I'm done. Skeeriously, I'm done. D. O. N. E.

Little32, would you kindly do me the honors once more and tell us a little bit about discretion?

LMAO @ "I'm sure no one has noticed"

Well, some peeps have been gone from GC for a year, almost 2. I guess they are being discreet too. Dayum, I wonder when they are gonna cross? LOL

Maybe next semester? :confused:

Re: Not doing 'JACK':
 

It is her responsibility but I don't understand how a member can not do jack and that's acceptable unless they just choose not to affiliate with their org and no one notices them. I would think that if someone walked around with a t-shirt and didn't do anything for their org their frat or sorority members would say something.

Soror Abaici,
Sadly, this level of information has been placed on the internet before by interested women. I've seen it a few times.
SC

Re: Re: Not doing 'JACK':
 

Why a conjunction and not simply a period?

Here's a question for interested women:

What do you know about Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. (besides the mushy: it's a great organization, full of great women who do great work in the community)?

I mean, what do you know about the organization's Purpose? Do you even know what our current Targets are? What they have been?

I ask b/c there are many an interested woman who does not even know our Purpose yet claims that she wants to be in The Sisterhood. I ask: how can you claim to want to be a member of an organization that you know nothing about. There will be a great deal of investment of time and money if you are ever brought into The Sisterhood so it is prudent to really try to research and figure out what you might be joining one day.

Also, why do some interested women think that it is ok to be too busy to attend our affairs and service projects (those that are open to the public) yet, she wants me to believe that when she becomes a member she will suddenly be able to balance everything going on in her life with our affairs and service projects?

Finally, ok Sorors, you all know that I'm a little frustrated so please bear with me, why do MEDIOCRE interested women think that it is ok for them to vie for membership? There is NOTHING mediocre about Alpha Kappa Alpha or its members so why would we want MEDIOCRITY?


SC

What was your major?

What activities did you participate in at Florida A&M?

Do you know any Beta Alpha sorors?

What have you done since graduating?

Soror, you might actually get answers from Islandgirl...to my astonishment. :eek:

This is amazing... :)

Islandgirl, two words: six degrees

1) Soror, I'm glad I'm not the only one who noticed that people are dodging the PROGRAMS question and the PURPOSE question.

2) LOL! Soror, no one actually *thinks* they are mediocre. Do they? There's a question.

Yes, Soror I agree.
Interested women must have courage, yet they must be humble and finally, they must know what it is to be discrete.

SC

Soror, Just when you've done all you can....you just STAND!

Does it EVER become the responsibility of the SF, TO DO JACK once she becomes a member?

YES, it is definitely and undeniably the SFs responsibility TO DO once she becomes a member. Why would you not DO after obtaining membership? That defeats the purpose.

If former SF is a GROWN WOMAN, isn't SHE responsible for the oaths and pledges SHE made, regardless of her sponsor/those voting favorably for her?

YES, because she must now illustrate that SHE is worth sponsorship and the favorable votes.

I just want to know why?



I do love this thread

What do you know about Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. (besides the mushy: it's a great organization, full of great women who do great work in the community)?

Some the information I know about Alpha Kappa Alpha are founding date, incorporation date, the Founders, the Presidents, the address of official headquarters, and the definition of “service”. From observation and a conversation Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority is about BUSINESS (someone made sure to make that statement to me when I expressed my interest)

I mean, what do you know about the organization's Purpose? Do you even know what our current Targets are? What they have been?

From research the purpose of the Alpha Kappa Alpha is “…service to all mankind” and to create meaningful relationships (sisterhood) with educated undergraduate and graduate women to do the work of Alpha Kappa Alpha. The current targets of Alpha Kappa Alpha that I am aware of are “The Spirit of Alpha Kappa Alpha” which is composed of five targets: Education, Black Family, Health, Economics and Arts. I am not aware of the previous targets but I think the programs and targets would change with leadership. I am certain the programs would involve service to the community.

I ask b/c there are many an interested woman who does not even know our Purpose yet claims that she wants to be in The Sisterhood. I ask: how can you claim to want to be a member of an organization that you know nothing about. There will be a great deal of investment of time and money if you are ever brought into The Sisterhood so it is prudent to really try to research and figure out what you might be joining one day.

