I've noticed that people (no one on here, b/c I don't know you all that well) who say that they don't want to get married right now or are ok waiting are usually people who have dated extensively, have LOTS of friends and other things to keep them busy. They've been really lucky in their life and feel it is full as it is. On the other hand, those who say they want to get married NOW feel marriage is a Band-Aid to fix an empty hole inside. I know that sometimes that is my reason for wanting to get married, but I know that, before I can make someone ELSE happy, I have to make myself happy and be ok by myself...

Remember, I'm not talking about ANYONE on here, just an observation from personal experiences and people I know...

Thoughts??

My thoughts:

I had a very full life with friends, boyfriends, etc. I had what I considered to be a healthy sex life and, by most measures, all was cool. (Now, I did have a lot of evil guys in my past, but all in all, I had lots of fun.)

There came a time in my life - just earlier this year - when I evaluated my life and thought "what am I doing?" That's the point when I came back to God. It's why I'm in seminary now. I am to have ONE husband for life. Dating is just not for me any more. As I've said, there's a huge difference between dating and courtship.

I feel more full and complete now, with God, than when I was running around having all my "fun." I'm not content, but I am happy. I won't be content until I die, because once I'm content, what's the point of going on?

ETA: Sorry, I forgot to mention that I don't feel the least bit empty right now, but I honestly believe my ministry would be more powerful with two heads instead of one. :)

You've been watching the Trinity Broadcasting Network too much.

And Cashmoney--you ain't right for that... ;)

Sigmagrrl--

I had all the partying in the world when I lived in SoCal... I had friends up the ying yang... I massively dated... And I had a love life to envy... I was hanging out in bars actually being with the stars up in the Champagne room... I had it like dat dere... And I was truly happy with my life and way things were going...

But nothing in life lasts forever. And partying till 6 in the morning gets old--quickly. And I thought there was more to my life than just my friends.

And to basically put it to you, I got tired of sitting at the kiddie table during Thanksgiving...

So 2 years ago, I left SoCal for my soulquest to the wilderness of middle America and I freely gave up the fabulous life... Now, I think I am a better person for it. And I am married to a wonderful human being that gives me sanctuary and solace during my rollercoaster ride I have made in my life...

That's how it worked for me...

What's that?

Which God did you come back to? Just curious, there is a whole pantheon.

I want to get married someday.

But not to a liar or a cheater. Cuz like I always know EVERYTHING.

Not sure I understand the jokes at my expense. Anyone care to explain?

James and Cashmoney, y'all need to leave this girl alone... She's doing what her heart speaks to and that is the way she has chosen her lifepath must go. And even if we all don't agree with how she has chosen to do things, we really ought not to make judgements about it...

Preciousjeni--girl, you go on ahead and do what you believe is best for you. Some folks do not share your understanding of the Spirit... But I do know what you are talking about. And I pray the best for you and hope you are truly blessed...

Naah, not mocking, just wondering which of the many religions and infinite sects you belong to that changed your mind about life.

Unless you think its mocking to accept that other religions that worship different gods may have equal validity.

In that case can see how you would viw my question as a joke or something.