True on some levels. Yet, there are just some people who have a marital tunnel vision that can possibly be helped when some of the blindfolds have been removed.

A lot of people go right from their childhood home to college to a marriage, and since they never spent time learning how to truly live on their own, lack the skills needed to maintain a peaceful marriage.

The best example I can think of right now is the number of people I've talked to who don't know that owning a house means paying a sewage bill! It's a little thing, but it can cause big troubles.

Well thats true. Life skills are important and not taught.

You are talking about a year though. After a year you are beyond basic life tasks and into unresolved emotional problems. And a year is a relatively long time.

I am not judging you or your chosen mate, just observing.

I'll just share my perspective. I don't date projects. I wouldn't buya fixer-up house and I don't stay long in fixer-up relationships.

IT is very true that in theory, and with a lot of assisstance you can socialize someone in a different way. Change is possible, but ultimately it might be easier to find someone else that is more in alignment with what you need.

There are a lot of people in the world that we can be attracted to, and feel connected with. Some of them are even emotioanlly very healthy and eager to please!

Maybe we should raise our standards and switch-up until we meet that potential better outcome :)

James, in my own case, the fact that we're in two different cities is a lot of the trouble. We both have somewhat high-profile jobs that we are both somewhat reluctant to leave. Money plays a HUGE part in this decision, and revealing any more would be unfair to mr. honeychile.