Molly,

Don't worry! It will all make a ton more sense in a few months. There is a reason you're a Kappa, and I think you're already figuring that out.

I too ended up in what I thought was my second-choice sorority, but later that year I realized I was totally crazy to ever think my "1st choice" was where I belonged. As a rushee, I really had no clue what each group was about. My impressions during rush week weren't exactly accurate. I bet in a few months you'll be SO glad you didn't end up in Chi-O! (not to bash Chi-O or anything...) I just mean you will come to figure out why you were meant to be a Kappa, and why they were the ones that chose you.

It seems like things always have a way of working out how they should in rush. Your new Kappa sisters knew where you belonged, just trust the process.

Anyway, have fun with your new sisters!

Molly--You've already figured out in a day what some of us took a year to realize! If you can't just be yourself in the house, then it's not the house for you. :) You're an amazing girl. Sounds like there's a lot of chapters at UF that missed out.

MollyUF, I am so happy for you but jealous as well! Kappa is one of my favorite organizations nationally and when I visited my campus I met so many Kappas and they all struck me as being absolutely wonderful girls!!! Congratulations !!! Perhaps I will eventually be your sister - my rush isnt till January though! :D :D

Molly,

I hope your experience as a Kappa is fabulous. I think you are a great girl and know you have a lot to off to your new organization, just as it has a lot to offer you. Have FUN!!!!

Michelle

Update on Molly's Recruitment Saga
 

Hey Everyone!

I don't know how many people that followed my recruitment story on Greek Chat are still hanging around, but I have an interesting update that I thought some people might want to hear.

If you read what happened to me, the whole thing that transpired with Chi Omega was pretty terrible, upsetting and unexpected. Well, I found out DEFINITIVELY why I was cut this past week. One of my close girlfriends is a Chi Omega and she told me. This is straight from the horse's mouth.

At the beginning of last spring semester (we are talking january 2001), some of my close guy friends rushed Delta Tau Delta. As a prank their pledge class kidnapped their pledge educator/chair or whatever, and organized a scavenger hunt for the older brothers to find him. The last clue was a video they had to pick up at Hooters. They needed some girls to be in the video, so as a favor a few girls, including myself did it. There was NOTHING gratuitous about the video AT ALL. We were wearing T=Shirts that said hooters on them, that was about it.

Anyways, the whole night was just funny and I got to meet a bunch of great Delts. The next night I was at a bar and ran into a lot of them, including the Pledge Educator. He was there with his girlfriend and I introduced myself to her, just being friendly. She was a total ice queen, real bitchy and rude. I figured it was about the Hooters thing but I really didn't think twice about it.

Fast forward to August recruitment, practically 7 months later. I had my great experience at Chi Omega, it was a sure thing. Then I was dropped. Do you remember how I was taken to be introduced to the pledge educator? Well, it was that same Ice Queen bitch that was irritated about the Hooters thing. She told my friend last week, and I QUOTE:

"That's the great thing about recruitment, you can drop girls for no reason. That's what she gets for waving her boobs in my boyfriends face." :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

I didn't even recognize her when I met her during recruitment. Apparently I got a sky high rating, but since she was Rush Chair she gave me the ax anyway. What a crappy, insecure person...

Well, that's the long and the short of it. I am really disappointed that things worked out that way, because even now I can say that Chi Omega would have been a much better house for me than KKG, but I do love my sorority a lot, and I'll just have to make the best of it. How random though!

Hope everyone is doing well...

Molly

Wow! That is really terrible. I'm sorry that you got screwed over by someone so insecure. :(

Thanks for updating us, though. I hope you're having fun!

Thanks Molly for updating us! :) Please post more, we would love to hear more from you!!! :D

I loved reading your entire recruitment story, BTW...I just wish that things didn't turn out so disappointing for you!! I hope you are finding your home at Kappa, though!

Take care Molly!!

That's terrible! :eek: But if she did something that nasty during rush, you don't need her for a sister.

Glad things are working out well with Kappa. :)

HAVE FUN WITH THE DELTS!! Just be yourself, it doesn't matter if its good enough for some one else. It just takes some time little girl you're in the middle of the ride everything everything will be just fine everything everything will be alright alright.

:eek: OH MY GOSH that is absolutly awful!! I can't believe that someone could do such a thing like that...I am so sorry that happened to you sweetie! I wish you the best of luck with your sorority though!

Nichole

I'm sorry about your experience, Molly, and hope you enjoy Kappa. I would like to add that there is no such thing as a sure thing during rush. At UF and most of the other SEC schools there are many more coming through rush than can get into any one sorority.

Also, at my school we pledge very very few sophs, and its much more difficult for them during rush. UF is prolly similar. That may have been a factor, too.

Not to pass judgement on, but you did refer to your first meeting with her as the "ice queen bitch." If you felt that way at the time, then she prolly picked up on some of your feelings toward her and visa versa. It was unfortunate for you she turned out to be the rush chair.

All I can say is when PNMs meet actives during the spring and summer before rush, first impressions carry a lot of weight, and will carry over into rush. This is especially true for those larger campuses where the rush process is very hectic and competitive. It is not easy during rush to "right" a situation. And, fair or not, the rush chair is not the one to get on the wrong side of.

Again, I hope things work out well with you and KKG. They are one of the better houses on my campus.

To h2oot - yes, but...
 

Molly said:

No matter WHAT the rush chair's personal feelings were, it does not give her the right to go against the popular vote of the chapter. She is rush chair, not rush dictator.

Molly - keep enjoying Kappa, and I would bet that a year from now, you'll be scratching your head wondering how you ever thought you could be in any other sorority! Have fun :D.

Re: To h2oot - yes, but...
 

In some chapters, the rush chair has that authority. Remember, the chapter elected her because they trusted her judgement.

Re: Re: To h2oot - yes, but...
 

Ye Gads!! I can't imagine what kind of fur would have flown in my chapter if the rush chair would have gone against the majority...she would have probably gotten terminated for a stunt like that.

I know at large chapters it is done differently, but I know we pick our rush chair because we believe she can do the best job of planning rush and getting sisters and rushees excited about the sorority...not because we think her judgement of who would be a good member is superior. That is up to the whole chapter.