Re: paying for your friends...
 

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I can understand that once you stop paying you fees/graduate/move away your are not allowed into the house (this is the same with my organisation) but that does not mean you can't go out for a beer, celebrate your birthday or cry on the shoulder of the friends you've made during those years? :confused:
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I can't speak for other GLOs but I can speak for mine. I am always welcome to any DG house, alumnae event etc for the rest of my life. That is my understanding. Now can I move into a DG house and live there for the rest of my life, I doubt it. LOL. But I am more than welcome to visit any chapters or houses anywhere to my knowledge. Anyone else have similar policies?

Re: Re: paying for your friends...
 

I don't know that it's a policy as much as an unwritten rule - I know that if I show up at a Gamma Phi house, they will welcome me with open arms, just as my chapter would do if a sister showed up there. Sure, I won't be going to date parties anymore, but I can still enjoy all the other parts of membership. I think it's surprising that the system dutchgirl was talking about "bans" alums from the house...I like it when ours come back! It's so much fun to hear all their stories about smuggling stuff (and people) in and out of the house.

I ditto what my sister said.

People join Greek organizations for a variety of reasons. However, the people who join it for the right reasons are usually the ones who will continue to be active as alumni. They're the ones who "get it" and realize that what you get out of being Greek is determined by how much you put into it in the first place.

I appreciate this thread being on the right/original track.

I do think, however, that joining a GLO for the "wrong" reasons is not necessarily a bad thing. Especially when it came to me, yes I joined because I wanted to be pretty and popular and be around social girls and cute boys, but I was an assest to my house and like I stated before my sorority was the MAIN reason I graduated college at all.

Yes, I also wanted to meet females too, so I guess in essence I joined for the "sisterhood" but I don't think that is the word I would have used back when I rushed.

And, I don't think that because I joined for the "wrong" reasons is the reason why I'm not active as an alumnae. I hope I'm not coming across as defensive, because that is not my intent, I just feel that the social aspect of college is downplayed in its importance to growth.

I became very social in college and while I may have partied a bit too hard and skipped a bit too many classes and had a bit too much sex, I GREW as a person because of it. And, I grew I feel in a way that I wouldn't have grown had I not been in my sorority. I view college and my sorority as INVALUABLE to me in terms of sowing some wild oats but still having support, getting drinking out of my system while having support, postponing the whole working/adult/taxes/no health insurance thing for a while, etc etc etc.

Can't say enough how much I value those years in college more. And this coming from a girl who wanted to be around other pretty girls as the main reason for joining a sorority I think says a lot.

Seeing that our happy trouble maker has bailed, I'll just say two words..

Buh-Bye!http://www.handykult.de/plaudersmili...py/xyxwave.gif

I would have to say the same for my experiences. I learned more in my first 1.5 years of college than in all the years prior. Unfortunately for my grades, it all had NOTHING to do with engineering.........

I joined for the sisterhood (being an only child) and I remain an active alumna for the same reason.