and had the reception at a ballroom in town. It was traditional, big (we have huge, close families), and just right for us. On the other hand, my parents got married in Vegas, and they've been married over 30 years. Larger weddings don't necessarily mean the relationship is doomed, small weddings don't mean that the people have their priorities straight, and vice-versa...

I tend to think of a wedding as a very personal experience, and I think during the planning phases you can be very sensitive to other's feelings on the matter. That's why I didn't go near this forum while we were planning, and I don't think it's a good idea for others in the planning stages to read the posts. You're bound to find someone calling your wedding plan "tacky," "over-the-top," or a waste of money.

People have the right to be as picky as they want, but I think in most cases the posts on this board are the last things people want or need to hear about their own wedding.

Tacky is as tacky does. You aren't invited anyway, so you won't be getting a piece of me!

gift registry
 

As a college student, I appreciate having a little (printed) note inside the invitation with registry details. It just makes things easier on the guest. Should I go to Target? Bed, Bath, and Beyond? Where? It might not be etiquettely correct, but if it looks nice, I don't see any problem with it.

I actually had a couple of friends who got married, and the bride-to-be didn't want to say where they were registered. People actually said that was a bad / silly idea (I guess - what's the point of registering if people don't know where you are at / what to buy for you?).

Anyways, my sweetie was the best man. :D The end.

My roommate informed me that she received an invitation to a wedding at the "Hitchin' Post" chapel, via a MYSPACE BULLETIN. There will also be "a ragin' kegger" afterwards.

I think a MySpace bulletin is pretty damn tacky.

DING DING DING DING!

WE HAVE A WINNER!!!!

So some of you might remember my infamous cousin who refused to invite the family to her wedding b/c his wealthy family wasn't used to being around people like us (Latino's, Catholics, middle class).
He filed for divorce & kicked her out of HIS condo.
She gets no sympathy from me after the shitty way she treated the family.

Well, this is probably a late post, but it looks like the invitation should have said "Save the date" if invitations were to follow later. It pretty much should just have said they were having a destination wedding, the date and venue.

Whether or not to send a gift or not? I never feel obligated unless I really know the person and that includes co-workers..but close friends? I try to get a full place setting of china if I can swing it.