Spanking
 

Girl you know I wasn't trying to preach, but it pisses me off to the highest. We want to blame everyone and everything for our people and children being out of control. Yet we sit back and make artist rich by calling us B's and Ho's and what's even sadder is that the young people think it's cute. We have lost our minds, we are living in the last days and most folks don't even know they need to check themselves and get their houses in order. We have children killing parents and parents killing children.
We complain about how we are treated as a people but aren't willing to sacrifice, and do what it takes to make the change. Girl I just get sick when I look at the world and how selfish we have become.

We are DEFINITELY living in the last days. When I tell people that, they say "we've been living in the last days since the beginning." But they just don't know; we're REALLY living in the last days. Shoot, now my prayer is to get married and have some kids.

We have all moved on up to NY, Cali, MI, Chitown or wherever and forgotten our foundation,we are to easliy tempted. Before we lived in neighborhoods with relatives and in laws, now we don't want to live in our neighborhood but move to the westside with the gray folks. We have put basic human courtesy on the back burner in pursuit of whatever silver, gold, money we can get.

Girl I could go on and on, but I will end it here and wish you the best on luck in your pursuit of family. Just remember let God guide that man to you!

Re: Re: Spanking
 

I wish my son would even think about putting me in time out. It would be on. I really don't understand this one. :eek:

Girl, that's what I'm talking about!!!! And do you know that she was laughing about that when she told us!!! That's how you know these parents are losing it!

While I was working at the Court House as a Deputy Clerk, one day a young boy (age 9 at the time) came to my counter along with his Mother and Grandfather to inquire about his court date. He walked up to my counter with an attitude and little did he know I was ready for him. I asked if I could help him and he it the worse tone of voice and attitude I have ever seen in a child said, “That is what you get paid for." :eek: Okay so he caught me off guard with that one. Anyway, he told me he was there for court but did not know which room to go to. Right off the bat I knew what courtroom to send him to because he was a juvenile. However, I went the long route and asked him what kind of case he was appearing on. His answer, I dunno. Every question I asked him, he answered the same way. So finally he was frustrated because he realizes that I am picking with him, he says he is leaving:rolleyes: His mother grabs him by the arm and tries to make him stay put so she can give me the information and he yells,"B*T$H get your dayum hands off of me."

:mad: Me being a child that would have never thought about even thinking about saying something like that to my mom blacked out for a minute. I came from around the counter and asked to see the little boy in the hallway. He told me he did not have to go anywhere with me. At said time, I told him he had two choices, to meet me in the hall way or be escorted downstairs by the big men in the brown suits with the real guns. Needless to say he chose to come with me. When we reached the hallway I backed him up against the wall and told him I do not allow children to call their parents names in front of me and that he was going to in their and apologize to his mother. He again told me what he was not going to do. Again the southern motherly side of me appeared again. I told him that I was not asking him I was telling him and that I know I was not his mother, but he was on my playground and what I say goes. I then asked him if he had a job. Of course he gives me one of those:rolleyes: looks. So I said well who bought those Tommy jeans, that Tommy shirt and those Jordan's that fit him to a T. His response, "my mom."

So I go on to say and you have the nerve to call her such a terrible name when she buys you the top of the line things. He said she gets on his nerves. I then said to him," right now you are on my nerves and before I get on something of yours you better go apologize and with some sense. So he walked back in the office bowed his head when he reached his mom and said sorry. I said that is not acceptable and before I hit this buzzer I am going to give you one more chance. Just like you were confident enough to call her out of her name, you be even more confident to correct your horrible mistake. He looked up right in her eyes, grabs her by the waist and said I am sorry with tears in his eyes as almost as loud as he had when he cursed her. She looked at me with tears in her eyes and said, " He has given you more RESPECT in five minutes than he has given me in 9 years, thank you." My supervisor told me that I was out of place for saying something to him. After thinking about it, I asked myself how would I feel if someone had done the same thing to me. Personally, I would have felt as if I had failed as a parent. If someone that doesn't know your child from Adam could make them behave, if even for a moment, what is that say for you as their parent? I don't have that problem with my son or nieces because there is no sparing of the rod in my household. My kids know, if you want to put on a show with me at home or in public hold on to your hats cause my performance will bring the house down.

The supervisor said you were out of place ???!!!:eek: :rolleyes: :confused:

WTF was that?

Kudos to you for letting that lil boy know his place. If his momma had done that, he might not have been at the court house..

The supervisor said you were out of place ???!!!

WTF was that?


Kudos to you for letting that lil boy know his place. If his momma had done that, he might not have been at the court house..

Thanks nikki1920, and you are absolutely right. I don't plan on having to make any trips like that for my son or nieces.

She sure did tell me I was out of place. She told me that things of that nature happen all the time in a public place and I should not be letting outside feelings get involved with my work. I did not get reprimanded or anything of that nature. However, she was shocked when the child's grandfather came down after court and asked to speak with the Circuit Clerk. My supervisor asked what it was in regards to and he said he wanted to let her know about one of her employees. I must admit we both thought that he was upset, but that was not the case. He told my boss as well as the CC that he wanted to personally thank her for employing such a fine young woman. He was grateful that I had said something to his grandson and even had hoped I would call the Sheriff's and have them escort him to the holding cell below the courthouse. That maybe he would learn a little respect for his mother and other adults. He went on to say that they (his daughter and he) had lost hope that the little boy would change. He did not know what else he could do. I told him I would be happy to keep him for a weekend to show him how nine year olds should act. He asked if I was serious and I gave him my phone number and address. Your wondering if he contacted me? He sure did that very weekend.:cool: Dennis the Menace was dropped off at 6:00 pm on Friday and he was in my complete and total control until 8:00 pm on Sunday. Oh he showed his little behind for a good 2 hours when he first arrived. When those hunger pains hit;) the attitude subsided. I did not have to raise my voice or my hand one time to the little tyke. Saturday morning after all of his chores were done, we visited family. He saw that from the early age of one all the way up to 21 children in my family were taught to stay in a child's place. He also saw that if they did not listen, there were consequences and repercussions. By the time Sunday Service was over Jacob had a new attitude. He is now a freshman in high school and I went to his first football game three weeks ago:) .

FLKING, I am really glad you were able to make a difference in that child's life. That is really beautiful.

KUDOS to you for putting that child in check! Of course the supervisor told you that you were out of place. I swear, what's right is wrong and what's wrong is right.

FLKING, I am really glad you were able to make a difference in that child's life. That is really beautiful.

Thanks smlwonderdst. You know right off the bat, I blamed his mother for allowing him act the way he did. But in these 5 years, I have learned that he has gone through some rough times. His mother explained that he started acting this way after she and his father divorced. He is the only child and the family is pretty well off, but I guess the dad puts a dollar sign where he should put his heart. Since then his grandfather passed and he does not have a male figure in his life right now. I told him mom she should get him into a mentoring program. Jacob has come a LONG way. Every now and then he does the "teenage" thing, but it is not to the extent of him having to make a trip downtown. He is starting to notice girls now:eek: so we are dealing with that. LOL He even asked me to Homecoming which is this weekend. I will not be able to make the game, but his mom is giving him a surprise party after the dance that will make him the most popular guy in the school. I am sure he will be surprised when I show up at 12:00 am to ask him to dance. Can somebody call me and wake me up? It has been a long time since I have tried to party with the young crowd :D

KUDOS to you for putting that child in check! Of course the supervisor told you that you were out of place. I swear, what's right is wrong and what's wrong is right.

delph998, you are right on the money with that last statement.