Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1341405)

...those of us who don't feel the need to date or have sex with everything that expresses interest in us are able to keep friendships platonic ....

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1342932)

Well, some women are desperate and have low expectations. ;)

But your question is like asking "can human beings walk down a crowded street without finding at least ONE person physically attractive?" Sure, it's possible to NOT but if the other person is physically attractive and you notice that person, you're usually going to find that person physically attractive. Unless you know too much about that person and the thought of physical attractiveness just makes you sick.

But finding someone attractive doesn't mean you'll want to hump that person. I have longterm male friends who find me attractive but have never made a move. They they me that they've said to themselves "oh, that's just DSTChaos...we're like brother and sister" or "we're homies so I wouldn't want to confuse things."

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1342933)

You ever seen that deformed monster thingie from the Goonies? :p

Originally Posted by delph998 (Post 1342851)

WOW! :rolleyes: I'd love to see this Pretty Boy! :)

Originally Posted by laylo (Post 1343465)

They can be acquaintances, but not close friends. They can't hang out alone. I've had several guys get angry at me because I wouldn't hang out with them as "friends". So when I did, I made it very clear beforehand that I wasn't interested in anything romantic or sexual happening in any way. And every single time without exception, they still tried something and I had to leave. Maybe it changes when you get older (I doubt it), but for the most part women think they have male friends, men think they have untapped options. Not saying its only men who play the friend game, but I think men are much more likely to.

Originally Posted by laylo (Post 1343465)

They can be acquaintances, but not close friends. They can't hang out alone. I've had several guys get angry at me because I wouldn't hang out with them as "friends". So when I did, I made it very clear beforehand that I wasn't interested in anything romantic or sexual happening in any way. And every single time without exception, they still tried something and I had to leave. Maybe it changes when you get older (I doubt it), but for the most part women think they have male friends, men think they have untapped options. Not saying its only men who play the friend game, but I think men are much more likely to.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1343403)

LOL. Seriously, I have never had a female friend that didn't want more from me. I don't know why. Maybe it's my personality.:p I mean, I don't look at myself in the mirror and say "Damn I look good". Women tell me that.;)

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1343401)

Yeah, I see your point, but they still want you, and given the opportunity they wouldn't turn you away.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy (Post 1343597)

You hit it right on the nose. I wouldn't get serious with a babe who had male friends. It just causes too many problems.

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1345219)

Well you will be missing out on a lot of good women then.

But maybe women won't want to be with you because you call them "babe." :eek: ;)

Originally Posted by delph998 (Post 1345748)

On a serious note, my father tells me all of the time that I have too many male friends and that may prohibit me from being in a relationship. I've cut a lot of these friends down over time.

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS (Post 1346000)

Only for insecure men unless you are spending way too much time with other men.

I was raised mostly around males and almost all of my life most of my friends have been male. I also have friends who are women, because I don't believe that women are catty or difficult to get along with, but just not as many female friends as I have male friends. I make sure that these male friendships are platonic (even if there WAS some attraction at sometime) and we don't blur the lines in our words and interactions. So there's never a question.

If you cut down on these male friends make that be a choice YOU make because YOU no longer need them in your life. Unless you and your man are going to be picking each other's friends and he's not going to have any female friends. :)