crystal, there is a home in there for you!! i just know it!!

hurray!!! as everyone has said, first day of parties is not always the greatest time to get to really know the chapter. you still have great groups to choose from!! relax, have fun, and knock their socks off!

Thanks for the encouragement! I'm really excited about 2 of the groups that I have left, and even though I expected to be cut heavily, it was still a blow and a disappointment. One of the groups that I'm going to I'm very excited about, but I don't know that they've ever bid an upperclassman. I'm thrilled to get to know more of them today!
Something that ocurred to me last night when I stopped and sat still long enough for common sense to settle in. We can only join one group, so it really doesn't matter how many I get invited back to as long as there's one (that I love) come Bid Day...

I keep thinking of things I forgot. One of the groups that I'm going back to has stuck in my head as "If it were a perfect world where I got everything that I wanted, I want to be in ..."

I'm wearing comfortable shoes tonight. I have blisters from the monstrosities that I wore yesterday!

Hope all the other MTSUers are having a great time!

I know I got cut the heaviest first round...it's my least favorite round, honestly. I know you're disappointed, but you still have AWESOME groups to choose from. Please consider what sugar & spice said...SDT was NOT my favorite group at the start. If I had dropped out when my favorite group dropped me, I would have never found my home. I was conflicted all the way until Prefs...and then I just knew what I had to do.

You sound pretty optimistic, though. Hang in there...we're all pulling for you!

Crystal -- keep your head up and SMILE -- you will find your home sweetie --we are all rootin' for ya - esp me! Hugssssssssssssssss:)

you have three great groups left. keep your head up. and understand cuts are not necessarily fair. crystal, you're a smart, talented girl. do not let this bring you down.

At one point, I was pretty disappointed by rush because I got cut hard, and the three girls on my floor that I rushed with all got EVERY invite.

My RX told me the following:

Two of my favorite groups were still on my list (of five). Forget that the other fourteen sororities exist, and pretend I am starting rush with five groups. I was sure to love one of them by bid day.

I had a wonderful time tonight. I still love France! I want this group. I felt absolutely wonderful and so comfortable there. Like I said, if it were a perfect world and I got everything that I wanted, I would get this group. I didn't finish my craft here because we were talking so much. :)

I still loved Canada. Actually, I loved them more than last night. The girls that I met both came and found me to say hello, which was really sweet. I talked to the most people here.

I actually enjoyed Ireland this time. The girl I talked to was really really sweet, and the conversation wasn't forced at all. I was pretty comfortable here tonight, and I think that I could be happy here, but they're not my first choice.

As it stands now, I'm ranking them

1. France
2. Canada
3. Ireland

Here are the activities (in no particular order.)

KD - we made little buckets with stickers, candy, pencils, and wrote little notes for the children they would go to.

XO - we made cute little felt puppets that will be sent to a couple of different places, one of which is St. Jude's in Memphis.

ADPi - we made little coloring books that had so many object with a lttle flap covering the number. These will go to the local head start program.

I would love to go back to all of these, and I feel like I really clicked with everyone tonight. Now, I'm just afraid I'll be cut because I'm so much older. Keep the encouragement coming! It's much needed, felt, and appreciated!!!

I get my invites tomorrow, but won't be able to post until tomorrow night.

i am so happy for you!!!!!!!!!!

Congrats on a great day Crystal!! I love your positive attitude, and I'm sure France, Canada & Ireland do too! :D

Keep smiling & hopefully you'll soon find your new home. We're cheering for you!!

Yay! Glad to hear you had a great night!!

Crystal -- I hope you get invited back to all three GLOs!:)

that is the best advice! you are soooo smart!!! i am glad you had a good time today! i am glad that you had a better time at ireland, too! have fun in class tomorrow! i don't even know how you will be able to concentrate all day waiting for those invites!

I'm glad you had a good time tonight, and that your tour of Ireland was better! I'm hoping you'll be traveling all over the world tomorrow night too!

Crystal, we are all so ecstatic that your long search for a Greek home is going so well! Best wishes for your invites and I'm glad you enjoyed all three houses. You have a great attitude toward recruitment!!!

Hey Crystal!
 

