I think it's really rare for a chapter at an SEC school to fold these days, but that doesn't mean the rumors aren't always out there.

I'm glad it worked out for her!

ETA: me too about AuburnMom. She's probably hesitant to jump in with her good news, but we eagerly await it!

Here's hoping that Elaine and Auburnmom have good news...*fingers crossed*

C'mon Elaine and AuburnMom!!! <fingers crossed for good results!!!>

Something to chuckle about on a Sunday
 

... okay, to tell you how excited I have been to hear your results. I'm sitting in the Red Carpet Club in Chicago waiting for my next flight..... the first thing I did was get onto my computer to hear what the result were for everyone. At times the news is not good- for that I am sorry to hear. OK Elaine and AuburnMOM- hoping to hear something soon ( but no pressure)..... I am going to a very small town in upper PA-- no internet-- ahhhh!:eek:

Panhellenically yours- a traveling left coaster!

There is no need for the nastiness. The mom is very upset, her D is probably very upset. Recruitment is stressful under the best of circumstances let alone at one of these big Southern schools. perhaps the mom's comments can be read as being a bit harsh, but she was writing in the heat of the moment. Let the mom vent on an anoymous message board but give her a break for acouple of hours so she can process the disappointment before you criticize her parenting skills. I'm sure by tomorrow she'll feel slightly better.

My Good News!
 

Well, if you want to hear good news I'll give it. My daughter was invited to 3 pref parties and all are her top choices! She is excited and nervous and all full of emotion. She isn't sure how she will pick one above the others because she loves all three....I have told her that I will take her out to lunch before bids on Monday but after that i will leave her so she can meet and bond with her new sisters. I am very grateful that Auburn welcomes parents to bid day, I would have liked that very much when I received my own bid. I do have one question for everyone....If my daughter does not receive a bid will she be notified ahead of time? It would be very sad to find out in front of everyone that you did not receive a bid. I am driving to Auburn with a group of moms and I guess we would like to know before we hit the road!

I'm pretty sure they let the girls know in advance with a phone call if they are released.

(In your situation, as long as she likes all the groups that she prefs, you don't have much to worry about. I think she'll be matched as a quota addition to one of her groups as long as she lists all three on the bid card. This would be true for any girl who maximizes her options through prefs. At this point, things look really good! )

IF she's not at the top of the bidlist - which could happen.:)

Although, honestly, if you were #1 on the bidlist or the very last QA, it doesn't make that much difference in the longrun.

I can totally understand where these mom's feelings are coming from and I'm not even a mom. You just want what's best for your child, and if your child really, really wants to be in a sorority and they have a horrible recruitment it's going to hurt your heart.

That being said, OMG when I have kids and if I get a girl, I can't imagine her going to an SEC competitive recruitment. As a mom (and greek) I might just lose my damn mind. LOL.

Forget it, she'll be going to a state school. I know that U of A, ASU and NAU recruitment isn't as competitive as an SEC school. :D.

AuburnMom- I hope Kate is having a wonderful time!!! Update when you can (no rush though).

WOW, does this ever sum it up!

I remember having trouble trying to convince my 45 sisters - all of whom I knew - that a rushee I'd talked to was a great girl and it just didn't fly. I can't IMAGINE trying to convince 200+ people, to many of whom I'm just a name on a roster.

I know that women in huge chapters do have great experiences and make lifelong connections, but God, sometimes I just cannot wrap my head around it.

Oh yeah. She could certainly be number one.

I was just trying to articulate that for a girl who would be happy in any of the groups that she's preffed and has maximized her options throughout, there's nothing to worry about. Basically if you list them all, you are going to match to one.

The only girls who have to worry about getting the released from rush phone call before bid day at Auburn are the girls who don't maximize their options.

So if you are still in the game and you maximize, you're going to win.

Update, AuburnMom!!! :p I know some zta's and axo's at auburn and i'm anxious to hear your daughter's results!!

I am helping pack up my two college bound daughters and I keep stopping every fifteen minutes or so to see if AuburnMom has updated!! I hope she has good news.

Ok- I'm headed out on my next plane trip-- maybe i can find a Starbucks with wireless! Here's keeping my fingers crossed!

Go Greek mom - where are your daughters going to school?