***I completely understand your statement and that is why I search everyday via the Internet and ask question when appropriate. The internet is not the best tool but currently the only tool available to me at this time.***

Also, why do some interested women think that it is ok to be too busy to attend our affairs and service projects (those that are open to the public) yet, she wants me to believe that when she becomes a member she will suddenly be able to balance everything going on in her life with our affairs and service projects?

Last semester I attended all public affairs and service projects(that I knew of) except the very last event do to a scheduling conflict (class presentation and final exam review). However, after my presentation during a short break given by the instructor I made my way over to the event to show my support (though it did not seem like much considering the circumstances) I did not want to go without letting the chapter members know why I was not in attendance. In my eyes I felt everything was balanced because I handled my business and made an effort to show my support for the event although it was only lasted about ten minutes.

Finally, ok Sorors, you all know that I'm a little frustrated so please bear with me, why do MEDIOCRE interested women think that it is ok for them to vie for membership? There is NOTHING mediocre about Alpha Kappa Alpha or its members so why would we want MEDIOCRITY?

Personally, I know there is nothing mediocre about Alpha Kappa Alpha and its members. This is the main reason why I had to search within myself to see if I could go above and beyond the minimum requirements for undergraduate membership as listed on www.aka1908.com. With guidance and encouragement I found “balance” working fulltime, attending classes fulltime, achieving and maintaining my B+ GPA and continuing involvement with other organizations. There are still some areas I need to work on hence my statement in a previous posting concerning “up to par”(I’m not sure if that is my exact reference but the statement involved “par”)

Sorors! What the lemony snicket is going on in here??? lol This thread is hil-fricken-larious!!:eek:

Islandgirl, you can't be a true island girl cause we don't do this mess! Please stop. right now. You aren't real...we're on Girls Behaving Badly aren't we:cool:

Sooooooror truer words have never been spoken!:o

Questions : What do you know about Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. (besides the mushy: it's a great organization, full of great women who do great work in the community)? What makes Saturday significant? I mean, what do you know about the organization's Purpose? Do you even know what our current Targets are? What they have been? What, in your honest opinion, is the purpose of a sorority? Now, how does it relate to the purpose of Alpha Kappa Alpha? Are they aligned? And do you believe that they HAVE to be aligned in order for you to join the organization?


Saturday is significant because memberfriends commemorate 97 years of service by celebrating their Founders Day. Although founded on January 15, 1908, the organization became a perpetual entity with incorporation on January 29, 1913. The first Greek letter organization for Black women, Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated was established by 9 Founders, 7 Sophomores, and later 4 Incorporators (in conjunction with 2 Sophomores) at Howard University. Other than that, I know the purpose, symbol, colors, motto, targets, national programs, and some famous members (many of which are women I revere).

In my opinion, the purpose of a sorority is to promote fellowship and sisterhood among like minded women. In a sorority focused on community service and uplifting their community, these like minded women work together towards common goals. I believe my definition a sorority certainly falls in line with the purpose of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated.

The purpose of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated is:

1. To cultivate high scholastic and ethical standards
2. To promote unity and friendship among college women
3. To study and help alleviate problems concerning girls and women
4. To maintain a progressive interest in college life
5. To be supreme in service to all mankind

Under the national program theme of “ The SPIRIT (sisterhood, scholarship, service, partnership, innovation, respect, investment, and technology) of Alpha Kappa Alpha” , the current targets are The Black Family, the Arts, Economic Empowerment, Health, and Education. National programs and foundations to promote and further develop these targets include (and, in the past, have included) the MLK Day of Service, National Family Volunteer Day, AKA Coat Day, ON TRACK programs, Ivy Reading AKAdemy, Partnerships in Math and Science, HIV-AIDS Awareness Programs, Black Dollar Day, Educational Advancement Foundation, women’s suffrage programs, “Buckle Up” program, Cleveland Job Corps Center, Mississippi Health Project, and much much more. Past “targets” include Scholarship, Undergraduate Housing, Health and Social Action, but the focus has always remained the same, to be supreme in service to all mankind.



Question: If a memberfriend invited you to a function and you have a scheduling conflict, what would you do? Would you think it was fair of the memberfriend to refrain from extending future invitations?

