Agreed! Everyone's budget, standards, customs, and opinions will be different. You would get much better insight from getting the opinions of those who you will actually be inviting. They are from your region, they know your customs, and most importantly they are who matters. By coming on a website like this, you may get some good info, but you will also get everyone's view of the perfect/tasteful wedding (as they know it) w/little regard to budget, family relations, or just plain 'Who give a f*@k? Its your wedding, your day, and it should be however you want it to be.'

I agree with KSigkid.

I stopped reading posts after I realized how "wedding snooty" and self-important many people are.

how is this different from the ghetto weddings thread?

My comment wasn't on this thread in particular, but on the dating and relationships board as a whole. I think people on the board tend to be hyper-critical of others weddings. That's just my opinion, and others are entitled to theirs.

It's just not GC (but they are among the worst). If I ever get married, I think we will just go to Vegas or something, and have a crazy bachlorette's party (they don't have to buy me anything except drinks). Until recently, I had no idea how much weddings and wedding related stuff stir up sooooo much drama (among friends, family, and people you work with). :(

In the ghetto weddings thread we make fun of people for fighting at a wedding, getting arrested at a wedding or getting married in the parking lot of a White Castle. Here you make fun of people for participating in the dollar dance (a custom and standard in many communities), inviting (or not inviting - depending on who's posting) all of the family and friends to a destination wedding or notifying guest of where the couple is registered at. There we find humor in extreme situations. Here we pretentiously nit pick details. See the difference?


Note: I'm not saying that you can't have threads where you do this. I'm just saying that this is not the best place to come for wedding advice.

Kinda but not really. At the end of the day, in both threads, you're criticizing people for their wedding choices and whatnot. If you don't agree with it, don't do it in either thread.

I'll be the first to admit that I am hyper-critical in some respects when it comes to weddings -- there are certain things that I consider tacky under any circumstances and would be inclined to talk some shit if people do them.

For the most part, however, I consider weddings a colossal waste of time and money. They're like my-super-sweet-16 (or whatever that show is) for adults.

Just a question: Do you consider ALL weddings (courthouse, private close friends/family only, etc) a waste of time and money...or just the outragous multiple thousand dollar ones??

I didn't read that thread. My comments in this thread probably pertain to that one as well.

ETA: I hate it when people use the term "ghetto" so it's a good thing I didn't read that thread.

Oh, the irony.

:D I guess I can see the difference.

I'd say most. I find showers and bachelorette parties more exciting than the ceremony itself. Unless of course, if someone does something crazy like getting married on motorcycles. Anyone watch those crazy wedding shows on the NG channel?

I don't think I will feel any different if I get married.

:rolleyes: Silly girl.

I never said the thread couldn't exist. I just said this isn't the place to get advice.

Umm...I think she was referring to the irony of you nit-picking people for getting nit-picky about details. And the fact that you were also being pretentious doesn't hurt the irony argument.