Miss Z,

Why was I thinking the same thing :D (Sorry guys) :p. . . What I find funny is that I fit both sides of the coin on what u guys say u and ur frineds like. . .

For example cons (accrding to the man list on this forum):
1: the small tattoo on the back (left shoulder blade - that can be hidden when need be)
2: the ancle bracelet
3: the short skirts (to show my 5'10 legs) or "club outfits" @ times when I got out to cause mischief on the weekend :cool:
4: the heals (thought I don't like the ones christian girl showed)
5: the gold braceletes / jewelry

But on the other hand

1: I'm a 2nd year master's student
2: I can be demure (sp) at times
3: a little conservative
4: can chef up a good meal
5: well spoken and can turn on the charm when need be
6: Can dress up in my "Joan Cleaver" costume when the mood strikes or duty calls

Overall, like the gentlemen said earlier everyone has their prefrences, and we cant really knock them. I know have looked at a man and judged before he has even spoken to me. But I still stand by my earlier post. If I myself get passed on from men due to some outward appearance, then so be it. @ 22 I should be able to express both sides of myself and not feel labled or bad about doing so :)

Shoot, if I was as old IRL as I am at heart, I'd holla.

What does IRL mean? . . i'm confused

IRL = In Real Life

Thank you. BTW, I love your signature.

I prefer the term shero. ;) And thank you.

You know what I meant.:rolleyes:
No, I don't have a pair but I still don't think anything is wrong with them.

You're 50? :eek:

PB you crack me up....I don't think I could stay awake through a date with you..lol..j/k (not really though ;) )...I've read what you're said in this and other threads and I enjoy bookstores and quiet settings also, BUT variety is indeed the spice of life..I also enjoy jazz clubs and bars...my new dude (your frat BTW) is an attorney so when we go to events that require a more conservative look I oblige...but your list is...just wow...extreme to say the least...now I'm not knocking it cuz its your perference, but wow you seem really pressed about what your parents think too (a slight sidebar)...there isn't a "100% perfect" match IMO....cuz if there were, a cross between Terrence Howard, Method Man, and Bob Johnson would be downstairs making me some coffee right now...lol...I gotta see you...my mental visual of you is FUNNY....your posts do make me laugh and SMH at the same time....

KAPPAtivating...you know what it is Papi....;)

Actually I am 65. You would be surprised at the age range here on GC.

What's good Mami? Where you been these days? Missed you around these parts;)

I've been around papa...I've missed you though...hope all is well....

I'm good...even better since you back around the block. Don't stay away so long next time;)

The older I get, the more I realize that I am attracted to women who have personalities that are similar to my mother! The funny thing is that growing up, we knocked heads on a regular basis, and now we still do (whenever we are in each other's company), but she and I are SO similar it is sick.

It's projection. I spent alot of time with my brother as a the male figure in my life because my father was in the Navy. Now I find myself generally attracted to guys like my brother... Which may not be such a good thing. At least I'm immune to some of their B.S.:rolleyes:

Ugh. Everyone says I'm going to marry a man like my father. Excuse my language but HELL TO THE F#@K NO. I can't stand my father 95% of the time and made up my mind years ago to never date a man who was anything like him. I have not so far and fully intend to keep that trend going.

LOL, I'm glad you realize that "the list" changes. Speaking as a wholesome, down to earth woman who is from a "good family background," I'm not picking on you, I just see it from the other side. I think a man is entitled to any list he wants, but I also think it'd be a shame if someone I was totally compatible with walked away from me because he found out I have a tattoo. The fact that I have one is minor compared to the fact that it's tasteful and discrete. Or if a man dumped me because I had something stronger than a wine cooler. I think the fact that I can drink while still maintaining myself as a lady in public is more important than what's in the cup. I just hope that, when you meet someone you truly like, you don't let go of that good woman over something much smaller than the big picture. If you can do that, while still maintaing "the list," then have at it. ;)

Christiangirl, you been tippin' the bottle tonight? That was some strong language coming from you...lol! I have been told by my closest friends and family that I am too picky with women. Maybe I am, but I think I deserve to be picky. Hell, Imma good catch!

I am similar, there are some negotiable things, but then are things that are non-negotiable...i.e. smoking, loud women, gold teeth, etc.

I am with you on that, I have every right to be FULLY happy. If a woman does not satisfy me mentally, and spiritually, then as fine as she may be...she's gonna have to go. And if I can't give the same to a woman, then I can understand why I would have to go too!

OMG! I had no idea. I think that's totally awesome!:p You seem so young with so much energy. Not that your posts sound immature or anything, you just seem to be really, really fun.:)

Maybe you and christiangirl should PM and chit chat with each other more often.:)

know your role and stay in ya lane CG, KAPPAtivating and I got this...:mad:
go find PB and play and stay outta of grown folks business...:mad:;)

ETA: Christiangirl you good with me....its just that KAPPA.. and I have history..:p)

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Hey Nupes, I'm so excited. I never really posted much about this but I have to tell you guys this. Last month I had a presentation at school, and a lot of employers came out to look at everyones work. Ford didn't pay much attention to my renderings that I worked so hard on:(, instead they liked my ideation sketches. Well, to make a long story short, I talked to them and asked a lot of questions, which resulted in an interview which I had this morning. I have a 2nd interview Tuesday of next week. They seemed to like my portfolio, so I hope all goes well next Tuesday. The bad thing is Ford is hurtin' and have already laid off a lot of designers, but I don't have anything to lose. I'll keep you guys posted. Well, I guess it's time to head to "club" Borders Bookstore.:)


Yo!:D

Congrats Nupe! ACHIEVEMENT in every field of human endeavor!

