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PenguinTrax 09-08-2004 05:07 PM

One of the unspoken of pleasures in this world:'

McDonald's french fries that just came out of the fryer and are so hot you can barely eat them, but you do because they are SO good that way.

ZTA1806 09-08-2004 07:24 PM

Yummmm!
 
:D Ooohhh, that's good. Now I'm hungry for those! That has got to be one of life's best things!

For me, the move has finally happened and I get to go back to patrol on 9/25! :D :D :D

I have my DSL up and running, have gotten 2 rooms back together (I have been living in a construction zone since I moved in this past May), and I spent the weekend playing with my niece and nephew, enjoying the family place in PA. All that was missing were those fresh, hot fries!;)

PenguinTrax 09-09-2004 10:18 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by ztabchbum
I'm breaking up with my boyfriend of 3 years. I love him to death but we just seem to be destroying each other lately. I know it's for the best but it's going to be so hard to let go. I've been waking up by his side for the last 3 years and we spend every moment we can together and the thought of living in our apartment alone scares the living s@&! out of me. What a week. :(
Take some time for yourself - this is a hard transition, but you've obviously thought it through and you are doing what is best for you. That is what matters.

ztabchbum 09-09-2004 12:53 PM

Thanks everyone for all of your wonderful words of support, I really appreciate it. :D

I'm going to be breaking the news to him probably either tonight or Saturday. He doesn't have a clue but I just can't even bear to be in the same room with him right now because we just fight. I didn't sleep at all last night and I need my sleep - I work almost 80 hours a week between two jobs. I work a normal 8am-5pm job Monday through Friday and then I work a part time job 8pm-3am on Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday. :eek:

My biggest issue is going to be having him sign some paperwork to seperate some things of ours (like my car, our car insurance and the lease to our apartment). My mom is the happiest she's been in 3 years - to say she doesn't like him is an understatement. If anything, he'll be left with the debt of my Jeep and my mom said she'd help me get another car...but I love my Jeep so hopefully he'll just sign it over to me so he won't have to worry about and debt - he can't afford it anyways.

I have a lot of support doing this, I'm just going to need it for that in-between time while he's finding somewhere to live. I'm not the type to just kick him out onto the street - his parents live out of state - so I'm going to give him unitl October 1st to find somewhere else to live. We just moved into our apartment but I made sure I could afford to live there on my own before we moved in. It is a little out of my price range but I love it there.

Again, thanks everyone and sorry for all the drama...it feels good to get it off my chest. :)

ZTA1806 09-09-2004 01:50 PM

ZTAbchbum,

I wish you strength, which as a ZTA you have already, and good wishes. This takes real guts to do, and you definately have them.

Make things as easy as possible by having the DMV and loan and lease docs ready to be signed right away. If he agrees to sign, which I hope he will, you don't want to wait where he can change his mind. If he is on the title, have that ready too.

Sometimes love really isn't enough, and people who love each other just cannot live with each other (it happened in my family, and both sides weere much happier and got along better living in separate homes, but they had kids to worry about).

Good luck, and I'll be rooting for you.

ztabchbum 09-09-2004 03:12 PM

ZTA1806,

I consider myself to have super Zeta powers since my mom is a ZTA as well and the best ZTA ever! I have the guts I'm just worried about his temper. He flies off the handle very easily and he has never hit me nor do I think he ever would, so I'm more worried about him destroying things around the house while I'm not there.

I've already talked to the bank and I'm already approved to take over the loan for my Jeep and I already have the paperwork for him to sign it over to me - I also have the paperwork for him to be removed off of our insurance. The only thing I have left to get is from the apartment to seperate him from the lease.

I agree, sometimes love just isn't enough. My parents got divorced when I was 12 and it was the best thing for them. It took some time for them to get along but their relationship is much stronger now. Heck, my mom celebrated last Christmas/my dad's 60th Birthday with all of his family/friends and all of my step mom's family/friends. :cool: My mom told me, if it's meant to be later down the road then it will be. I don't think it is, anymore. I need some time to get back on my feet. I've totaly lost touch with who I am - right now I'm just Travis' girlfriend and I don't like that.

