Soror SteelTrap she is 36 years old.

Whoa. I was 36 when I became a Soror. I was very shhhhh about my desires. ;)

Well that young lady you wrote about needed a very DIFFERENT kind of help.

You should let her know that they have medications for things like that now. Delusions CAN be dangerous, lol.

First, let me say that I can speak for ME and only ME. I am a SF that is VERY interested in Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. I truly appreciate ALL help that has been given to me. I feel that as SF's, we need to research with what God gave us. We (for the most part) were blessed with two hands, two feet, a mind, and COMMON SENSE. Common sense...hmmm...well, some of us have and some of us never will!!!:eek: We must use these gifts given to us to research & study.

Never have I expected to be handed any help or information...and definitely not on a platter for that matter. Nor do I expect anyone to help me because I feel it is not their obligation. If anyone should be obligated to do anything, it's me. I should feel obligated to get off my a$$ and work for what it is that I want. Do we work hours at our jobs only to have our paychecks given to someone who's sat on their a$$???? So why should some SF's be handed "paychecks" if they've sat on their a$$e$ expecting the ladies of AKA do the work????

I learned a very valuable saying that proved to be very true and helpful while I was basic training. It is also helpful when it comes to discretion. "It is better to be seen than to be heard."

I wasn't going to post my thoughts on this but the inspiration hit me to share from my experience. When I was interested, I did some bold, idiotic things. I won't mention them, but trust me regret them now. I just went about things the wrong way. When I went to rush for the first time, I was not accepted. When I look back, I can honestly say that I was not ready. The second time I went to rush, I was selected. Let me tell you why...I stopped thinking that I knew everything (which was hard) and I LEARNED TO BE HUMBLE!!! When I put it in God's hands and said if it's in His will for me to be an AKA, then I'll be an AKA.

Trust me and my soror's when we tell you that everything is not for you to know right now. I've been a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. since December 5, 1999 and I STILL don't know everything there is to know about our sisterhood. So going on the internet and expecting the answers to be right there......it's not gonna happen. The road to Alpha Kappa Alpha is a life-long journey. Becoming a member is just a foot step on the path.

Say that, Soror!

Would love the Help from a member
 

I have frequented greekchat and read through many a posts and still have questions I would like answered, as trivial or "stupid" as it may seem to someone else. The stupidest (is that a word:-) question in my opinion is the one that is never asked.

Since you really don't entertain membership-related questions what are we as sisterfriends to do? Not to say the other conversations aren't engaging, or that I only want to pump you for information. I know the obvious answer is to ask the member that we know or have a relationship with.....however, for me I feel that is is a little difficult and I am in a bit of a different situation.

So I truly am looking for guidance, recommendations and constructive criticism, and just another perspective.

Re: Would love the Help from a member
 

Oh..OK HumbleHeart we are so sorry that you are having such a struggle.

In that case, below is information regarding all of our history, rituals, procedures and rules. On behalf of my sorors here on GC, we are so sorry that this information hasn't been provided to you sooner. If you need further information about particular events, rushes and membership on your campus, I'm sure that my sorors here on GC can certainly answer all of your questions. Afterall, all of my sorors, internationally, have psychic connections - - 'ya know - - it's part of something we do in our rituals!!!

PPPPsssssssssyyyyyyyccccccchhhhhhheeeeeeee!

Come on now...what are you thinking? What should you do? Get up and do your own research. AKA is not a hand-out.

Everything that you, as a "interest" needs to know is available via our international website - at www.aka1908.com

If it's not there, you don't need to know it. If you are ever granted with the honor of being extended an invitation to membership, further information will be extended to you - on an "as you need to know" basis.

Confused by your post
 

Clearly, I didn't ask for anything from anyone. I merely posted an opinion to a post. No disrespect intended, but did you read that much into my post to think that I wanted that kind of information?

