Totally! Thanks for understanding... (I forgot to put in my message that I didn't hear the girl... If I had, ohhh... I donno what I would have done!)

I know a girl (friend of a friend type thing) who went for a job interview and the interviewer called her fat and disgusting...literally said "you're fat and disgusting" but she refuses to do anything about it because she doesn't want it to be an issue...and is being a victim

Doesn't want it to be an issue, so she will not do anything about it? Sounds a little crazy and a tad lazy to me! Job interviews are based alot on apperance, but I couldn't imagine someone actually say that to someone...that shows a lot about that Co.

It all boils down to trying to be healthy. I have never been a huge exercise fan but you know what, unless you get off your rear and move around it will be close to impossible to lose or maintain weight...unless you happen to be one of the blessed peolpe that can eat anything and remain thin!

I am all about being happy with who you are and all, but there is a time when you have to realize that health is more important. I will never be a size 2 like so many of my friends, but that doens't mean that I should get as big as possible to prove a point. Being heathly will come more into play when we all get older and I would like to think a head start is a good thing...

Just wanted to let everyone know that I was feeling a little bad about myself until reading and replying a couple of times on here. And this morning I opened up my e-mail and there was one from one of the guys from last year that we had mutual interest in each other but nothing ever came of it. But he told me he wanted to talk to me about maybe getting together!

I am so excited right now! I know it has nothing to do with this post, but I thought I would share :)

wise words...
 

For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.

For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.

For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.

For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.

For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.

People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed; never throw out anyone.

Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you'll find one at the end of each of your arms. As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.

The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode, but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives and the passion that she shows.

The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.

-Audrey Hepburn

~I thought you all would like that quote! I know I love it. I myself am not a 'big girl' and I don't think I will ever be one just because I have a very small build and have always been very petite, however, I do have some 'big girl' friends that are some of the most gorgeous girls I know. They radiate beauty inside and out!;)

Re: wise words...
 

Thank you for posting this. And Audrey Hepburn, as a side note, had a beautiful soul as well as classic outer beauty.

That was a beautiful Audrey Hepburn quote! The woman was the epitome of class, not for her looks but because of how she carried herself, and the life she lived. It's all about how you treat others.

I am like everybody else on this board, I have a LOT of body issues. MY body issues were more a result of spiritual crisis than anything else. I was depressed, so I gained weight. Losing the weight happened when I could be happy with the me on the inside, and had little to do with what I saw in the mirror.

It's like at one point, going outside to play with my cousins was too hard, and I just never had the energy to go anywhere, and that's when I decided to lose weight in a healthy manner- I have been surrounded by eating disorders for most of my life, and seen the damage that they do, and so I chose to love myself and my body and lose weight with that in mind!

It's all about loving yourself! No matter what you weigh, if you love yourself and you show it, then people will be attracted to that, and you will be the happier for it.

Another point about the whole "big girl" issue... just being a little larger than others does not mean you are not as healthy as them:

Example: My good friend is a size 4/6... but she smokes a pack of cigarettes a day, does not always practice safe sex and does not exercise that often.

Me, however, I am a size 8/10.... but I work out 3-4 times a week, I don't smoke, I always have safe sex and I'm even trying to give up caffeine altogether...

so why it may suck being 10 lbs heavier than her.. it pays off in the long run :)

For Real
 

Yeah, I'm 5'8" and have been full figured all of my life. I've gone through ups and downs about it, but I had to realize that although big, I am very pretty. I've had boyfriends and all, and some still want me because, regardless of size I am a person of high quality. I think that life is too short to worry about your outer appearence, unless its affecting your overall health. We need to spend more time on our inner selves. And when I do eventually lose the weight, I DON'T wanna be "skinny". A size 12 is as small as I'll EVER want to be. The smallest person in my ENTIRE family (except lil kids) is a size 12. And she looks skinny to me. Size and weight are all so relative. Just so long as you're happy and healthy.

When did size 8/10 become a big girl? That's a normal healthy size.

No kidding.

Funny
 

Ok, why did ya'll favorite GC male UF_Pike start a thread called:

Petite Girl's Shout Out.................... :D

I've been reading some of the things he's posted through GC and my question is....is he a REAL person or just someone living out a fantasy via the 'net?

http://greekchat.com/gcforums/showth...068#post204068


GC is a funny place sometimes :D

What DOES define a big girl?

I am 5'10, 230lbs and wear a size 20. I consider that big. I don't consider someone who can buy clothes in the Juniors department a big girl unless she is under the age of 12. Seriously. I would kill to be able to shop at the Gap, Old Navy, and the like. But I can't. I am ok with that, for now. I love Lane Bryant, Talbots, Elisabeth by Liz Claiborne, and Mainframe Plus. I love that I have curves. I love that I never have to fear the wind.

I am beautiful, I am me. There is no one like me.

TG

Amen to that one!!!

Ladies, you are an inspiration for how ALL women should feel and respect themselves, regardless of size!

I am not really a big girl by normal standards at 5'9 and 135lbs. But I live in Los Angeles, where that is so often considered big. I wear a 6 and going to the Gap to only find 0s, 2s and 4s is a heartbreaking thing that throws me into self doubt. Not to mention the men that think all women should look like Calista Flockhart. Don't even get me started. I've got breasts, I will never be a size 2, and at my height, I'd look damn ridiculous if I were! That, I DO realize!

Reading what you've all said, makes me proud to be a woman with curves and makes me realize I do need to be kinder to myself.

Thank you so much ladies!