| AXOrushadvisor |
12-13-2013 08:22 PM |
My daughter was coached by a fellow Adviser and friend of mine prior to recruitment. My friend didn't tell her any thing I didn't but she seemed to listen to her advice over mine. Go figure! My friend always follows up with her girls and asks some basic questions. Here are my daughter's answers and I just think a lot of this so insightful for a 19 year old kid. She's growing up.
1. I think the best piece of advice you gave me was to keep my opinions to myself- I think thats one of the most important parts of recruitment. The girls that would share their opinions about the houses that they hated in line I literally thought they were the biggest b*&^'s and I also thought that they were annoying because there were other girls in our line that loved those houses. Also I thought it was helpful when you reminded me about the things that are common sense like please and thank you's, because I probably wouldn't have remembered to do that if I hadn't had my meeting with you. I think that after my previous experiences with recruitment and my meeting with you I basically knew what to expect in the houses, there were really no surprises!
2. I honestly can't think of anything that you neglected to tell me, I never felt surprised about anything during recruitment. I feel like I knew the system for the most part and I knew what I was doing while I was in recruitment because of meeting with you.
3. I think the thing I was most surprised about going through recruitment was how attached I got to the houses and the girls in the houses. I don't typically get like that with people or things so it was a little weird for me feeling like I was so connected to these houses just after a few days.
4. I actually really loved recruitment, other than sweating 24/7 and being starving half the time, it was a lot of fun! I got to meet so many new people through my RC groups and I had so much fun talking to all the girls in the houses about the things that we had in common with each other! It was a good experience I love meeting new people so it was enjoyable for me.
5. The worst part about recruitment was when I had to go back to the houses I tried to drop. The conversations were longer so it was more painful to sit through and its hard to be bored and uninterested and not act that way. The other part I hated was having less sleep than normal and having to wake up early! I definitely think that the second round of recruitment was the worst because it feels the longest out of all the days.
6. I think our meeting really helped me on the little details that we talked about, I think it set me apart from most of the girls going through. I think another advantage for me was that you had people looking out for me down here, it definitely gave me an opportunity to figure out if I actually liked a house or not and to be able to prove to the houses that I would be a good fit for them.
7. Advice that I would give to a potential PNM is to not get caught up in anything during recruitment, do your own thing and make your own opinions about recruitment because it only matters what house you like. Don't get caught up when houses drop you either, after learning from personal experience it doesn't matter because half the houses that dropped me I could never see myself in anyway- trust the system because you will end up where your supposed to be! And also after watching S go through rush, don't get caught up in "how good a house is" and focus on what house you feel comfortable in. Don't get caught up in what others peoples recruitments are. It doesn't matter if someone else is having a perfect recruitment and you aren't or that they aren't getting dropped from houses that you are getting dropped from because everyone talks to different girls and has a different experience in each house. And my last piece of advice would be that if you are in a house that you aren't connecting with, don't let them know that you are bored or uninterested, slap a smile on your face and make the best out of the conversation.
8. I just wanted to thank you for taking the time to meet with me and prepare me for everything I was going to experience that week! It really helped. I also appreciated that you took the time to talk to me about each of the houses so I could figure out who I wanted to rank. The calls in the morning each day also helped remind me about the little things and what I should be focusing on, on specific days!
9. I almost cried after round one when theta and g-phi had dropped me because I thought I had really good conversations with them and thought that they liked me but my mom and you both calmed me down and kept me from crying! And then on preference day I cried twice, once before my preference parties when I got my list back and then I cried in a preference party! I cried after I got my lists because kappa and chi omega had dropped me and other than pi phi I felt that i didn't really belong to any other house but those three and I was upset because I had been stuck with my last choice that I had never really felt a connection with all week. I cried in pi phi's preference because I have always had a bad group of friends, and when I was in there preference party you could just see how close all the seniors were when they were talking about the house. I think another part of me crying was that I just felt so connected to the house and I knew that I wanted to be a part of pi phi.
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