Did I say I was struggling? Did I say I wanted any of "information regarding all of our history, rituals, procedures and rules. On behalf of my sorors here on GC, we are so sorry that this information hasn't been provided to you sooner. If you need further information about particular events, rushes and membership on your campus, I'm sure that my sorors here on GC can certainly answer all of your questions. After all, all of my sorors, internationally, have psychic connections - - 'ya know - - it's part of something we do in our rituals!!!"

I merely mentioned "membership-related" and you truly jumped the gun. I have read and researched information to the extent that information is available about Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. Maybe I shouldn't have said membership-related, so much as it maybe more proper protocol or etiquette and respect. True enough, each chapter, and individual may be different, which is why I said guidance, constructive criticism, or a different perspective. Moreover, if your perception was that I was needing some bit of "help" connecting on the undergraduate level, not so, this is a graduate membership pursuit.

Your is definitely a different perspective and not one that I expected from my post. So as not to any further confusion, I'll just ask my question and maybe someone will answer it....

The graduate chapter where I live is quite large. I have probably been formally introduced to somwhere between a quarter and a third of the women. However, I am unsure as to what proper etiquette dictates in this circumstance. Should I wait to be introduced or take it upon myself to complete introductions? The otherside to this, is because women have constantly seen me at events, some of the members have approached me. But, is it "bad" that I am not approaching many/any women? Is this something members notice? I dont want to seem standoffish or as if I think I am a shoe-in. Thsi is definitely not the case.

Re: Confused by your post
 

May I ask this: did your reading and research include peeping some of the users' guides that our moderators have been generous enough to provide for visitors to the Alpha Kappa Alpha forum here on GreekChat? :confused:

Re: Confused by your post
 

Lemme put it to you this way, since I personally have worked with both my Sorors Prayerfull and Steeltrap:

Firstly, are you a Godly woman? If you following in His footsteps, then why do you have worries?

How do you handle corporate communications in front of large groups of unknown people? Do you debate logically and fairly? Or do you take it personally? Do you present yourself in a mature matter at all times? How do you handle yourself in a corporate interactions?

The fact is, whereever you go, whatever you do is under close scrutiny... You must learn on the job or as you go. You must be aggressive in your pursuits, and mindful of your respect to your superiors... This idea is irrespective if you are interested in Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. or trying to obtain an expensive corporate account...

So your behavior must show the utmost of womanliness, always... That is a fact--even in your written communications, even in chat rooms... All the D4 sororities compare notes, often... And your fear should lie where your presentation of yourself has come into play... And that comes from home training and your mother/grandmother telling you it... And sometimes you can learn it on your own and be successful in the D4 Sorority world, but I skerioussssly doubt it...

Passing the torch?
 

hmmmmmmm. you know, I would have replied like this 'back in the day. ;) The next generation of GC, perhaps?


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Re: Re: Confused by your post
 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by AKA_Monet
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How do you handle corporate communications in front of large groups of unknown people? Do you debate logically and fairly? Or do you take it personally? Do you present yourself in a mature matter at all times? How do you handle yourself in a corporate interactions?

As a sisterfriend I have to agree with AKA_Monet. If you were at a corporate event how would you handle yourself. As prospective members we of couruse are under close observation at all time when we participate in events. As a better guide think of this, how would you want the members to remember youwhen you walk out of the room...and then next time they see you. First inpressions are lasting ones!! ;)

Sisterfriend
 

Although,I am surrounded by people from different organizations that help me, any extra help is greatly needed and more importantly, greatly appreciated. If someone from an organization corrects me on a mistake I made, I apologize and thank them for the help. After all, they are at the place I am trying to get to. I am young and very eager to learn about different organizations. But, from my many experiences with different organizations I have learned to be HUMBLE. I would hate for my eagerness to destroy my chances of getting in. So, once again, any help that is offered to me is RECEIVED.

It's been a long time since I've posted on this board but I just wanted to add my 2 cents. As a sisterfriend I don't feel the need to ask anyone questions about membership anymore.

Everything I need to know I have learned from AKA1908.com and reading newsletters on the web of the different regions of AKA. (Especially, of the region I'm interested in obtaining membership.)

