so happy for your daughters!

Congrats to all the DD's! Happy to report that DD also received three invites and all were houses she really loves. So proud of her for sticking it out. UA recruitment is a machine!

Sounds like that "back to school bug" has been passed around...lots of sniffles and coughs going around.

DD sent a quick text at noon to say that she received 3 invites, to great houses she loves. This process has been grueling both physically and emotionally. Glad that we are near the finish line!

I am waiting to hear from my "niece"... and its killing me. GRRR Anyone know what time Pref Parties are over so that I can start harassing her for an update? Perhaps this is why I was never blessed with children, God knows I could probably not handle the anxiety of an actual daughter going through Recruitment. LOL I'm a hella mess!

LOL - They end at 7:50 p.m., then they all go to the Ferguson Center to rank...they have until 10:30 p.m. to rank.
Could be a long night!

Greek Chic says 7:40 Tentative for the last party slot...not sure what that means, though.

Sorry for the double post...I forgot to add, though, that at 7:40ish they walk in silence to turn in their preference cards for the final time. Each Rho Chi group was assigned a time or some sort of order to do this. That could go as late as 10:30.

So nervous!
 

Hi all, my DD is rushing at UA. She is very slightly below the 3.0 (a high 2.9, if they rounded up she'd be there). She knew it was going to be a tough week, but she's weathered the storm. The problem she has (and I do too, being her mom) is she's going to 2 pref parties. House A, she loves and wants to join, House B she can't see herself in at all. I told her to keep her options open, look for good in all. It's not that she doesn't think house "B" is a bad house, she just doesn't feel the fit - at all. She is thinking about suiciding. I've told her it's called that for a reason. Any advice?

Tough call. Personally, I would never SIP at Bama because they are all great chapters. That's not just fluff.

With that said, if she feels she can absolutely not accept a bid to #2, then she shouldn't list them. It isn't fair to that chapter.

When I look at the stats from last year, most women got their first choice but each year is different and you just never know. If she SIPs she won't be eligable to be placed as a quota addition to either chapter so it's a huge gamble. It could work out or DD could miss her opportunity to join a great community.

YES!

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=129632

READ THIS THREAD AND CALL HER ASAP.

After you read that, know this: If her top choice puts her on their top list, she will get them. She will get them if they dip into their 2nd list. But if she is too far down she gets nothing. No opening of the bid cards, no screaming girls in pink running the roads....nothing. There are no do overs.

You have seen all the stuff about the trials and tribulations of sophmore and transfer students. Alabama is one of those campuses that it can be really disappointing to be not greek when all the rest of your friends are greek - missing out on swaps and game days etc.

I would encourage anyone to try it rather than SIPing. Try it, you might be two steps away from your new best friend. Yes chapters will COB - but you might only get one or two choices and that might not be where your friends are either.

It might be your only chance.

It's from that "other" school but it's an excellent explanation of the ins and outs of pref, SIP, snap bids and COB.
https://fp.auburn.edu/greek/Files/PrefDayPrimer13.pdf

With chapters as large as Bama, any PNM has only met a very small fraction of the chapter. Can anyone really be sure she doesn't fit in until she meets more women? Bama strikes me as one of those campuses where it's one and done, so to speak. I would give that second sorority a chance until initiation. If isn't not right after 6-8 weeks, ok. But to say you don't fit into a chapter after a few moments of chatting with a few women...

AnchorAlumna - Do you know if Bama goes the extra step of not allowing SIPs to be eligable for snap bids! I know that was a campus choice from the "other" school but not a NPC mandate.

Its kind of a moot point since the only chapters that can snap bid are those that did not make quota.
If after quota at formal recruitment they do not make total, or if total is raised, chapters below total can COB. That usually has more options

NervousNellie, I think the best thing you can ask her is "Would you rather accept a bid to your 2nd option or not in a sorority at all?" because that might be her choices....

She said none at all. I need to respect her wishes. It is her life, not mine! She feels quite secure with her first house, but I know that NOTHING can be counted on. I think she is aware of this as well. I do respect the fact that she does not want to join a house just to be Greek, and is willing to wait for next year if it doesn't happen. I gave her a nest, she has her own wings and choices. I just hope it all works out.

You have a really good attitude, NervousNellie! I'll wish good things for your little bird.

You sound like a great mom. I just hope your daughter educated herself enough to know that more than likely, this is her only chance. Like a few posters above me, Bama is pretty much one and done. Some Sophomores are successful, but those are not "re-rushing" Sophomores, those are girls that did not rush as freshman for whatever reason.

Ditto Ditto Ditto to the comment above. This is Alabama we're talking about......

Good Luck nervousnellie to you and your daughter.

She listed both houses! Feeling better already!

GC members, thank you for talking a nervous mom off the ledge. I feel so much better. This is a very kind group!

Good luck to her!

Funny. Not everyone who comes on here finds us too friendly :) Of course, they generally are asking for us to blow sunshine up their skirts and homey don't play that.

nervousnellie,

When your daughter is welcomed with open arms by her new sisters and sees how thrilled they are to have her I hope she will be looking forward to wonderful times ahead.

Bid Day is an exciting time. Best wishes as she begins her college journey at Alabama.

looking forward Nervousnellie to your post on bid day.....

Am headed down early AM for Bid Day! Looking foward to seeing all my sisters! Hope everyone is thrilled with their bids.

So glad to hear she listed both groups!! Can't wait to hear the results!

Ditto!

Good Luck Bama Mamas! I'll be thinking of you all!

My rec girl dropped out before pref :-( I absolutely could not convince her to stick with it and tried explaining that this most likely would be her only chance to go Greek.

Oh...so sorry....wish she had held on. These gals....

if any of you are there and have a chance, come by the Dg house and see me!

I have 2 rec girls this year. As far as I know, 1 had a great week, and I think the other had a very good week as well.
My daughter is a senior, and is experiencing everything for the "last" time as an undergrad. Her sorority is in a "rental" house this year. so it's an unusual rush this year. Bittersweet I'm sure.
Hope to hear exciting news from both my girls tomorrow!

Will update you tomorrow? What happens if you order from the trunk and its the wrong house?

The Greek stores actually get the bid lists early enough to make up the gifts in the correct sorority items and colors. Can you imagine the security of those stores to keep the lists secret??

The gal I knew going through Bama recruitment was released before Pref :(

I had a rec. girl who was not invited to Prefs. All in all of my rec. girls, 2 had smooth experiences with some minor bumps along the way and the other 4 had rough rides, three making it to pref.

Is this the same girl I wrote the rec for? If so, I'm very sad.

Yes

Quota around 120.
Bids being opened now.
List released about 12 noon from what I understand.