Hey girl!
I hope you had fun tonight! You looked cute! I know I had me some craft making fun! hehe!!!!

Here is what the other sororties did for Philantrophy that Crystal did not mention (in case other girls would like to know from the different schools!)

AXO - We made patches for quilts...very cute!
DZ - We made turtle cuvers for IV bags for the little kiddies!
AOpi - We made stress balls for their arthritus (sp?) philantrophy.....

GOOD LUCK TOMORROW! let me know how it goes!

Hey Crystal,

Sending more good vibes your way that all 3 invite you back.:D :)

Keep your chin up! Can't wait read tomorrows posting.;)

Hey girl! Im sorry that you got cut from some of your favs but i did too at least with one but its ok im loving the girls at some of the others too I honestly am not sure which one im going to cut if im not dropped tonite of course we'll find out tomorrow ya know :) which Rho Sigma group are you in cause im in 6 and we are so gonna have to meet up sometime!!! Good Luck on the rest of the week :) Im sure youre going to end up in a place that you LOVE!!!

Nichole

Good luck to all my fellow Tennesseeans during Recruitment!

Crystal, I'm so happy that you have such a lovely attitude towards recruitment. Whichever "country" gives you their passport, I'm sure you're going to make a wonderful ambassador!

I'm also glad that Ireland went better this time! ;)

I see Crystal in here!! Hopefully she's posting!!

Well, I was only invited to one tonight, but let me just say that this is the chapter of my dreams!

Ireland cut me :), as did Canada :( but I can honestly say that I feel no disappointment. I loved Canada, I liked Ireland, but France has been my dream home since I can remember noticing sororities on my campus. I just never thought it was realistic. I don't know that it's realistic now, since Pref isn't until tomorrow and I'm practically a senior citizen next to some of these girls, but I hope I hope I HOPE that I get to Pref tomorrow!

Question about suiciding: I don't have a choice about it, seeing as how I'm only attending one party (if I make it to Pref night). One person had advised me to list another group that I liked in case of snap bidding, but I don't get it no matter how many times I read the quota thread, the 500 suicide threads, etc. It would seem to me that attending only one party I should only write down one name.

MTSU - You can put down a second sorority, whether they invited you back or not. That way, you don't suicide. You can do this even if they didn't invite you back.

Crystal, I put down a sorority on my pref card that I didn't attend pref parties for. You can still do that!

You can put down a second sorority that you really liked. I wish you the best! Vive la France! :)

so since there is only one left, can we know what they are!? :))))

Unless your local Panhellenic has some weird rules, you can't be "punished" for suiciding if you were only invited to one pref.

I agree, but it doesn't hurt to put down the two. You never know!

i suicided. i was in the same situation you are in and felt I had to since every other house had cut me after second rounds (i had the worst rush experience of all time). in a way it made it really easy...i just filled in my pref card, signed it and gave it to the plady looking over them. of course i had to listen to her for about 3 minutes lecturing me on suiciding and i ended up almost in tears trying ot explain to her that i was cut from everywhere else, but it was worth it when i made it past the time the rho chis had to tell women they were cut and i hadn't been called. just don't listen to those who try and talk you out of suiciding. most houses only invite those on their bid list to pref. i wish i had known that before :) just have a blast and don't worry about anything.

Just my 2¢
 

As you can see, there are definitely pros and cons about suiciding. The one thing I would add is, you have to remember that you may have only been cut by the tiniest of margins. If a chapter must release a certain amount of women between each party (a LOT of schools make the sororities do that!), maybe they could only invite 50 back, but you were listed 51st.

Please take that into consideration. From what I've read in your thread, yes, you love France, but you also were comfortable in Canada and Ireland. You waited this long to be part of the Greek system - don't cut off your nose to spite your face!

