I can't reitterate the "dress up more than what they tell you" thing. At USC when I was going through, the pictures that they gave us had a picture of a girl wearing khaki shorts and a white blouse the first day. I ended up wearing a J. Crew sundress, and trust me I fit in FINE. Most of what I saw on the other side were either sundresses or a very dressy pair of capris. If you know someone who has already gone through at your school, I'd ask them what to wear. If someone had shown up in what this picture was, they would NOT have fit in. I think they (Panhellenic) were trying to encourage dressing down on the first day, but hardly anyone did so.

i was wondering what size the pictures need to be that we send to each house?

Wallet size photographs I'm sure will be fine.

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no glamour shots(feathered boas, big hair and lots of make up). a simple head shot that really looks like you.

omg. When I was asst PH advisor at Mississipppi State, 99% of the PNMs used their graduation pictures. Then there was this girl who had a picture made with a pink feather boa- and bubbles in the background. She, of course, was immediately christened "Bubbles" by all the sororities before rush even started.

You want to stand out but not in a dorky way.

carnation
 

my post was inspired from the memory of your original post about bubbles many moons ago. i wish you had swipped the photo so we could all see her!!

OK HERE IS A GOOD ONE
 

DON'T SUICIDE> If there are 20 sororities or 4, I am sure there is more then one group of girls that you get along with. You of course will put your first and second choices on your bid list but don't forget your third and forth.

More then likely you will get what you think you will get (unless there is alot of dirty rushing going on) but if there is a close second or a distant third and you don't write anything down but one sorority, believe me, you are setting your self up for potential disappointment. (as recruitment advisor I have seen some pretty upset girls who did not receive a bid at all due to suicide bids)

You will be more unhappy with no bid and you (I am 99% sure) will get along quite well with your 2nd or 3rd choice because obviously they saw something in you that makes them know you would fit in there. (and don't forget they have been through this before.)

HAVE FUN MEETING NEW PEOPLE!

Use common sense: remember the weather! If its raining out, remember to wear shoes that will be fine walking in the puddles. Don't spend two hours straightening your hair if its 100% humidity. If its freezing, wear your warmest coat and figure out a hairstyle that can work with a hat! The sororities figure you might bring a coat and will be able to put it somewhere.

This has probably already been mentioned, but ---

It's great to look at all the sororities' websites prior to recruitment... it's a nice little PR tool to see what the chapters do.. what their symbols are, etc...... however, do not sign the guestbooks with "I can't wait to join your chapter" or "I really like what I see here and I want to join when I go to your school in Fall XX". As flattering as it is, people (even from other sororities) can potentially see it and it might work against you if you signed every house's guestbook that way.. or if you only did some.. or whatever.. ya'll get my point ;)

Bumping because it's an oldie but a goodie.

What to Wear
 

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OH I couldn't agree more with this! And don't wear excessive makeup - usually it just looks fake and it's a total turnoff! Mascara, concealer if needed, and natural looking lip color should do enough on their own.

I said this in another thread and I'll say it again, your attitude is of vital importance, so present yourself in the most positive light you can. :)

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LOLWTF. Is there a size-checker at the door of each house? How on earth would anybody know what size you're wearing?

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May I ask what school you joined your sorority?

The pressures for young women are always "difficult" but each campus is different.

We only want to make sure that they don't make these mistakes going in :)

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What? Are you saying that there are schools where, during rush, sorority members will peer into rushees' clothing to check the label to see what sizes they are wearing?

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I am not saying that at all I am saying we are offering rushees advice and that certain schools do place more emphasis on looks.

Where you joined your sisterhood may be different from the way things are done elsewhere...

I think what she's looking for is "did you go to a school with a competitive rush system?" so if you don't want to disclose your school, fine, but I think it's an interesting point to make.

I'm gonna step down from my soapbox now :)

It's an interesting point how?

Listen, I was responding to this comment:

a lot of times girls will buy a smaller size than they really are because they don't want anyone to know that they're bigger

I'm saying that in the rush context, that is ridiculous because unless you went to some jacked up school, no sorority member rushing you could possibly know what size clothing you are wearing.

young women have insecurities about their dress size, I was told you did not rush and are an AI and by that point hopeully looks and weight are not as imoportant when selecting women to join. It is just different

What's the point of creating a troll identity to make posts like these?

I don't think she was specifically referring to dress size when she ask the question, rather how much the sororities took appearance into consideration.

