I didn't think so, but then again, I've never heard of alums vetoing a PNM either.

Isn't it standard that Alums and actives can write letters to the recruitment committee if they have prior knowledge of a questionable PNM?

Yes, but I don't believe that it completely cancels out the actives (or commitee) even being able to vote on the PNM, like the poster indicated.

I think that depends on the organization and/or situation. I know for a fact that one of our alumnae members vetoed one of the girls on our bid list due to some unknown reason. The rush chair and the alum had a screaming match over it; our advisors sorted it out..and the alum won.

This is exactly what happened in my daughter's sorority, which is a well known NPC GLO by the way. They got her to the 2nd round as the rush chair and alum continued to fight...but the alum refused to budge on her "not recommended" and was the pnm was pulled off the list. The girls never saw her to vote on again.

I know that there is one local, Xi Delta, at UGA. They are a pretty big group.

do we have a poster on here from Xi Delta?

As with every difficult situation it's almost impossible to comment without knowing the specifics. Instead I'll say I investigate every No Rec received.

Is it a major issue or a minor one? Is it a rumor or fact? I call that alum and find out exactly what is going on. I see if we have any actives that are from the PNMs hometown/area and see what they know. I try to find other alums in the hometown/area that might be able to shed more light on the situation. If I don't know the alum that wrote the No Rec, I see if I can find someone who does in order to get a better take on that alum's character judgement. If applicable, who wrote her rec(s)? I call them too. I talk to the actives that have been recruiting the PNM and really like her.

It's time consuming and difficult because I have to protect the confidentiality of the alum and the reputation of the PNM. So my questions are usually general such as "Polly PNM is from your hometown and she is going through Recruitment. Do you know her? How well do you know her? How long have you known her? What can you tell me about her? Do you think she would make a good sister?" If there is a problem with a PNM, most folks will say something without me having to ask point blank or having to say where I heard it from first.

After all that, I have a meeting with my other Advisors and my Province Director. As a group we discuss the findings and make a final decision. Just as no single active is able to issue a bid, I believe no single alum should be allowed to deny one without a thorough review. Fortunately we don't get too many.

Yes there is a member of Xi Delta here. Here screen name is Xidelt.

So if a PNM beats out my daughter for Homecoming Queen or cheerleader, I can screw over that PNM by giving her a "No Rec." Wow. This sounds like a situation where some rules were contorted.

You can only go by what your sister says and hope it is the truth...