What?

Don't worry...at least West Virginia is THE REAL SOUTH.

WHY has valkyrie NOT responded to this thread, yet?? :p :eek: :cool:

HAHAHAHAHA!!!

I'm known for being virginal, aren't I? ;)

Hi, that's me. i'm almost 20, kissed 3 guys in my life, and I'm a virgin by my own volition and i'm damn proud of it. I've been with my boyfriend (not a virgin) for 3 years, and we're in no hurry. The ground rules were laid down pretty early in our relationship. We're both Straightedge (no drinking, no drugs, no smoking, no promiscuity, related to punk/hardcore...google sXe) and we're both practicing catholics. While being catholic has something to do with my choice, it's not the only reason. We both were straightedge way before we met, and we sort of met through that subculture.

I think what bothers me is that people are willing to discount someone who might be their soul mate because of what they aren't going to "Get". It's all about "Getting" something. That's just a very selfish attitude to me.

I feel like such a horrible person because I cant even IMAGINE being with someone for 3 years (or 6 months for that matter) without having sex. I think thats awesome that some people are able to do this if thats what they want to do, but I honestly cant even imagine myself doing this. Now I wouldnt sleep with a random or someone I didnt see myself dating for a while, but I dont know how I would wait until I was married. I just cant even imagine.

Thats so not cool of me! :eek:

Well you are not "giving" anything either. Isn't that likewise selfish?

Straightedge? You put that in capitals . . does that mean that prudes now have a club? :p

of course you are...;)

I am sure there are just as many girls at Notre Dame and Marquette who give it up as there are at WVU - let's not attack people's schools, here.

A part of me wonders (cynically) as much as people say they haven't kissed a lot of people, they're virgins, and comfortable - this is because they don't have a lover in their life. Kissing and cuddling and really wanting sexual gratification - this is the lifeblood of humanity and romanticism. It is about getting but its about receiving too.

xstraightedgex, sXe, Edge, hXc. All are acceptable abbreviations. It's not a club, it's a subculture.

Best reference I can give you...

"Nailed to the X: A Lyrical History of Straightedge Subculture by Robert T Wood, found in the Journal of Youth Studies, vol 2. No. 2 1999.

And I can say that my commitment to edge is stronger than any other .

Then they were in sororities with a bunch of assholes.

We had all ends of the spectrum - girls who slept w/ quite a few guys and girls who didn't do more than kiss (I'm talking peck, no tongue) in four years of college. Everyone's choices were respected. Why on earth would you care whether someone is a virgin or not? I felt much more pressure to be sexually active in high school (not that I was), and that's where that sort of thing belongs - high school.

Re: Question for guys regarding virginity
 

bringing this back to the original question as a lot of people obviously didn't read it. :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

There is a BIG difference between conciously preserving your virginity and still being a virgin because of lack of opportunity. I mean, I've never bought anything from Neiman Marcus because we don't have one here...not because I'm morally opposed to Neiman Marcus. :)

It might freak the guy out a little bit at first, but if the girl shows that she is willing to explore and learn with him I'd bet he'll be fine with it. If the guy walks away because of it, it's probably better for her not to be with him to begin with.

I just saw that movie!

Haha. Yeah, that was me too, at 20.

You're right, the rules WERE laid down very early in your relationship - AT SEVENTEEN!

Life just kinda tends to happen to you - the early 20s/colllege years, especially. You can control a lot, but not everything - and I think from personal experience, the less pressure you put on yourself to be ONE certain thing (a virgin, a good student, etc) as though it defines you, the better.

Being a virgin or a good student are both great things. But they seem to work better as the RESULT of just trying to live life well, vs. as the end result itself.