If invited to a function, and I have a conflict. Depending on the nature of my originally scheduled commitment, I would try to reschedule. However, if I could not, I would thank the memberfriend again for extending an invitation, express my disappointment, and ask if she would be willing to let me know about another event in the future. Although, I would like to be informed or invited in the future, it would certainly be within her right not to invite me again.

Disclaimer: Pardon me if my wording is not exactly correct in describing your organization. I am speaking from the outside looking in so I may be unclear on specific terminology.

*Banging head against the wall, solemnly singing*

"Through the years as we struggle....

Woo woo woo. I know, I know. It's ok Soror Skee :)

**Taking Soror Skee by the hand and leading her out of this thread**

singing as we leave "...we help each other..."

Re: Re: Re: Sisterfriends, Sisterfriends, Sisterfriends
 

Personality tests have already proven that none of the above jobs are great fits for me (other than being a college professor)

Quote:

Which leads me to my next question: You've put your best foot forward in trying to get to know members, going to events, Rush, etc. My sorors seem to slice you up every chance they get. You are discouraged and demoralized. What do you do now?

I read this question last night and I had to sleep on it. I'm still thinking about the answer. The first responses that come to me are those idealist answers that everyone would like to think they would do in a situation such as this. Right now I'm trying to think about what I would REALLY do.

Re: Discretion
 

#1 Again, discretion is subjective. Where it is ridiculous to post your name, school, etc on the internet or blab all over campus & whatnot, or shout from the rooftops about your org of interest, how is telling your sister/mom not being discreet? Discretion should be an issue of common sense. Hell, posting on this danggone board is not being discreet for real... secret societies demand discretion b/c they don't want their rituals, secrets, dirty laundry to become public knowledge. Of course they would look for individuals who would know how to keep their mouths shut.

#2 Not really, it would depend on the situation. If I were point blank asked, then I would probably respond with the truth. I wouldn't volunteer that info though.

#3 My sister is her own person, she will get caught eventually. I'll let the AKA's handle that.

#4 No, that's fake.

#5 Necessity: things to keep me alive, sane & grounded. Luxury: things that keep me living fabulous, extremely sane & totally spoiled.

#6 yeah...why not? Everyone does not arrive at the same time. Just b/c you question yourself on why do such a thing, does not mean that it should never happen. Asking honest, thought provoking questions should happen.

#7 The advantages are numbers & more PR to the community about the activity.

#1 & #2 Immaturity

#3...not quite sure I understand the question

#1 Experiences that occured on campus would make one feel that XYZ is not for them. I have seen that happen countless times. But that is ONLY b/c of that particular chapter, not the org as a whole. Let's be honest, there are ladies that have had horrible experiences on the UG level, for whatever reason. Should that stop their desire once they graduate?

#2 B/C they have confused conceitedness for confidence. And no discretion. Even if you feel that way, why would you tell someone that....:rolleyes:

Sorors,

Ya'll aren't right! Just not right at t'all! :D :p

LMAO

#2...nahhh...I would trust the org's judgement.

#3 as in DEF org? I would have to pray on that one.

#4 I have had to carefully view the orgs b/c of some of the historical stereotypes. These orgs were here long before I was even a thought & the stereotypes came from somewhere. Before I make a lifelong committment to something, I need to make sure that I am doing the right thing.

#5 There is nothing wrong with more education...staying an extra year in college is actually a blessing.

#6 Yes, I would. My mom is her own woman, just as I am. I can't live my life for her, only myself.

Re: Honest answers only please
 

#1 No...they would smell my "sisterfriendness"

#2 No

#3 Again, much prayer on that one...$25,000...whew...

#4 That's shady...no. Me: "oh...you know that what's her face is doing what's her name's husband...dropping it like it's hot ...right?:D Memberfriend: :rolleyes: :o

I'd be mad at myself for even having that little convo...

As an interest, if your manfriend or husband insisted you NOT pursue membership, would you not pursure membership? Let's assume he is NOT a member of a fraternity.

As an interest, your manfriend or husband (not greek) does not have a problem with you pursuing membership. You become a memeber and you become VERY active. Manfriend or husband does not like the time you spend away from him. He suggests that you discontinue your affiliation with the organization, would you?

eternal optimism...or just dumb...