Sure... in a PM. I love this group, and can't imagine ever saying anything negative about them. The only reason I'm still holding out is because I want to keep ya'll in suspense. :)

Tonight was SO MUCH FUN. The theme was "Real World", and they talked about how they loved France because they felt comfortable there, knew they could be real, be themselves, and not someone that they had to pretend to be. That really hit home tonight and let me tell you why:
I pulled a groin muscle sitting in a wierd posititon last night for Philanthropy night, but didn't hurt until I was teaching a girl how to do a cartwheel at work, then the splits, and then "OHMIGOD I'M HURTING REALLY BAD!" I had this really cute dress to wear, these really cute shoes, but I couldn't wear the shoes. I had to wear HOUSESHOES. My only houseshoes are pink, fuzzy slippers with bows on the sides. If it had been any other group, I wouldn't have gone in there with them on - I would have suffered. I felt so at home here. My rho sigma, the sweetest girl in God's creation, had the recruitment director tell the French girls ahead of time what had happened. The girls I talked to were wonderful, and very understanding.
So after the fiasco with the pulled muscle I had a VERY INCONVENIENT situation (are you with me girls, cause I ain't spelling it out!) that was of course taken care of by my rho sigma.

I want this group. The best thing that could've happened to me was being cut everywhere else so that I could really see without a doubt that this is my home. Let's all hope that they let me move in. :) If I don't get in, I'll be disappointed but ok.

I talked to my rho sigma, and she said it wouldn't be considered suiciding to put down just the one group, but I thought about putting down Canada as a second choice just in case.

There's a girl going through that is bipolar, and she told my rho sigma today that if she didn't get an invite back to her favorite it would send her into the hospital again. How's that for pressure!
I can honestly say that I am SO glad that I waited to go through rush. I feel like I am havig all the benefits without (much) of the heartache. There was really only a couple of hours that were bad, but I got to spend a lot of time getting to know my Rho Sig and her sister that I wouldn't have had if I had have been invited bacl to every party.
Thanks for the support girls! I'll check in tomorrow after I know if I've made it to pref!

Crystal, after everything you've been through, I surely hope that you're saying "Oo, la, la!" to your new "French" sisters by tomorrow!!!!!

Good luck, Sweetie!

Vive Le France!!! I'm so sorry about your aches and pains, but I'm glad you had a good party tonight!!!

Sending positive vibes your way!

In regards to suiciding - yes, you can put more than one group, even if you didn't attend their pref -- BUT, keep in mind that if you put down those groups, and one snaps you, you are OBLIGATED to that chapter for an entire year, regardless of whether or not you accept their bid.

A con for suicding is (thanks to whomever put it in such great words) you could've been cut by a tiny margin as previously stated -- and putting down more than one may help you get a bid.

But, on the other hand, if you know that you will only be happy at one place, then you must go with your heart. It will serve no purpose for you to put XYZ down first, and ABC second -- only to have XYZ decline you and ABC pick you up.

So its a gamble - one is a much safer bet as far as numbers go, but the other is safer for your emotional state! I just can't wait to hear all about it :D :D

OUCH!!!! i am sorry to hear about your accident!! and the thing your rho sigma helped you with....totally happened to me during rush!!! i think it was at skit night...so it was the longest party...and it happened right at the beginning of the party. it was the worst. luckily, i knew one of the sisters and we had been paired together. she totally helped me out. lol...i even told my rho chi bc i was afraid that they would get in trouble for helping me!!! lol.

keeping my fingers crossed for you!!!

When I was a PX, we took away the term "Suiciding" and replaced it with "SIP"--- single individual preferencing. We tried not to encourage SIPping-- but there were still girls who did it. Our reasoning was that the computer program we were using would kick out a SIP, and she wouldn't get placed, even if she was on top of the first bid list. Girls SIPped anyway, so we had to do a lot of hand matching. Ai caramba!

I am a die-hard fan of my sorority, and it made me very happy in college and now as an alum, but I know I could have been just as happy if I had gotten my second choice, or even my third. I encourage every PNM to put down two choices. I think of all the women who DID get their second choice and how happy they were. I know not everyone will agree with me on this, but I do believe everything happens for a reason in our lives.

Good luck Crystal. Whatever decision you make, we are behind you 110%!

Your situation that your Rho Chi helped out with happened to me too. For years I've been thinking only something like that would have happened to me.

Crystal, best of luck for your awesome attitude! I'm glad you have such an understanding and helpful Rho Sigma. We are all hoping for the best with your pref invites.