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ummmmmmmmmm...in addition to not telling my husband in the first place, i probably wouldn't attach my affiliation on a post where i said that i would if he asked...
just a thought, but i could think of a few alpha gam's that wouldn't be happy with me... besides just personal feelings on the matter (which we've all MORE than shared) - how do you think your nationals would feel about you sharing fraternal secrets? i'm guessing that most nationals aren't going to make the distinction between spouses and anybody else... -marissa |
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Disrespectful I agree with my sister here. I know that there is at least one fraternity guy who knows SOME stuff because the sister and her boyfriend were very open with each other about stuff. They are no longer together, and she deactivated and transferred schools, and I can only thank the 3 M's that boyfriend respects our sorority enough to not say anything to anyone. Our pledge ritual is open, kinda. We've had parents come in before to witness girls being brought into our pledge bond. But doesn't it say somewhere in there to keep teh secret of our pledge? I thought that was kinda weird that we could have parents there. |
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I do not expect all of my sisters to agree. But I do respect their right to disagree with me. Quote:
However, since it is not likely to become an issue (because my husband really could care less about these things....and if he did he would not share them with others), I am not going to fret about it. And I doubt that any of my Alpha Phi sisters who know me are going to lose much sleep over it either. :) |
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Lovely_gurl, I understand you've elected to not receive PM's but if you want to send me one, feel free.
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Mr. MelodyCat asked me what went on after I was initated.
I told him, "I can't tell you any specifics. Just know that it's a beautiful ritual." He pouted for a second and tried to jokingly cajole me into telling him, but I looked him in the eye and said, "Honey? I love you. I normally tell you everything that is important to me, but I can't tell you that. Please respect that." He's never asked again. And FYI, I suspect our Internationals would frown very highly on a member who spilled secrets. Take that as you will. |
Lovely_gurl, so sorry if my assertion that you're not going to honor your wedding vows and will probably be a runaround hootchie mama within a couple of years made you feel bad. I am obviously not privy to which vows you keep and which you discard.
It's also occured to me that you're probably as much of an Alpha Phi as I am since I can't believe an initiated member of a sorority would be stupid enough to broadcast on a greek-related message board that vows of secrecy mean nothing to her. Anyhoo, best of luck to you and hubby in your wedded bliss! :) http://members.aol.com/dragonhord/auction/wedding.jpg |
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Thanks, Diamond Delta! I figured out how to enable Private Messages...so you have one from me now! I have lurked for a long time before jumping into the mix....so I've seen that lots o' people are friendly here (including most of the ones on this thread who have not been the friendliest to me just yet)....but that is understandable given the passion behind the viewpoints here. So, I'm hoping that next time we meet up in a thread, it might even be on the same side of an issue and I will "feel the love" all around me! :D |
Maybe it's because my future wife is in a GLO as well, but it's never been an issue with us. She has her secrets (she's an Alpha Phi), I have mine, and that's that.
If I were in a defunct GLO, I'd see no reason to divulge secrets. Secrets are secrets, an oath is an oath, and it's a promise I made to my brothers and myself to keep those vows secret. |
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LOL! HEY!!!!...Where did you get a copy of my wedding photo?!?!? |
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And, at the risk of banging my head against a wall here, my fraternity and its rituals are very important to me. I just don't hold the viewpoint that disclosure to a spouse breaks a vow of secrecy. That is the difference. And it is perfectly fine for you to disagree with me, but asserting that vows mean nothing to me is erroneous. |
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