Um...there was absolutely NO REASON to bring DG at ALABAMA into a thread about UGA to try and indict a 60-something alumna! What is wrong with your reasoning? Do you have a personal beef with DG? Just back off, okay.

Titchou frequently comes off abrasively, but what she was telling the OP was actually quite useful. She probably didn't stand out in recruitment (giving her the benefit of the doubt that she didn't have some horrible strike against her) and learning to sell herself would be helpful in the future. Reading more into her posts that she was telling the girl that she was unimpressive or not worth a spot in a sorority is way off base. Hell, there are plenty of times I completely disagree with what titchou says, but you have an obsession with her and her chapter that is ridiculous.

I feel so blessed that my Greek system isn't like that. Alabama is such a strong Greek community but it seems so cold (to me) that chapters view people like that before they ever meet them.
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To the OP, your best bet (since you are already on the COB list) is to naturally befriend people in your hall and classes. If they are in a sorority and there are not opportunities for recruitment (like a COB) until next fall then just make sure you are getting involved on campus. If you were nervous with small talk and felt that was part of the problem you can do so many things to help raise your confidence in those situations! If your campus or area has a Toastmakers or other public speaking group, you could look into that. Also taking an acting class or doing improv, talking to someone new every day, and hanging out with outgoing people can help. Try to be a part of a group that has a clear and positive impact on campus too! But most importantly enjoy yourself :) I can't really think of any specific tips since no one knows why you were released but if you go through the process again you at least know more the second time around! Good luck!

I think my post and additional explanation was self-explanatory.

I didn't enter Alabama as a benchmark of recruitment in this thread. But since it has been, I contributed because I went there, am an alum of a chapter there, write lots of recs there, and know the outcome of girls in my area who participate in recruitment there.

I'm really not interested in finding some drama here that doesn't exist. Sorry. :rolleyes:


ETA: I'm not really sure -- exactly -- what "selling yourself" really looks like during rush. Appearing to be someone who is "trying too hard" may not play as sincere.

No it really isn't self explanatory. An alumna of any sorority giving advice in a thread has NOTHING to do with whether or not her collegiate chapter gives women bids when they re-rush. She may not even be in the position to make those decisions. You making those catty comments about her chapter to "shame" her are really hurtful as PNMs can google her chapter name and find your comments. It is completely unnecessary, and it doesn't matter if you are an alumna of Alabama or Timbuktu. Quit being a haughty brat and leave DG alone. They just got back to campus and don't need you slamming them every few weeks on GC.

BTW, normal people when they disagree with advice given by others on a thread just state their own differing advice without dragging the other poster's sorority into the situation. I get that you don't know how you'd "sell yourself" in recruitment. Fine. Just leave it at that.

There isn't any shame in pledging PNMs who were released from recruitment.

The fact that they were released does not necessarily mean that they did something wrong or didn't do something right. That's the point.

Those girls can benefit a new sorority -- a chapter recolonizing needs members who are enthusiastic about joining a sorority. And PNMs who were released represent a pool of girls who are!

The OP asked what she should do when she rushes again as a sophomore. I think it is important for her to try to understand why she might have been released. If you do not learn from your mistakes, you are doomed to repeat them.

IF you choose to rush again, you must make sure that whatever caused you to be dropped from recruitment this time is not a problem again next year.

No one said there was. You are the only one who brought this up.

Then say that and do not bring up other universities and chapters. And CERTAINLY don't bring personal jabs into it.

UGA isn't colonizing a new sorority this year. This is not relevant in this thread.

SECglitter, just so you know a MCGLO is Multicultural Greek Letter Organization. They offer similar fellowship and philanthropic opportunities as NPC, but operate under a different umbrella organization.

Amen.

Just. Shut. Up.

We get it. You don't like Titchou, and apparently, you don't like Delta Gamma at Alabama, either. Way to show the panhellenic love for your own school. None of these things have to do with what SECglitter wants to know.

SECglitter - I wish you all the best. Some PNMs do better with COB/informal. It's not quite so intense, and there's more of an opportunity for the sorority women to get to know you. UGA has so much going on. Get out there, get involved, and make as many friends as you can. It sounds like you have a lot to offer. :)

I think everyone needs to calm down a bit.

I don't understand why everyone is being so rude to heartofsec. She wasn't putting down DG at Alabama, she was merely stating that some women "slip through the cracks" during Formal Recruitment and that these women COULD be a perfect fit for a colonizing chapter. Not saying that the colonizing women who didn't go through Formal Recruitment aren't JUST as amazing.

I actually had a few sophomores in my pledge class that missed out on getting a bid their freshman year, so they re-rushed the next year and they are WONDERFUL women. I'm sure this is exactly what happened to SECglitter. The computer program isn't perfect, sometimes things like this happen!

Clearly, you missed the original Alabama-recruitment thread in which hartofsec was catty as all get out about DG. Read some more.

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Have to disagree. Having read this thread and the other one where she and Titchou were going at it, it's hard for me to see her comments as anything other than an obvious, unnecessary and catty swipe at Titchou. The point you say she was merely trying to make could have been made just fine without bringing up again (as she did repeatedly in the other thread) that Titchou's chapter closed and is recolonizing

hartofsec needs to let it go already. It's not a flattering look.

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Actually, AOII Angel brought it up:

I just responded to her insinuation:


What might be questionable (or at least amazingly clairvoyant :rolleyes:), IMO, is an alum claiming to know why a PNM was released from recruitment, based on her own experience, 50 years ago, on a different campus.

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Originally Posted by amIblue? (Post 2174057) Just. Shut. Up.

I’m actually delighted that Delta Gamma recolonized at Bama – a much needed addition to the Greek system, and done very well.

The fact that girls who were released from recruitment were pledged as part of the new membership is not a negative, but rather a win/win. We shouldn’t make an assumption that something is inherently “wrong” with a girl who has been released from recruitment.

That’s the point (that I have made repeatedly).

You are welcome in our lane any time, MC.

And you could have made this point without naming a specific chapter.