I just came back to the board and hope I'm not late in posting on this thread.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by AKA2D '91
[B]gurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrllllll..we are >>>here<<<


My questions:
Why do SFs ask "bold" questions on the internet, but won't DARE ask a Soror in person?
It's easier to ask questions
anonymously than in person where you might get your feelings hurt.

Why do SOME SFs ask some of the most ridiculous questions without searching for the answer, if a answer exists?
Some questions that you may feel are ridiculous, some people may not and may have searched for the answer to no avail.

Why do SFs 'flip flop' orgs they are so-called interested in?
I think this depends on when they were introduced to the organizations, i.e. the expectation of members, the values of the organization, and the cohesiveness of the organization.

Why do SFs "claim" they want to be a member of XYZ, then become a member and DON'T DO JACK?
I have no answer to this question.

Is it worth thousands of dollars to become a member of XYZ, when you can do community service for free?
You are right anyone can participate in community service and make a difference in the lives others however, having the unique talents of many can make a greater impact.

Do you really want to become a member of an organization for the RIGHT reasons, or are you trying to get a man? get attention?
The right reasons for some may not be the right reasons for others. But whatever the reason it should come from your heart and be something you believe in without compromising your personal values.

Why is it that SOME SFs purport to know everything there is to know about greekdom, but have yet to become a member?
Some people may have ideas of elite intelligentisms (i just create that word) They know everything but in fact know nothing.

Why put on a facade to try to get sponsorship?
I don't think it is a facade, I think it's selling yourself to someone who may not have had the opportunity to work with you yet.

Why look to an organization to define who you are? Why not have a sense of self BEFORE you join?

GREAT!
 

What an interesting co-inky-dink! To think that, not only did I attend Florida A&M University, but I also graduated in 2002!

Thanks, Islandgirl for giving me so much useful information. Let me make sure I have it correct before I proceed. You:

Went to Florida A&M University

Graduated 2002

Were a journalism major (two of my closest friends were also journalism majors who graduated in 2002. I wonder if they know anyone in their classes who worked with you on:

The FAMUAN, NABJ, and the FAMU magazine (really helpful info. )

You now live in Southwest DC

And you've done community sevice work with International Rescue Committee, AIDS Walk, Africare, Welcome to America Project

Islandgirl, you have provided me with everything BUT your name. It is too bad that, with all of the information you've given me, I still couldn't possibly figure out who you are without having your name :rolleyes:

Thanks for playing. I'll probably call you later.

Questions: What is your address, social security number, and mother's maiden name?


SF: See how that works? That is why we tell you to be DISCREET! Take this as a LESSON.

I didn't know you were being sarcastic. It's too bad people from the same alma mater can't get to know eachother. I thought that's what this board was for.

Oh, we can definitely get to know each other. Even RAttlers need to be DISCRETE about their interest in Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc.

Rattlers: Keeping the Orange Brighter and the Green Tighter.

A few of the Sorors are getting together for Extrav, you are more than welcome to come through.

ETA: You thought a board named "GREEKCHAT" and a Forum named "ALPHA KAPPA ALPHA" was for people from the same Alma Mater to get to know each other? :confused: :confused:

I guess I'll keep that in mind for future reference.

Hey hey now...some Rattlers know what Discretion is! :p

As for the last comment, I might not agree (as far as using GC as a means to get to know fellow alumni) but I don't see anything wrong with sisterfriends browsing and participating in the various conversations. Because as continuously stated, there are more topics on here that are unrelated to anything greek than there are not.

I didn't mean it that way. I mean for people to network. Members and sisterfriends.

Re: Discretion
 

My dear fellowrattler, she said that she thought that is what the board "WAS FOR". I am certain that the creators of greekchat did not intend for it's purpose to be "for members of the same alma mater to get to know each other".

That is like saying "I thought Alpha Kappa Alpha was for throwing fun parties". Although, throwing fun parties is allowed in Alpha Kappa Alpha and it is practice, it by no means is what Alpha Kappa Alpha IS FOR.

Noted and understood. As she stated above, she didn't mean it that way, so that was a misunderstanding on my part.