As far as Otter's situation - you are not asking him just to ask someone. You are asking him because you like him. I don't think it will freak him out.

I've gone to most of the weddings I've gone to (that aren't family weddings) with no date. Mr 33 hates them and I see no sense in dragging him to something he'll hate. If it's a sister wedding, I MIGHT bring a sister who didn't get invited if the reason she didn't get invited was that she was farther down the invite list than me (and the bride has budgeted for me and a guest, and it's OK w/ her). I've gone to weddings completely on my own.

I think everyone is forgetting what the purpose of being a wedding guest is...it's to support and congratulate your friend on the happiest day of his or her life, and share it with them. It's not for you to meet men or women, or get drunk, or show off your date. Think about the bride and groom, not about yourself.

Yeah, that's my concern...you know a little more about the situation then the people on here (the Hooties connnection...haha) so you understand what I mean! I'm just not going to worry about it until I absolutely have to in January! Who knows, I think maybe I'll drag a hottie I meet when I'm in Hawaii back to the mainland and take him....haha :p

I have been invited to quite a few weddings, and I have never brought a date. I prefer hanging out with my friends and family. I wasn't in a steady relationship at the time. It's not a big deal. Many people go solo and have a great time.

I have been a date for my boyfriend's friend's wedding. It was weird for me since I knew no one except him, but the people were nice and the wedding was fun once I got over my initial shyness.

I'm curious here... who pays for something like this? Would you be expected to pay for your date's cruise? Are the bride and groom paying? How do people work it when they choose to do things like this?

I can support hotties from Hawaii. :D

It's good that you have some time. I think the extra few weeks will help you decide.