GreekChat.com Forums - Is she pregnant?

GreekChat.com Forums (https://greekchat.com/gcforums/index.php)

- Dating & Relationships (https://greekchat.com/gcforums/forumdisplay.php?f=206)

- - Is she pregnant? (https://greekchat.com/gcforums/showthread.php?t=106758)

Quote:

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06 (Post 1835009)

I'm sorry, but you opened yourself up for this sort of thing by posting on the interwebz:

You seriously have got to be kidding me.

"Well we just didn't have any and she's a clean girl so I know she doesn't have anything (many STDs don't have a "look.")

This, ladies and gentlemen, is how people end up with AIDS.

Be lucky that a child is all that you got out of your carelessness.

I hope this thread reminds peeps to wrap it up. Seriously (for more reasons than just not having a baby).

KSUViolet06 = my hero.

seriously Xanthus, did you watch ANY afterschool specials growing up? those need to make a comeback, cause Degrassi: TNG isnt getting through.

"she said she was on the pill"
"we were in the heat of the moment"
"ive known her for a long time, were friends"
"shes a clean girl, she wouldnt have any STDs"
"im not worried about money because i have a decent job"

and the list goes on.

Quote:

Originally Posted by VandalSquirrel (Post 1834961)

Plus it is much cheaper to buy condoms and something else (foam, sponge, so on) than it is for Plan B three time a month (yes, three times, once for every weekend, the other week she had her period so she knew she was okay). Plan B is $50 but you can buy it in bulk from www.drugstore.com with no prescription.

Isn't that really bad for you? I mean, wouldn't the super duper dose of hormones that Plan B gives you totally eff up your system after a while? This is going to be like everyone who used an IUD ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww and ended up sterile.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Xanthus (Post 1835007)

I read the posts and I just want to tell all of you thanks for responding. Before I get started, I just have to tell 33girl that when I pmed you, you probably got about 50 of the same messages from me. Haha sorry about that. I didn't know why it wasn't showing message sent. I realized there's an option for that. I was wondering what the hell happened. Anyway, thanks again for your advice.

I know this is a dumb thread, but here, good advice is given so I posted it. According to the pregnancy test she purchased at the store, she's is indeed pregnant. I found out the next morning after I started this thread, I just didn't post because I was and still am pretty bummed out about it. I didn't bring up the fact that it might or might not be mine. Chicks freak at that shit. I don't know how I can bring it up to her that I want to get a blood test after the kid is born. When she told me, she then asked me what I wanted to do. I told her that it's up to her. She freaked and said she was not getting an abortion if that's what I'm thinking. I didn't tell her, but to be quite honest with you, that's what I thought she was talking about. She was talking about us. I don't want to be with her as far as a relationship goes. Yeah, I know, I should have worn a rain coat, but shit happens in the heat of the moment. I didn't have any condoms where we were, and we both thought the pill would work because it worked before. She's a clean girl so I know she doesn't have any stds. I've known her for a while, we were just friends for the longest time, so it's not like I don't know anything about her. Financially, I'm not worried, because I have a decent job. It's just really fucked up knowing I have to deal with her. Before anyone jumps all over me for this, I've already accepted that I brought it on myself. I guess my biggest concern is finding out if it's mine. Kevin, more likely than not, I'll pm you in the future for other questions I know I'll have in regards to this.

Guys thanks again for responding.

Huh? I thought you were going to at least come back and say the condom slipped off or something. You didn't wear one AT ALL. That's so gross. But then again, so are your posts in that TMI thread, so I don't know why I'm surprised. You're really gross and so is she. Bleh!

Quote:

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek (Post 1835033)

Huh? I thought you were going to at least come back and say the condom slipped off or something. You didn't wear one AT ALL. That's so gross. But then again, so are your posts in that TMI thread, so I don't know why I'm surprised. You're really gross and so is she. Bleh!

way to not be judgemental CG1

Quote:

Originally Posted by tld221 (Post 1835019)

Thanks, I try!

I really am not trying to be mean, but unless you grew up in an 'abstinence only' sex ed district or something, or your parents were those people who signed a paper saying that you could not participate in sex ed, you have been hearing the same INFO OVER AND OVER since at LEAST middle school.

