Hi James. :)

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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Rudey
[B]You girls should all take into account how guys view you.

Well, if you put a skinny girl and a not skinny girl together at the bar, let's take a bet on which one gets hit on first.

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[QUOTE]Originally posted by DZHBrown
[B]The one that's more trashed.

-Rudey
--Bada Bing!

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sad, but true, and I second that!!!

I've seen it waaaaay too many times, if you look easy enough the guys go after you- no matter what you look like- c'mon guys admit it!!

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Yep, happens ALL the time! They also go after whoever has the boobs... and then proceed to talk to the chest. Not that I have personal experience with that though :p (For the record, you can ask any of my friends... I love to make fun of myself for barely having any boobs, it's a running joke :) )

if she edited or deleted it, then why did you have to leave your post yelling at her?

If society were different and women were admired for being heavy, then the normal/plus-size girls would be having a heyday and the skinny chicks would have no dates. In some parts of Africa women will take all sorts of drugs and eat tons of food in order to be slightly more than Rubenesque. And the men think it's sexy. Weird.

Reading through this thread has reminded me of many truths that I would like to share. When I was in college, I hung around "sticks" and always, ALWAYS felt I needed to lose weight. When I look back at old photos, I realize how STUPID I was-I was a normal weight person perhaps even on the lower end of the weight scale. I didn't see what I really looked like. I think many of you are in the same category.

Today, I still carry an image in my mind because I happen to have a "stick" for a sister. The truth of it is, between us, I am more approachable and make an effort to help others feel comfortable.
Likewise, many people comment on how "beautiful" I am...no brag, just a fact. It DOES matter and like Grandma always said, "Pretty is as pretty does." When we walk around thinking
"I'm fat so I'm ugly," we will draw that into our lives. Being skinny does not equate with beauty. Being "fat" does not equate with "ugly".

I saw my daughter gaining weight and I trace it directly to the Internet. I warned her about Freshman 15 and beer (it's the WORST plus it breaks some people out) still, she added a few more pounds. She has dropped a few, but because she is soooooooo endowed, it's hard to notice. Her aunt-the skinny one-says things like "Do you know how many guys she could get if she just lost 20 lbs?" I want to slap her! Yet, she has more guys around than you can shake a stick at because first, she really is beautiful by most standards but more important-she is warm and doesn't know a stranger. She also is a rarity in the sense that her morals are cemented in her religious beliefs. Her close friend is anorexic... She has had similar things happen/said to her BY OTHER GIRLS as Shine and DeltaSigStan have described. Take into account that her struggle is no where near what many have described on this thread. So, the facts-
You're not as "fat" as you think
Carriage matters
Girls are harder on girls
Stop trying to shop in the Juniors
Believe, REALLY BELIEVE in your own beauty
Cut down your Internet time and the beer/alcohol
When skinny people get older, their face hardens
Real men fall in love with real women
Rubens had it right!
The Three Graces by Peter Paul Rubens

http://www.abcgallery.com/R/rubens/rubens49.html

Charities (called in Latin Graces) ancient Greek divines for beauty, grace and artistic inspiration, and perhaps also, in their earliest form, of powers of vegetation. They are generally said to be tree sisters called Euphrosyne, Thalia and Aglaea. Their father was Zeus, mother either Eurynome, or Hera. They are usually depicted as naked girls embracing at each other. They frequently accompany Apollo, Athena, Aphrodite, Eros and Dionysus.

I'm sorry I offended you. If you knew me, you would know that I not the type of person who would intentionally offend anyone. But that's the point, nobody does know me because this is simply a message board where people type things, and sometimes what they type is taken completely out of context, which is exactly what happened with me. I was NOT trying to be offensive, and I apologize if I came off that way, but what I said was taken out of context. I deleted that post because I thought about it and I was like, well if people got offended by my other posts then they certainly would be offended by that one. I just didn't know it was okay to bash some people on GC but not others. And I was certainly NOT bashing anyone. I was trying to point out the BRIGHT SIDE for you all. But what I said was taken completely out of context, and I can't help the fact that some people are going to misinterpret things... that's just the way life is.

You have no idea how hurt I am by your post, because nothing upsets me more than when I make an attempt to be nice and then people bitch at me about it. I also can't stand when people tell me I don't have a right to speak my mind. Note that I'm not the only "skinny" person who has posted on this thread. I have a right to defend myself, so that's what I'm doing in this post. I never set out to hurt anyone... never have and never will. So I hope you understand that I am sorry, but that I did not mean anything the way you took it.

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Actually . . . NO! I have never gone after a girl that was less than at least somewhat above average on a generally accepted aesthetic scale.

I usually ignore the less attractive easy ones. *shrug* Why bother?

I don't get beer goggles. I get beer brain. I care less and less how inane the chatter from the girl might be the more I drink lol.

However, what MSSTCY1 said is true for most guys I know.

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I definately think that guys view me the way I view me... cos there is NO ONE interested in me in Clarion/Pittsburgh

It was that issue that sparked this thread. And the fact that I am kinda depressed about my weight

Im sick of weighing 150 I have tried for the past year to get back to 140 or 145. Im not asking alot. I did lose 15 lbs in Septmeber, but that was cos I was depressed and didnt eat (boy issues) and I went from 160 to 145. But now Im back at 150. Ive been at 150 since I was a senior in HS, and I dont want to hear any of the "Maybe thats the weight your body wants to be at" siht either. I dont think Im healthy. I want to get rid of my stomach. I dont mind my boobs or even my butt. I just want to not have to worry about looking bad in cute shirts or having to adust all the time. Even when I was in my dance rep class (its just like being in a company, we create a 15 min peice for the dance concert) and exercizing like a mo-fo (500 sit ups, 100 pushups on a light day...), was in colorguard and had bronchitits really bad... I didnt budge from 150 or lose any weight in my middle.

I hate when I go home and people are like "You lost weight, you look good" I ask how they can tell and they say "Oh your face" well yea, maybe my face is losing weight, but Im not anywhere else.

And it doesnt help that my one friend is trying to recover from years of bulemia and anorexia and she keeps making comments like "108lbs, Im so fat" and I say "yea try 150..."


And my roomie has the same issues I have, I am smaller than her, but shes also taller and has a bigger frame. And I cant stand it when I just want to use my god given right as a woman and complain about my weight and shes like "Oh then I must be huge if youre fat" No... Im saying that I am fat for my body... not saying that if I weighed this and was in your body that I would be fat.

Oh and heres the kicker: I am too big for stores like Abercrombie and Hollister... yet too small for stores like Lane Bryant.

Where the hell am I going to get cute clothes?


SORRY THAT I KEEP VENTING... this is good therepy

Misses clothes dont fit me right, Ive tried! I need to have lower cut jeans because having pants touch my belly button freaks me out. And I also need the odd sizing and the juniors cut...

Not weird at all. It's just a different cultural lens. And in fact, you can see this pattern of preferring Rubenesque-type women among African Americans. :cool:

I know many people from Africa and the Caribbean. They have told me that they embrace more curvaceous figures because they have experienced times of great famine which resulted in starvation and death. Fuller figures look healthier when compared to that experience.

Try not to let your weight dictate the way that you feel about yourself. I have a friend who lost 65 pounds. She said that she lost the weight when she was ready not when other people were ready. She joined Weight Watchers and began to work out regularly. She slowly and permanently lost the weight. She still watches what she eats and continues to exercise. Her weight loss was the result of lifestyle changes including accepting her body and herself.