find and utilize the black sheep cousin of your family. especially funny if they can say something horribly inappropriate to ruin a special occassion and create awkward silences.

oh, and communicate to your brother's fiancee. maybe she's oblivious to the trail of devastation in her wake.

hehe, like insinuating that the bride is preggers b/c the white dress makes her tummy look a little bigger

oh yeah, i woke up in an evil mood!

way to go for your mom....
the bride to be sounds like quite the piece of work.
go and look so lovely, evil bride can't open her mouth without sounding lika a total dolt.

I don't think that it's appropriate for anyone other than the bride to wear white at a wedding. :(

While I agree that you should look fabulous, I have to go with PnC here.

You will take the focus off the bride, but not in a way that is flattering to you. Most people won't know the situation, they're more likely to be thinking "hey, who's the beotch who wore white? doesn't she know that that's entirely wrong?"

Look, I understand your parents are upset and you're upset, but buck up and accept the fact that this isn't your wedding. How would you feel if someone did that to you on your big day and was out to humiliate you? She has a right to choose her own bridal party.

Your parents are paying for and hosting the rehearsal. You're going to be there.

Get a flattering dress for the wedding, lose weight if you want to, but behave and be nice.

Whether or not the bride is a mean and cruel person is irrelevant right now-- it's not your wedding. It's your brother's and his bride's. And he loves her. And if you love your brother, you'll curb your enthusiasm to ruin this important occasion in his life. If your feelings are hurt, step it up and go talk to the bride! You're about to be related to one another. Have you thought that in your brother and his fiance planning this wedding together, it's not all about you and ways to make your life miserable?

I'm sorry to be coming off as cruel, but I don't see where someone hurting your feelings gives you the right to make the same wrong as they may have. Just talk to her and air things out.

The best revenge, in this case, is looking GOOD--and not just living well! :)

Once again, adpiucf, you have given stellar advice.

This marriage is doomed. Just sit back and support your brother.

While it feels delicious to think and plot along those lines, the only thing people will remember is how childish and petty you will seem to them.

The "wedding" is just ONE DAY...one party (ok..stretch it out to a weekend). This wench is going to be your sister-in-law for a lot longer (depending on when and if your brother wises up for afterwhile the fog of "new love and sex" will clear into reality of living with the other person).

Think ahead...there will holidays, parties, birth of children etc. Do you want to alienate her so far as she keeps your brother hostage and away from your family each time something comes up? Oh I have seen this happen again and again.

Take the high road, cry in private or on your mom's shoulder, share the travesty quietly and in whispers to trusted family members (who will undoubtedly share it around as families tend to do) and remember...

Living well is the BEST revenge.

I am with jeni! i been on her end before and it aint fun!


I hope this plan of yoru mom and aunt includes you going to the rehearsal dinner.....YOU BETTER Screw the BRIDE your parents pay ....you go!


I like KDanni idea spread rumor the bride is preggers and see it spread like wildfire!

Some folks around here are spoiling the fun!! :p Actually, now that I think about it, white isn't altogether flattering if you're not in the very best of shape with a killer tan. So, perhaps, I should go with my favorite color PINK!!!

Any thoughts??

I was actually thinking of a pink or red dress depending on your skin tone. Here is my suggestion: go to the wedding, look great, have a blast, and take lots of pictures for your scrapbook. A wedding is the bride's day to shine so let her have her day. You can enjoy it also. :)

i would go with a bright vibrant rich red and blow her away!

I was think a black dress. Every girl could always use a little black dress.

Nah, I'm all about the red. Too many women there are probably going to be wearing black.

i went through the same thing...
 

dude i totally feel you. my brother got married in may and none of our family was in the wedding!! my now sister-in-law is a total bitch and she lies and is hypocritical about a lot of things. even with all of that you still want to be in the wedding because its your brother, and for me i just wanted my nieces in the wedding. the day of the wedding we finally convinced him to let our two little nieces give away the programs at the door.


i think you should wear a bright color dress with a big had and a sash that everone would love and goo after lol:p