I concur...it is VERY tough...
 

Dear darling1,
Thank you for the word of encouragement.
:)

I keep in contstant prayer about staying a virgin because I find it especially tough as a "frat boy" because a lot of my brothers are QUITE promiscuous.

In the end, I stay comfortrably abstinent because I realize that God sees that behavior as correct conduct just like the State Governments see abstaining from robbery as correct conduct. You could do what you want to do as long as you realize the penalities and consequences that you must reap. God, as well as the governments, clearly set down these principles very clearly, and it eases me to see that a standard of correctness does indeed exist in a performance-based way.

God Bless you at every juncture. :D

keep your eye on the mark
 

by seeing the larger picture and knowing what God has in store for you and LISTENING to HIM, it should not be difficult. i say that from personal experience.

Blessing to you always.

BTW: your story was one that was very encouraging for someone very close to me. i never thank you for that ;)

Romans 7: The Fight For The Right
 

Lol...I agree with you. If we listen to God and focus our minds on what the word tells us, staying abstinent is not difficult.

It goes back to what Paul tells us in Romans 7. When we want to do good, evil is right there with us. Our minds want to follow God's Will, but our bodies want to follow another law--the law of sin. The body and mind wage war against each other just like Iraq and the United States.

Lol. Thanks be to God through Christ who tells us how to overcome these challenges. :D

:) Please tell your friend that I appreciate her finding my little testimony useful. I know that God will continue to strengthen her as her faith in him grows each moment. :D

If I'm really interested in being with her in a committed relationship I would wait.

I guess we will all make sacrifices if we're willing to be in a commited relationship!

By the way Enlightenment06...we're clubs!!! #1 Trail Breaker

Re: Re: Re: Through the Lord I would resist.
 

Unfortunately, I only heard one message on a James Dobson radio program about petting. This 26 year old minister gave a message about forsaking all sexual things including petting. The first time he ever kissed his wife was on their wedding day.

That was the first time I ever heard of not doing anything. Majority of the sermons I heard was not having sex but they never addressed petting.

Stay Strong!

BJ

For me personally...
 

After reading this entire thread and getting to know everyones opinion on the subject I have developed my answer.
As of right now, I don't want to wait. I'm sure I could if I wanted to but since I don't it's not an issue. I am in a monogomous relationship with the man I intend marry. I am more of a spiritual person that a religious person so that plays no part in my decision. I was raised Catholic and we had more rules than a little bit. I don't believe that rules alone makes you a better person. Thinking for yourself has to play a part in that. I have soaked in all the life lessons, mistakes, triumphs, and all that jazz. That is what I use to make my decisions. With that philosophy I allow others to do the same.

Diva

saw this while scanning old threads

hell to the naw :D
i gotta hit first nite:D :D :D :D

just kidding the first woman i ever loved made me wait from Feb-oct
i was a two week man on my yard - i saw u - i wanted you - s**t two weeks or less i had u-
Until i met Adria founding member of S G Rho at my school
-- I tried like h**L to put my thang down but even though she had been liking me for the previous whole semester( as i later found out after overhearing her and her best friend having a conversation)
she was like no - no -no -no - and in case you didn't hear me -- no.
we even started to sleep in the same bed in sept. for 3-4night out the week
---- s**t but it was worth the wait she taught how to love awoman for her self.:) :) :) :D :D
waiting is good and important for a meaninful relationship

Jyhad
i am loved and i give love freely

GREAT TO HEAR THAT!

Wow that neicy chick was disrespectful.:p

They don't reside in Alabama either:(

QUESTION FOR THOSE WHO ARE CELIBATE AND in a relationship


Can you PM me please? Thanks. :cool:

Re: Could You Wait?
 

I'm currently doing this right now. My girlfriend and I have agreed that we would wait until we got married before partaking in sex.

Personally I wouldn't date a girl that is quick to give it up. The relationship that I have with my girl is God centered . We pray together every morning and before we go out. We cuddle but we do not have sex. Now when we get married.....;) That's another topic