Originally Posted by sweetheart272 (Post 2298303)

thank you for this post. it's good to know that i'm not the only one in the world who's had this struggle, lol.

those first stories sounded very similar to mine, but unfortunately there wasn't an advisor in my case.

i feel like the reason i'm making such a fuss about this and having a hard time accepting accusations and consequences is mostly because of that.

had all the proceedings of my discipline followed procedure properly, been supervised by an expert/unbiased party like an advisor, and i had been explained what the issues were with valid evidence and adequate detail, it'd still suck to be in trouble, but i'd accept it because i felt like i deserved it since the policies were followed and i got punished, fair and square.

i guess its too hard for me to swallow my pride and be like "yup i was guilty of everything, totally responsible, they're totally right" when i know for a fact my case was misrepresented and included accusations of things i didn't do.

if i was guilty of something, i'd take the blame. but when you don't agree your guilty, it's hard not to fight back

Originally Posted by AZTheta (Post 2298369)

No.

Just, no. You still don't get it. Now you're contradicting yourself all over the place.

Woke up this morning with a huge knot on my forehead. Realized it came from beating my head against the brick wall that is sweetheart272.

#stickaforkinmeI'mdone

Originally Posted by als463 (Post 2298363)

I don't think early alumna status will work in this situation. I get the impression that the entire chapter does not want her there after she made a mistake. Usually, early alumna status is given to people in extreme circumstances or circumstances that are beyond their control. I know chapters that absorb local sororities and give the original members early alumna status or chapters that allow early alumna status to members in programs that go beyond 4 or 5 years. It can also depend upon a person's major and if they are in something like pre-pharmacy that, at a school near me, does not offer a B.S. but, sends a student straight to graduate school after year 2.

OP, you kind of made something that was "confidential" into something public by coming on a public site. I say this because I've watched people who are being considered for termination speak up on social media sites and further smear the name of their sisters without mentioning school or organization. Once you look at their profile, it is easy to determine what school or organization to which they belong.