At my school, if you shacked with a fraternity boy, he would wake up in the middle of the night, cut the tags out of your jeans, and send them to all the sororities. By the time rush started, everybody knew that you were wearing a size two when you were actually a four. This is why you shouldn't shack, ladies.

And don't call my school jacked up. It's just a different culture here. You couldn't possibly understand it unless you went here.

I assure you I am not a troll. I have read the threads before and posted under an older name, but I do not remember the handle. You are an AI though correct? If bringing up that fact is offensive in anyways then I apologize, I did not mean to insult you by saying you were an AI.

imho
 

OK WOW, before this gets way to heated. And, before we all make the "shallow sorority girl" theory correct. The point of appearance being important is that. . . .


LOOK as nice as you can in whatever you wear. You are more then likely joining a sorority that is the most "like you." Would you want to join a social orgainzation that doesn't take care of themselves? Would you want to join a chapter that doesnt know how to groom theirselves or doesn't know how to dress.

My personal experience on the sororities side is NOT that we didn't want "fat girls" it was that we didnt was "nasty girls."

There are some girls that went through recruitment that were maybe slim but not slim enough to wear a "shortie" skirt or a girl that should try to wear sleeves, instead of one of those "summer" sleeveless numbers. Not that we would release them but that would be all we would remember. I mean hello 1st impressions matter.

So, dress for success. Wear something comfortable and attractive. If a sorority releases you because you are wearing a 10 instead of a 6 then don't worry about it. (I don't think that happens)

I assure you you ARE.

Dee34 said girls would buy a smaller size because they don't want anyone to know they are bigger.

Valkyrie didn't understand what that has to do with the discussion because unless the sorority sisters are sticking their heads down your shirts and pants to see the tags, no one will know what size you're wearing,

It had NOTHING to do with whether or not appearance is important or AIs or skepi or Dalia Terry or anything, it had to do with Dee having a faulty line of logic.

Thank you, drive through.

That's just rude!

Why is it that you and Valkyrie just don't get what she's saying? No one suggested that the girls are going to look at anyone's clothing tags. What she was saying is don't try to squeeze into clothing that's too small for you.

Oh Jesus H. Christ, she's back. :rolleyes:

Now THAT would be a story for the weird rush stories thread! :D

I see what ya'll are saying here but I do believe everyone misunderstood what she said. She is simply trying to say that PNMs (or anyone for that matter) should wear clothes that are flattering on their body type. Size doesnt matter in my opinion but if i were to see say a size 4 girl stuffed into a size 00 pants I wouldn't know what size she is wearing, however I would know that the pants are obviously too small.

Well ladies take care :)

One huge advice: If you are thinking about rushing in the fall of 2006 and if you will be a first semester freshman (and will attend a southern school), DO IT! I know that you need to adjust to life on campus, but not rushing in your freshman year will come back to haunt you.

Also, on a post there was someone's parent that got mad at her for joining a sorority becasue of the activites being late at night. You women are adults (or almost adults). It's time that you make your own decisions. If you make your mom and dad happy by not joining, you will make yourself unhappy, and you could blame your parents later on.


You guys brought up a point about weight issues. I think that a heavy girl would have her ego crushed not only if she was cut because of her weight, but also by the number of times to got through rush because of her weight. When she gets cut, she is more likely to eat to cope with her depression. Many heavy people do that.

If a plus sized girl have it in her heart to rush, let her do it. I think it's the good Lord who put it in her heart. And remember, it's what's on the inside that counts. Just because a girl is say, obese doesn't mean that she has a bad personality. She may have good personality.

Daaaaaang this is gonna come off like I'm a real big bitch...

But maybe some of y'all should wait until you've actually rushed successfully to be doling out the advice :rolleyes:

I would like to marry you right about now.

PRO-FUN!

And I have to clean off the monitor again!!! :D

I didn't have a successful rush, but I giving advice based on my experience (i.e. didn't take advantage of rushing in my freshman year) and based on what y'all said. I've learned so much from you guys.

WTF?

But yeah, I agree with what has been said- if you haven't successfully rushed, on multiple occasions, you're not really in a position to give advice. Especially when some of your advice is really messed up

I kind of saw it as, “Learn from other people’s mistakes. Life is too short to make them all yourself.”

Seriously though, some people’s hearts may be in the right place but the reasoning is throwed to the left.

Well, I don't know what to say to that. Except, I'm sorry that you feel that I am a [insert expletive], I did not mean to offend anyone here.