Again, thanks for all of the support - ya'll are the best! \^^^/

Dianne 09-11-2004 09:31 PM

Oh my gosh, girl! I am going through the exact same thing with my boyfriend of almost 3 years! So know that you are not alone. I don't have time to share details, but know that I am thinking of you while I am going through hell as well. Breaking up is such a pain, especially when you're the one who has to break the news...and have to deal with apartment issues, etc. Hang in and good luck!

ztabchbum 09-13-2004 11:43 AM

Well, I woke up Sunday morning at 8am to the dog running into my room and hoping in bed with me. Travis came in and applogized for waking me up, got the dog and shut the door so I could sleep and proceeded to clean the entire apartment and do laundry. He was in tears when he came over.
Since Thursday he's been pretty much living out of his car, staying at whatever friend's house will let him. The past few days had been really hard. I have been debating on whether or not I had made the right decision - he has given me second and third chances before and here I am putting him out on the street with no where to live.
We talked all day Sunday and decided to take it day by day. He's sleeping in the living room and giving me all the space I need. Sunday was actually a really nice day for the both of us. He completely surprised me and this morning I had an email from him - he wrote me a poem. He used to write me poems all the time when we first started dating so it was a nice thing to read at 8am this morning. :) I've laid down some ground rules and we're just going to try and start over and work through everything day by day.

FSUZeta 09-14-2004 12:51 PM

dear sister
 
have you thought about couples counseling? people tend to start to take each other for granted after a few years together. maybe the issues you each have with each other, could be resolved and improved thru counseling. i wish for you the best! lisa

ztabchbum 09-14-2004 01:33 PM

Lisa,

He actually mentioned it. I've been through more counseling for more things than I ever care to think about again. I don't believe in it - it's never done anything for me and has been a complete waste of time. I think we're doing a much better job sorting things out on our own than going to see someone who will never understand the complex nature of our relationship. However, I do realize that there may come a time where we would try it - and if that time ever (god forbid) comes, it will be a one time (maybe two time) thing. Thanks for the advice and thoughts!

ZLAM! :)

ZTAngel 09-14-2004 02:22 PM

I've been kinda MIA from GC lately so I just read your posts. I don't have any real advice so I'll just say that I hope everything works out ok!

ztabchbum 09-14-2004 02:29 PM

Awww....one of my sisters called to tell me that our chapter song (The Promise by When in Rome) was on the radio! :D

I LOVE ZETA!

Dianne 09-15-2004 03:35 PM

I'm going home!!
 
Well, I'm glad that things seem like they're going to work out for you and your boyfriend. My situation took a decidedly different turn, and I couldn't be happier. After almost 3 years together, I was beginning to feel like things between my guy and me had run their course. Also, we have been living in Santa Cruz, CA for just over a year, and I have absolutely hated it since I got here. Which is ironic since the main reason we came out here was so I could go to grad school. But then I dropped out of grad school at the beginning of August (loooong story, but I am very happy with my decision, it's best for me right now). But my boyfriend absolutely loves it here. This is his dream town. He wants to build his life and career out here. Which is fine for him. But I just can't take it any more, and recently things got to the point where it was like, "Alright, something's gotta give. I am sick of being so miserable." I knew I wanted to break up, but with our apartment and all, and having NO money to even get back home, I didn't know what to do. So I did what any girl would do in a desperate situation - I called my mom, to tell her that she had been right all along and that I needed advice. Then she asked, "Well what do you want to do?" I said, "I just want to come home." And she said, "Fine. I'm tired of this. We're gonna get you home." So with a loan from my grandfather, my older sister is flying out here in less than 2 weeks, helping me pack my car, and we're driving back to South Carolina!! YAY!! It's all happening so fast! But I really have the best family in the world. (Another irony - I am moving home with mom to regroup, but meanwhile my older sister already lives there and my younger sister recently moved back in. So all 4 of us in one house like old times, and my mom used to call it "the sorority house" since there were so many girls! - can you tell I come from a Greek family?) So anyhow, I am so happy about going home I could cry. I did have to break the news to my now ex-boyfriend, but he took it ok, he had seen it coming. And the fact that I hated Santa Cruz has never been a secret. So YAY!!! I am going home, single, unattached, with a clean slate to figure out what the hell I'm gonna do with my life! I can't wait! And I have the best family ever!

FSUZeta 09-15-2004 07:45 PM

hooray!!
 
i love happy endings. best wishes for much happiness in south carolina!!

ztabchbum 09-16-2004 10:39 AM

Re: hooray!!
 
Quote:

Originally posted by FSUZeta
i love happy endings. best wishes for much happiness in south carolina!!
Ditto - I'm glad to hear that things are working out well for you and wish you the best of luck back home in SC. :D


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