*Wrap it up.
*Even if she says she's on the pill, you still should wrap it up.
*There's no such thing as "she looks clean."
*AIDS and many other STDs don't have a "look."

I mean, it's all High School Health 101.

Said it before and I'll say it again: Wrap it up kids. And ladies, be smart enough to insist that he do so.

Quote:

Originally Posted by tld221 (Post 1835037)

way to not be judgemental CG1

Huh? That's not gross to you? Frankly, I don't think I'm being anymore judgemental than any of you. A 30 something year old man posting and laughing about his feces and now he post that he doesn't use a condom with some random girl? If that's not disgusting then I don't know what is.

I'm not sure if you were aware, but TMI means Too Much Information. TMI - get it? If you don't want to hear about things like that, don't read the thread. I don't.

And read the posts - this is someone he knows well, not a "random girl."

Quote:

Originally Posted by 33girl (Post 1835062)

I know what TMI means. I'm not sure if you're aware, but STD means Sexually Transmitted Disease-get it?

I said random because he doesn't know what she's been doing. She also doesn't know what he's been doing either. I don't have to go back and read his post to know what he did is not only gross but it's dumb, and I'm not passing anymore judgement than anyone else on this thread.

Quote:

Originally Posted by tld221 (Post 1835037)

way to not be judgemental CG1

In the other thread, you called me #1. Can't take it back now. ;)

Dude, I hope you've learned. And I know you guys are friends and know each other, but if you went bareback, you need to be tested and I'm not talking just paternity.

Oh, for whomever it was that asked...you can buy the paternity test kit at the drugstore. It's like $20-30. Then, you send the samples off to a lab with a check for like $130-ish. I thought it was an actual test I was seeing at Rite-Aid, so I read the back of the box--I swear I haven't been testing potential baby daddies. :o

Quote:

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek (Post 1835085)

I don't have to go back and read his post to know what he did is not only gross but it's dumb, and I'm not passing anymore judgement than anyone else on this thread.

There's passing judgment and then there's behaving like a 12 year old. You're always so quick to throw personal insults around.

Quote:

Originally Posted by agzg (Post 1835092)

There's passing judgment and then there's behaving like a 12 year old. You're always so quick to throw personal insults around.

Yes.

And to the OP, best of luck to you in this situation... And like Kevin said, consider talking to a lawyer.

Don't PM me. I don't know the law in your state. That's why I said to talk to a lawyer in your state and be sure to ask him certain questions. There are things you can do (in most states) early on to make sure it's yours, etc., but believe me, you don't want her to go to a guy like me who will take a default on you and just put whatever we feel like putting into the paternity decree (based on the information we have, of course).

You're not the first guy this has happened to. I was preventable, but that's beside the point now. I'm not sure why anyone would want to continue talking about that other than to feel somehow superior to someone on the internet. (pretty awesome)

If I were you, I'd use the next 9 months to start preparing for what is probably inevitable. Do things like figuring out what child support will be and if you can't afford that, get a better job (and refigure child support). Also, if you don't have a place which can easily accommodate an infant for visitation, you'll need think about that when your lease comes up.

So it's very likely right now, not 100%, but likely that you're going to be a dad. Make sure you get someone to look after your rights. Start saving for that retainer fee NOW and start thinking about what the future is going to bring you. I urge you to accept what's probably going to happen and resolve to be the best parent you can possibly be.

-- and once she's further along, you might consider telling your folks, grandparents bankroll just about every paternity case that walks through my door.

And dude needs to get to the clinic or his doctor STAT because he needs to check himself for STDs. Since the baby is definitely his and all. .:rolleyes:

Me thinks he's going to wish he never shared this information with the GC community.

Quote:

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek (Post 1835049)

Frankly, I don't think I'm being anymore judgemental than any of you.

Don't you have some zoo employees to irritate for not knowing enough about the DNA sequences of apes?

Xanthus, sorry you got the news that you got. I'm with Kevin -- there''s no need for any of us to pile on you now. It is what it is, and all you can do is move forward. Kevin has given you some very good advice. Good luck.