MerryGPhiB -- They are both headed to Virginia Tech -- one a junior in a sorority and the other a freshman who at this point could care less about joining a greek organization of any sort. Right now she is scared to death and sad about leaving behind all her high school friends -- and that I am constantly harping on her to PACK because we are leaving Tuesday!! Have a saft flight!!

so, so, so sorry for the delay.....
 

I have to tell you I just love the idea that so many strangers are routing for my daughter. You guys are the best! So, with no further ado......

Good news from Kate.....

She is going back to 3 houses for pref. She will be returning to:

Austria
Ireland
Monacco

Austria and Ireland are long time favorites of hers and Monacco has made a very strong showing in the last two days and she likes them also.

I am thrilled for her and for WarEagle07's Daughter. She is going to call me after she finishes her parties and I will update at that time.

Thanks AuburnMom
 

I am excited for Kate and eager to find out which country she lands in! I won't be able to post until tomorrow evening but I will let you know where my own daughter lands!

I think these comments are unfair. She is a mother, she cares enough about her daughter to want the best for her and make sure it's the right school for her. Many people question their college choice before they get a 100% settled in. I don't think she is saying oh, my daughter doesn't belong here bc she didn't get a bid rather questioning the system at Auburn and the people that go there. And from what I've read, I would too.

After several very emotional and trying phone calls today....I have an update.

My sister was invited back to 3 parties today and let me be very clear this time - I KNOW this is wonderful and a spot that many women wish they were in. One of the 3 was Sorority B, which is good, but for some unexplained reason, best friend decided at the last minute she was going just drop out!!! Just when I think things have gotten easier, they make a complete 180. I know one thing, I'm as ready for this to be over as my sister is. I think my sister was ok until best friend dropped out unexpectedly and then she just really freaked out and now is just ready for this to be over.

She went to 1 party this morning and has 2 this afternoon. The last being B. According to her, she's completely made up her mind that she is NOT accepting a bid from any group. Obviously, I told her I didn't think there was any need for her to waste her time going any parties today if she had already made up her mind, but this began a partially "insane rant" on her part. LOL I really believe the heat and the stress has finally gotten to her b/c at one point she told me that the truth was, she was only going b/c she was hungry and they have pettifores!!!! I wasn't expecting that one for sure. Honestly, I think she is really just at a meltdown point now. I feel so sorry for her.

I feel like I just can win, though. When I told her earlier that it was perfectly fine if she chose not to pledge, she said she was worried about not being able to participate in some campus activities w/o a sorority behind her, i.e. sga, tiger hostesses, etc if she didn't pledge. I thought this meant she wanted to pledge, but was maybe on the fence about Sorority B. So, being the helpful (crazy/pressuring) big sister I am, I make a few calls and talk to some of my friends about B and get some good reports that I **thought** would make her decision easier or help in some way.....oh how I was soooo wrong. Apparently, this call was NOT to help, but to "pressure her" when I had just told her it was fine with me whatever her decision was and it was her's to make.

At this point, there will be NO further calls from this big sister and whatever will happen will happen. I will really be happy for her no matter what she decides. I'm just ready for this to be over.

mom - i think you really have what you truly believe are your daughter's best interests at heart, but there is no point in second guessing things that happened this past week, especially with her. she has been through enough, trust me. like i said earlier, i don't think its fair to sugarcoat things when you are already obviously confused about what has been happening and the way rush works. i could tell you a million things that would probably help to clear things up a little about the "selection" process at auburn, but this story may be one of the best - a girl was dropped by a certain sorority who's sister was was an active sister in the sorority at the time. now, if that doesn't tell you that your daughter could have done everything she was supposed to, looked great, had great conversations, and STILL been dropped by everyone, then i don't know what will. the bottom line that no one is really willing to say is - for the most part, it's all about who you know and the power that person/persons has w/in the sorority at that time. this is what makes it so hard on EVERYONE this week, the girls and family members. of course, there are exceptions to this, but i'll be the bad guy and just cut through all the bs and tell you the truth.

Auburn mom,

Those are some amazing results, and your daughter is in a wonderful position to join a group. I can't wait to hear the final outcome!

Wow, Elaine, yeah, sounds like she is WAY overstressed. Good luck to you both, dear!

Aww it sounds like she is definitly very very stressed out. I think you are wise to back off and see what comes up tomorrow. I really think the stress, sleep deprevation and week as a whole has gotten to your sister. Keep your chin up and we will all hope for the best tomorrow!

