In terms of GC, it is mostly the latter, lol.

Yes, there may be a few who have actually volunteered with and served the org they're interested in, or have ties to a specific sorority (maybe they pledged there in undergrad and had to quit due to illness or something).

But a common theme for MOST ladies who come here about it have that unfulfilled undergraduate longing thing.

Maybe it's hard for me to understand because I joined in undergrad, but I'm pretty cynical about the PNAMs who come here saying, "I have always DREAMED of joining a sorority." Really?

Yeah, it's weird to me to because if you always dreamed of it, you'd have made it a priority in your undergraduate experience, it seems to me. Or have found a suitable surrogate experience with a women's club.

I have really positive feelings about the AIs that I've known in real life, so I have absolutely no problem with the concept generally, but here I tend to wonder about some of the postings here.

I suppose on some level it boils down to the fact that I think most NPCs are really about supporting the undergraduate experience, and most of the NPC undergraduate experience is social (I don't just mean fraternity socials and date nights, but I mean about interpersonal relationships within the group). What would you be looking for as an unaffiliated alumna if you were checking out groups to AI into when you weren't already working with the chapters?

Yep, absolutely. This is one of the threads where I have no problem admitting that I've completely changed my mind from what I originally posted back when I was a new GC user. (well, not literally this thread, but a similar thread in this forum.)