Sorry you drank the Jesus Juice.

-Rudey

Craig- I am really shocked. Not wanting sex all the time-you must have moved into real adult world where the demands of life get in the way of the once all important things. :) Don't worry -I have been told it happens to most guys around 30.

It really does sound like she is feeling insecure. If you have feelings for this person and want to keep her around but her smothering bothers you-tell her. Tell her exactly what behaviors you find smothering. Be direct and indicate while you do not have a desire to end the relationship or see other people you do want a heathy and happy relationship with her. Then tell her in healthy relationships both people have interests and friends outside of the relationship. Learning how to behave in a serious relationship is a learning process-my guess you have already done this but due to your age differences she probably has not figure these things out.

As far a sex goes-good and great sex is a learned activity. If she needs to learn better ways to please you and herself find ways to explore these activites together (how to do videos, books, etc...) My advice make the relationship and sex talk two separate discussions so there will be no confusion in her mind that these two areas are connected and good sex is a requirment with being in a relationship with you. This will only make her feel more insecure; hence, more smothering behaviors. If there are underlying problems (i.e. body image, past trauma) that get in the way with enjoying a sexual relationship with you-encourage her to seek some counseling to resolve these issues

Don't mean to sound like I am lecturing-just expereince talking after 37 years of marriage and two sons who had the same problems when dating their wives.

Oh yeah my last piece of advice-after the relationship talk do not under any circumstances have sex immediately afterwards. Sex can be a really emotional activity with women and she may get confused with message of your talk. If you do-she may think you were just upset about something else and blowing off steam. The conversation probably will not be taken as serious as you intended. Instead plan the discussion prior to going out of the house for a scheduled activity.

Hahaha.......I think fucking her sucked because her hair wasnt black. She dyed her hair black last thursday. I hit more this past weekend than the entire time I've been with her. And I liked it. :D


The Viagra was definitely needed, we didnt leave my condo except to go out to eat and the beach.

Craig-Glad you had a great weekend. So when do the wedding invitations go out? You do know it is only a matter of time:)

Hell No. My friends are saying that, too. And it's not like 2 or 3.....all of them and their girlfriends/wives on top of the ones still rollin hard. :rolleyes: Swore to myself after my exfiance did some fucked up things that I wouldn't take the plunge till I was 30 or 35. Thats why I bought the car I bought, so I wouldnt have the money to waste on another 2kt ring. :o




-And my family is twice as bad as my friends.

Families are always twice as bad in these situations :)

Still I don't know about your disclaimer on marriage-happy with the sex and a good housekeeper. Those invitations and wedding plans have already been set in stone. You just haven't figured that out yet :D

BTW changing hair color always spices up that sex life. I am told it is like acting on the fantasy of being with a different woman. Oh you are in so deep- LOL.

What a weekend.....


This weekend I took her to a vineyard, a winery, dinner and then a symphony at night. I think I'm making this girl fall insanely in love with me. She busted out the Mariah Carey when we got home from the symphony and lit all the candles up. :rolleyes: Any of you ever tried having sex while hearing Mariah Carey sing "we belong together" :o Shit kind of gets to you. I think she's trying to tell me she's absolutely headover heels in love with me with out actually saying it. Isnt that a sign when the M.C. gets broken out during the love making?


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Its one of "those" CDs. :rolleyes:

That reminds me of this time I was over at the fiance's house (back when he was living with all the bros) and one of the guys was getting it on with his now ex-GF and listening to the easy listening station and it was literally one disney movie song after another. We (a big group of us) were watching some movie in the living room and there was a pause in the movie sound, no one was talking and all we heard was disney and sex. Damn funny.

Thats just wrong. Disney? I can't imagine people having sex while listening to sebastian the crab sing "under da sea".

Sex and crabs are never a good combination.

god...

i think i am gonna go barf up my lunch. you hit it while listening to Mariah Carey???

So when do the wedding invitations go out. i'll throw the bachelors party. i know plenty of performers (as we like to call them)