Sorry to disappoint you guys, but the houses where I felt comfortable did not invite me back after 2nd round. By then I was crying more than laughing and decided I was not going to put myself through another round. I met some amazing girls, and I want to wish everyone else going through recruitment the best of luck. I guess greek life just wasn't for me!

-Jessica

jessica,
don't worry about dissappointing us. you have to do what is best for you! i'm sorry you were crying more than laughing.

have fun when school starts!

Give it one more day
 

I know you have favorites during rush; but favorites can drastically change during formal recuritment. Don't let your feelings blind you from your goals. Feelings can change by walking though a door of a house you didn't like yesterday. You have felt the hurt of disappointment and now know the beast. Don't let any one house keep you from having a greek experience! I have been where you are! Thought I knew where I wanted to be but Alpha Phi showed me literally where I should be! I have been a happy member over 25 years. Formal rush is all about numbers and most of the time has nothing to do with personal feelings on the chapter's part. If it's too late for formal recruitment then I hope you will sign up for COB. Keep smiling you will find a home or what really happens a home finds you!:p

Jessica, none of us can know exactly how you are feeling right now, or how you found the groups that you were invited back to. If you can in any way see yourself in one of them, I'd like to encourage you to continue.

Being part of a sorority transcends your college life, and the chapter that you join can be only a small part of your overall experience.

I had a conversation once with one of Kappa's Fraternity Council members, and we were talking about what we did as collegiate members. She almost didn't pledge, was never an officer, and at one point she almost resigned until her mother talked her out of it, saying that "this could be important to you some day." She said "I can't imagine what would have happened if I hadn't listened to my mom!"

Please don't feel that you've disappointed us! Do what you feel in your heart is best for you.

I'm so sorry for what happened, but again like the others said, I encourage you to go forward if you can and you might just find a house you can be a part of. I remember how my impressions changed every time I went back so maybe one more round could do that for you too. In the end though, you must do what is best for you!

cosign with all of the above

First and foremost, you need to do what you believe is right for you... but please don't dismiss greek life so easily :( The chapters that invited you back saw something special in you, and they want to show you what their sisterhood is all about :)

Jessica, I cosign with what everyone else has said. Also, remember during FR "rules" are very different than during COR/COB. For example, during FR a house might have to drop girls who don't have a 3.0 but during COR/COB they might be willing to accept girls who have a 2.5 (if that makes sense).

I say, if you really felt like those houses were meant for you, keep your eyes and ears open for events. Informal recruitment is much more laid back. :)

Not trying to be a thread bummer-- but with UF being such a big school do they even have COR?

I'd imagine that they do - look at UGA, and other schools which traditionally have mass quota by the end of FR.

Jessica, right now, the pain is new and probably a little confusing. But in the coming year, with any luck at all, you'll meet a LOT of sorority women, and you never know what will happen as you get to know them. The posters above have given you some stellar advice, but I suppose I want to add my own "Never Say Never."

cosign with all above...
remember how beautiful and talented you are and never say never. you don't know what ultimately will happen.

COR/COB at UF
 

I am almost done with recruitment at UF (We just did our final ranking a few hours ago and will get our bids tomorrow afternoon) and through the entire process, none of the Pi Chi's (or anyone else for that matter) have ever mentioned any COR/COB opportunities for the PNM's. Anyone know if this opportunity is available at UF? From what I know it isnt....


-Sunshine

Like any school, it is available to chapters that are under quota or total. It is not likely that your PiChis would atlk about it during FR, because it gives girls mixed messages. If, for example, Suzie PNM gets dropped from her favorite, she may think that she should just drop out of FR and COB that house later, even if it is a very large chapter that never does COB.

there is a girl that used to come on GC that got went through UF's rush. didn't get a bid then but got picked up by Phi Mu right after. i am not trying to get your hopes up, but just saying that anything is possible if you want it to happen. i wish you well.