I meant to add this to my previous post but what great news AuburnMom! I will keep my fingers crossed for her!

I am so happy for your daughter AuburnMom!! I am hoping for the very best for her!!

Best Wishes
 

Here is hoping that things work out well for Auburnmom's Kate and all young ladies at Auburn.

AuburnMom.....feel free to post the rest of your daughters story we really want to hear it. It is not that you are rubbing it in the other peoples face, but this is the thread you started about your daughters rush!:)


If someone wants to post a rush story......Please start another thread or find one where it is appropriate.

Thanks:)



I know I am not a mod, but if someone does not get in a sorority their life is not over!!

i can only assume this was directed at me. i apologize, but i have been posting updates in this thread for several days now and have never implied in ANY way that i felt auburnmom was rubbing anything in anyone's face, especially not mine. the title of this thread is "auburn university rush - fall 2007." obviously, your interpretation of that title is somewhat different than mine b/c i thought this was the APPROPRIATE thread to post stories dealing with "auburn university rush - fall 2007." i also stated in my first post that i was not attempting to "hijack" auburnmom's thread. auburnmom - i apologize if you felt i did this or attempted to steal your thread in any way at all. this was not my intention. i wish your daughter all the best and hope everything works out well for her.


here's a "revelation" for you - i don't belive 200pt font is necessary to make a point. it only makes you look silly, especially when you tell someone to find a thread that is "appropriate" to post their stories and if they looked for one to do exactly that......they would find THIS ONE based on the title. thanks for the helpful post though. :)

If you read the thread about people raining on recruitment threads, you'll probably see that this wasn't directed to you.

See.....your snarky tude if not cool. If you read the Thread about raining on other peoples parade then you will see whay I posted that. That thread was not started by me and it includes detracting from another persons story especially a positive one. I put it in larger font b/c people tend not to read whole post and that was the most important part.

So....I don't look silly as you say....maybe its you.

You can call me names if you like. I am not the one complaining about other peoples stuff.

I don't need your 'revelation'. Thanks any way;)!


ETA
Your post were already here; so my comment was for people who want to tell thier story in the future.

Thanks OTW

However, in paragraph 2 of the original post in this thread, she invites others to join in, so other posters didn't feel they were hijacking the thread. I assumed it was the kind that had several "sagas" on it which is why I jumped in.

It's reasonable for people to have done it, but if you look back over the thread, it seems less than ideal in hindsight. There was no way anyone jumping in could have anticipated how the negative would take over the positive, but maybe we should take a lesson from it and not do it again?

i wasn't aware that i called you any "name," but if you felt i did so, please forgive me. i'm also not sure where i "complained about other peoples stuff" or what that even means, so maybe you could help me out there.

i think everyone is getting WAY too sensitive about this subject or maybe i just have a thick skin. as i said earlier, i posted in this thread based on auburnmom's invite and the title of the thread. if everyone thinks that rush should be made into this week of glory where everyone's dreams come true and all happy endings, then that's your perogative, but i think it should be shown in its true light. the good and the bad. if not, anyone who visits this board to attempt and get an idea of what rush is all about will certainly get a warped view. i apologize if i offended anyone, especially auburnmom. i wish kate the best and hope everything works out great for her. this will be my last post on this board, b/c it is obviously not the place for me. i wish the best to everyone's friends and family going through rush and only hope that you will give them an honest view of what rush is/can be and not just all smiles and roses.

Wow this thread has really taken off since yesterday :)

Auburnmom and Elaine, can't wait to hear what happens!!!

[ this will be my last post on this board, b/c it is obviously not the place for me. i wish the best to everyone's friends and family going through rush and only hope that you will give them an honest view of what rush is/can be and not just all smiles and roses.[/quote]

NO, NO No!!! I want to hear what happens with your sister! And you are absolutely right about rush (see how old I am?) being a lot about who you know.....

I am just glad that both of my daughters are "rushed and done with." This time last year I had one getting ready to go through at Ole Miss and I was a nervous wreck! I went to Auburn, my eldest went to Alabama, and frankly of the three of them I think that Auburn's rush is far more brutal than the other two!

SECMom....I'm sure she will post again.

I understand....maybe Elainebenice will start another thread.....

It seems to me that more than a few of the rush stories published here have an element of heartbreak, so it is fun to hear about someone having a great rush!