In addition to that I've done enough digging to be able to purchse a copy of an Alpha Kappa Alpha history book. (No, it's not Through the Years).

The moral of the story is when there's a will, there's a way. Hope that helps!

If you don't mind me asking, what book is that?

Even though I'm not a member, why am I :confused: at what other book she may have obtained?

I went back and read my post from way back when. Still feel the same way...if it is meant to be, it shall be. I tell interests for Gamma Sig the very same thing.

NEVER say NEVER!

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Everything I need to know I have learned from AKA1908.com and reading newsletters on the web of the different regions of AKA. (Especially, of the region I'm interested in obtaining membership.)

Go on girl! You are ON it! :rolleyes:

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In addition to that I've done enough digging to be able to purchse a copy of an Alpha Kappa Alpha history book. (No, it's not Through the Years).

WONDERFUL! MOST History books are available to the Public. Owning a history book (official or not official) does NOT gurantee membership. LOL, frankly ROTFLMAO!

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The moral of the story is when there's a will, there's a way. Hope that helps!

The moral of these responses is to let peeps know that they should NOT count their chickens BEFORE they hatch. Regardless of the information they have, don't have, can obtain or cannot obtain.

The book is authorized! I'll say that much. It's really not a 'history book'. It talks about the history but not in great detail. It highlights major events such as the Boules and past presidents. And no I didn't get it from Ebay either!

You aren't talking about that book by "Big Walt", are you? Say it ain't so....

Honey, I said the book is AUTHORIZED!!!! I'm not that foolish............

:confused:

Ok, it's called 'Past is Prologue'. It was written by Marjorie Parker. I don't know if it's an updated version of 'Through the Years' but it's fairly recent. I found it by accident.

Dangggg...
 

*Humph* nice find....


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Refind.Diva what's up Sis??!!! :D We should catch up sometime this week! Email me when you get a moment!

Help is grately appreciated!!!
 

Forgive me, distinguished members of Alpha Kappa Alpha Soroity, Incorporated, for bringing an old topic back from the dead but since the time of the original start of this thread, many new interested sisterfriend have joined the masses, I being one of them. I am a seriously interested sisterfriend and I can speak for only me...The words of wisdom and advice that I have received from any member of your illustrious sisterhood are taken to heart and kept in mind during my everyday life. Since this is a lifelong commitment, comments that are received from those that are already where I pray to one day be are heeded and kept very close to my heart since that is where my interest in your sisterhood is also.

Once again, this is my first post and, although I have read all the announcements that have been posted, I do not want to break any rules so forgive me if I was wrong for bringing back an old topic and please let me know. Thank you in advance.

Jazadah

lawd, oh lawd...
 

Sweetie good luck on your quest...

Your entire post indicates to ME that you don't know as much as you espouse.

Dag....I wonder why they called you "Judge Judy" ? :confused: :p :D

Hey! I wondered the same thing! :cool:

Initially, I started not to post since this thread was started long ago. But since it's been resurrected and there's probably someone new looking for info on the web everyday--lemme share some of my lessons with you.

Please do your OWN research. I know you've read this over and over again, but the members are saying this for a reason. I have done my own research and continue to learn something new or gain a new perspective everytime I open my binder of things that I have collected over the years. Besides, you'll get a great deal of satisfaction from uncovering things on your own.

Consider your questions before you ask. I know that I don't want to see the day come when Members refuse to conversate with sisterfriends about anything because the questions and comments have gotten out of hand. I have been fortunate enough to meet some wonderful people at various forums, including members of AKA.

With that said, ask yourself how much can a member in Texas help you if you live in New Jersey? Don't always take the World Wide web (www) literally. It only goes so far before we have to start meeting members in our own communities.

Be careful of what you say and who you confide in. This applies to everyone. Sad to say, but not everyone has the same agenda.

Okay peeps and peepettes. I have cleaned the thread. Please, just answer the question, state your points and move on...

THANK YOU! :D