It's not about whether you get it or not, it's about the fact that you took a potentially negative situation, and worked an angle to make it positive for you!

HAHAHA!!! Naw man, but I feel what you're sayin'....we can afford to be picky. I said I'd never be with someone who smokes either, but I had a thought: What if you find someone right for you, be with them for x amount of years, then they start smoking? You just walk away after that long? There are some things about people that might change, so I'm trying to sift through which battles I'ma fight.

CTFU!!! I don't know, I never liked "I'ma buy you a drink" before, but now I can't stop humming it...I might be catching a cyber case, I'll try to stay out yo' lane girl, but he is kinda stroking my ego a little...:p

You know I luuuvvv both you ladies! It's enough of me to go around...lol!:D:cool:

my sister too, LOL!

Correction, yes you are the last of a dying breed. Hmmmm, let's see. I don't believe in dating a lot of people. I believe that if you just wait, God will bring the person that you are suppose to marry to you (I know that opinion is not popular). From my experience, I have only had 3 boyfriends in my life, one of whom I was engaged to. They have left me because of the no sex/ no intimacy rule. When I say no intimacy, I mean just that. Holding hands and a kiss on the cheek is fine but that's it. My fiance left me too because although I broke my rule for him, he could not deal with the no intimacy rule ( I felt such guilt at breaking the rule that I recommitted myself to that rule and he did not want that, he felt that since we broke it we might as well keep breaking it. I disagreed the rest is history). So you see, there are women who want to live Godly lives, are living a wholesome and respectable lifetyle, but its the men who can't seem to control their hormones enough to wait on that kind of girl. It's the men that want the freak of the week or the down low boy toy. The thing that really angers me, is the men who passed me up because they heard about my rule and then latter on in life after they have had their share of women, want to come back to try to be with me so they can settle down. HECK NO!! Don't try to come back my way. What's even worse is those fools that tell me "you a nice girl, pretty and all that but its unrealistic to think some man is going to stay faithful to you when you not trying to show a brotha a little intimacy. I can wait a while, but you talking intimacy for marriage and that could be 3 years and a man ain't gonna wait that long and be faithful to you at the same time". Its sad but I am finding this to be true. The man that will do this is RARE!! He may still be on the potter's wheel. Now tell me again that wholesome men are out there and I'll tell you yes they are like the last of the Mohicans.

I believe that, too but....now, I don't doubt my man's sense of direction, but would it be too much interference if I drew him a map? Just in case? :p

WE ARE --->HERE<---. If I had a dime for every time I heard that from a man (and women for that matter), I'd be able to pay back my student loans. :mad:

^^^Ladies I am so apologetic on behalf of the good men out here in the world. I am a firm believer that anything (and I mean anything) worth having is worth waiting for! I tell my young Kappa League boys all the time that 1)Quality before Quanity and 2)I believe God arranged our bodies in order of importance. In other words, your brain and your heart come before your loins!

I think that's great that you're a good woman. Stay that way. Like I said before hold on to the panties and see how long a joker hangs around. If he leaves, then he's a sorry low down joker. I like it when women hold back the panties. To me it means she's not just about sex. Also, I've never been the aggressor. The women I've gone out with in the past have always made the 1st move, so for me sex is great but not a priority.

When most women get a good guy, their insecurities come out and they mess up everytime. At least they did with me. A lot of times that comes from dating bad boys, and other reasons too. Most women simply think most men, if not all are dogs, and that's far from the truth. Like I said, sex is great, but it's not the end all be all. Me personally, I love having sex, but only with one woman. If she chooses not to have sex, then that's cool too. As long as she's a good woman, I'm her's for life with or without the sex. Now if I'm married to her, yeah, if she still doesn't want to have sex, then something's wrong with her.:rolleyes: As long as she doesn't give me a reason to leave, which would be a form of cheating, then I wouldn't leave. To me cheating doesn't only mean sleeping with another guy.;)

Faithful? Yes, I've always been this way. In my past relationships, I just chose the wrong women. They were out there, and I was and still am the opposite. They would lie to me by trying to lower the number of men they slept with so I would be with them, and like an idiot I would. Not anymore. I know if she's lying now. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. I've always known women to like bad boys. I've always said that if I ever met a beautiful woman who didn't fool around with bad boys, came from a good family, was educated, God fearing, honest, faithful, and loved me for me and only me, that would be my woman. I used to always go last behind bad boys, but now there's no way in hell. I've never ever cheated and I never will, and there are a lot of men out there like that, you just have to kind of run into them by accident I guess.:p

Christiangirl, you and I both would be debt free :rolleyes: Honestly, I am not expecting a man to be perfect because I am not, although I am striving everyday for Godly perfection. However, I do expect him to be faithful and to respect my beliefs and values. What is really getting me is this expectation that after they go out and sew their oats all over the world, that we (good women) are supposed to be there waiting on them to ask us to marry them and live happily ever after. AS IF!! I mean I know there is a shortage of available black men but we are not that desperate because a sista like me will marry a white, Asian, Hispanic, etc.,