One of my best relationships was a 6 year difference, she was 18 and I was 24, but we clicked really well and even though I unfortunately hit that "I just graduated from college and need to get my shit together" stage when she hit that "OMG I'm in college and now I can party ALL THE TIME" stage, which caused our lives to skew off into different directions, she's still a very close friend now.

I have always dated men older than me. I don't recall ever dating someone my own exact age. My boyfriend is nearly 11 years older than me and I never even think about it except for when we're talking about things like pop culture and I realize that, whoa, he was in college in 1984 when I was in second or third grade!

Normally I don't date anyone over 3 years older than me, but I can say that sometimes it works out. My parents are 17 years apart and they have been married for 29 years....so I can't discriminate if everything is going right...

^^^^ I don't know about that one....hmmmmmm


and is it just me or has she not been in a movie since the whole TomKat thing started?

I think Thank You For Smoking was after the couch-jumping thing (I think the Batman one was as well), and maybe it WAS Thank You For Smoking, but I remember a controversy about Tom getting a sex-scene cut out of one of her movies.

ETA: IMDB shows that she's got 3 in the works right now.

Well Katie Holmes & Tom Cruise are 16 years apart

There was a sex scene in Thank You For Smoking. If I recall, she actually did a topless scene in it.

It probably helped her career being with Tom Cruise. I don't remember her doing much A-List stuff before that.

Dawson's Creek was just about as A-List as TV gets. Yeah, there are a ton of more popular teen dramas now, but it was pretty much the predecessor of The OC/One Tree Hill/etc.

I would date someone older, as long as they aren't boring. But it seems that those two go together. There's so many people my age and older who take themselves so seriously, or life itself very seriously. For that reason, I'd prefer to date someone younger. Or, maybe I should leave this city.

Ok, I haven't said anything about this issue, but now I am going to do so. I am married to a man who is very exciting, wonderful, and fun; however, he happens to be 10+ years older than me. I think people should date or marry whoever makes them happy. Limiting one's self to a certain age bracket is like shooting one's self in the foot--you could be missing out on the best person you could ever meet. Now, that being said, obviously underaged teenagers should not be dating 40 year old men; that is just insane. But when someone is of age, age shouldn't be a factor in who he or she dates.

I am thinking movies versus TV. Generally movie stars are considered to be "bigger" than Tv-stars, unless you really like the show.

I think it depends on where you are in life, not age. When I was 20, I dated my 42 year old boss. Bad choice-he was divorced with 2 kids. When I was 22, I dated a 33 year old. Bad choice again-He was seperated with one kid and went back to his wife for a short while. He called me when it didn't work out. I said no thanks. I was much happier dating NBMs with no kids, because at the time, that is what I was. Age didn't matter when I was dating. (Now I'm married-of course, he was a NBM with no kids and happens to be just under 2 years older than me.)

I think you should leave that city.

My husband is 7 years older than me. I much prefer older men - always have.