I agree that discretion is important, but it's also possible for Californiagirl to share her story without being found out. Specifics like clothing, decorations, conversation topics, house descriptions, etc aren't necessary- just saying "this house really impressed me- I think they are all really great and I clicked instantly with the women I met", "I'm still unsure about whether this group is for me", and "I don't think this is the right group for me" is great! It'll be a reminder for her when she looks back on everything, and if someone does find out which house is which... does it necessarily matter? Nothing negative said- not every group is for every woman, or there would just be one big sorority!

It's up to you, Californiagirl, but many women have shared their stories on GC without any issues. So long as you remain respectful and don't trash any of the groups, you should be fine! Even if you don't want to post your experience until the end, and only translate the "winning" house, that's fine. Recruitment stories certainly help those of us adicts get our fix... but they're also great for you to record your experience, get advice/support as necessary, and look back on everything several years down the road. I wish I had found it before I joined- I would love to see what I was thinking back then!

Just my two cents.

Thanks Buttonz, I don't want to say where I get invited back, just in case. I would also never say anything rude about any of the houses. I know they all have something special to offer. I have friends in almost every house, and they are all so special. I just don't want to look back feeling like people judged me because they knew I was Caligirl (good or bad). I hope everyone can understand my decision. I will let you know on bid day, and through PMs for some of you. Thanks everyone.

-Cali Girl

Good luck!
 

Best of luck to you Californiagirl! I hope rush is fun!

After reading through Curlygirl's rush at UF 2002, I'm not really worried about posting my story. I mean I wasn't planning on saying the girls at ABC were so mean and ugly and the girls at XYZ were so trashy and stuck up. I mean honestly, who in their right mind would do that. I wouldn't even say that to my friends. I mean of course the worst thing I was going to post about any sorority was "I didn't really feel a strong connection, but the girls were so enthusiastic and the one girl I talked to would be a great friend outside greek life." I don't really even see that as a negative comment. However, I don't really see how I can post my story now that all this nonsense has gone down. I already mentioned I was planning on revealing the sororities at the end, why would anyone expect me to post that I hated a particular sorority? Anyway, the point is I was planning on being discreet, just like every single other rush thread, but I feel that too much attention has been drawn to my location and legacy status now. I will def be updating through PMs and saying I went back to 8 houses or 3 houses or I preffed at ABC and QRS I love them both. I hope this is enough to feed all you addicts. Sorry again for my choice in discretion.


-Cali Girl

i wanna PM, por favor!
 

awww man! I was so excited to see a Cali thread up here, especially since i was out there this summer for the first time, and saw one of our houses-beautiful! So, I would LOOOOVE to hear your story caligirl, in PM if you prefer. It's too bad people freaked you out so much to post, but you gotta go with your gut. Good luck!

No, it is not passe. Good manners and classy dressing never become passe.

Unless you live in a very warm climate, white below the waist is inappropriate after Labor Day (unless it's winter white). White is worn during the warmer months in order to keep the wearer cooler. In the early Spring, Fall, and Winter, there's no need to keep cool. The temperatures are not high enough to warrant keeping cool. So, white below the waist is reserved for the Late Spring/Summer months. Besides, who would want to wear white shoes or a white skirt in November? I don't even wear white shoes AT ALL.

Actually I wouldn't want anyone to beg me, and I can post by whatever rules I like. I can say I'm going to UCLA and I am a double legacy. I know what the consequences are for not being discreet, and therefore whatever happens I can only blame myself. However, due to some comments made about my identity I have chosen not to post my story. I honestly don't feel that it is safe for me to share my opinions on this forum. I don't see anything wrong with that. I honestly hope that most sororities don't treat all PNMs this way.

I really mean this
 

White Fashion, should be the title. Sorry.

Where did you learn the "no white below the waist" rule? I'm really curious about sources for the rule.

I don't want to wear white all year or anything, but I was brought up with no white SHOES after Labor Day and before Easter.

When I was in college, I knew people who didn't think you should wear white dresses or all white after Labor Day. (Weirdly, during rush, I wore a white dress, but I didn't wear white shoes with it. And I thought I was being traditional. Doesn't that seem bizarro? I don't even own white shoes now. White leather just doesn't look good to me.)

and your rule says no white below the waist. (One of my friends takes this further and says White Jeans Equals White Trash, no matter what time of year.)

Where are such rules officially recorded? Are there regional guides? (My mom who taught me the no white shoes rule is from New Mexico.)

I also remember reading a story about one member of the British Royal Family catching a lot of grief because she appeared in white shoes after Labor Day. The official response was that they didn't have that rule in England.

So lets compare, if the highjack is okay. Where are you? What rule did you learn? Who was the authority for the rule?

(I live in Georgia. You can have days in the high 80s in October and it's HOT way before Memorial Day.)

It is your choice. :) Do let us know where you end up. Or even a short play by play after the fact if you feel comfortable. Sometimes we get all wrapped up in the "should she/shouldn't she" stuff, that we push the PNM out of the actual discussion.

Have a fantastic rush!

Are you seriously this interested in this?

Ok, Tennessee. Also, went to Ole Miss. Yes, I know about warm climates.

Family, church, sorority sisters, everyone I know.

Yes, Seriously interested in White
 

I've always been vaguely embarrassed about the white dress during rush.

My mom is pretty cultured and well brought up, and she thought it was okay too. We always thought the rules was about shoes.

So, whenever it comes up, I wonder how we missed the memo, and I've always wanted to understand the "rule" better.

I vote for Natalie Portman, who's real name isn't Natalie Portman, by the way. It was a no-good-for-Hollywood name. She is from Lawn Gi-Land. Oy!

Denise

I was excited to read your story as well and I'm sorry if you feel like you can't post now.

I seriously doubt that there are that many GCers from your school on this thread, so if you went back right now and edited out some of the "identifying" comments, you've got a better chance of not being "found out."

Either way, good luck to you. If you have the time and energy to share your story via PM, I'd be more than happy to read it.

I think that was Fergie. However, in the book "A Southern Belle Primer or Why Princess Margaret will never be a Kappa Kappa Gamma" by Maryln Schwartz, Princess Margaret (1) was an hour late, (2) wore pink chiffon in the middle of the afternoon (to complicate matters, her shoes were a different shade of pink), and (3) walked around the room smoking a cigarette.