There is a perp mom on Greek Chat right now. 100% confirmed. I don't know if she went as far as submitting a fake RIF but you have cleaned up her messes on Greek Chat.

Well, spill!

I can't ever remember a time when someone said "bless your/her/his heart" using ANY tone of voice that I didn't consider it at least a polite insult. Same for "you may remember"....what the heck? Am I that old and senile now?????

Thou shalt not call out a perp without naming names!

Yes, please. We don't care for perps around here.

I'm still trying to figure out why so few PNMs are posting this year and so many Moms are posting? I mean, can't Sally Snowflake use a computer and type "sorority message board" into her favorite search engine to find us and ask her own questions?

While I'm at it, Mom, you just may not know your Snowflake as well as you think. It's not just recs, grades, class rank, volunteer efforts and extracurricular activities. Last time I checked, recruitment still was and is a mutual selection process.

This is what I do not like: People who mimic Senator McCarthy holding up a list and proclaiming, "I have a list of commies!" without backup. If you "know" something AND it is important, say so...privately. That person will go away quietly. But do not cast a black light on ALL the pnms and/or moms who are posting their stories. There are people who could be hurt by you, and for no good reason.

It is a vicious, nasty and unethical thing to do.

Yay, ellebud!

"I don't know why XYZ keeps inviting me back" - I think I am too good for this chapter; other "better" chapters cut me; I am considering being rude/telling them I am not interested in their chapter so I don't get invited back

Consider the source, a 3-post noob claiming to have such information? No one believes you unless you state who and how you know.

I never said that I gave any credence what so ever to WranglerDarlin. What concerns and infuriates me is that someone out there will give some credence to her. Let us imagine a house reading this, investigating and then saying, "it MIGHT be XXXXXXX, so let's drop her because while we like her, she may the liar."

I would say that someone should wrangle in their mouth, computer and invest in some restraint.

Bless her heart.

Oh no, it can certainly be a true compliment, as in "I just made these cookies, Miss Sallie, and thought you might like some." "Well, bless your heart, aren't you nice." (If the gift-giver is a child or a young woman, it could be "aren't you precious.") Or it can be an expression of sympathy, as in "My arthritis is acting up again." "Awwww, bless your heart."

Well played, ma'am. Well played.

WranglerDarlin: I hope that you are very aware of the silence of your "supporters" or anyone who can confirm your story. I don't know your age or affiliation and I frankly don't care. Rather than spending time here I suggest that you read Miss Manners or Emily Post. Start with the basics.

That may be the case in some places but, I assure you, it's not within my circles!

At SEC or other schools where the houses are huge, you are all probably right about "I didn't click = I think I'm too good for this house."

But at schools where the sororities are much smaller, some groups do tend to develop "characters". One of my best friends was a (studious and serious) XYZ and I was a (boisterous) ASA - we often ate with each other's sororities (dorm housing) and I would never have been comfortable at XYZ (even though they were great girls), and she often looked shell-shocked after lunch with the ASAs.

So if someone back then had said "I don't really feel I fit in at ASA", that may very well have been exactly what they meant, and had nothing to do with "status" or appearance-related issues.

With smaller groups, these characters can also change over just a few years; for all I know, a few years later, ASA may have been the "studious" sorority and XYZ may have become more boisterous.

Exception that proves the rule: We recently had a mini-reunion at the shore, and one of my pledge sisters, Kristi, who is very quiet, said "I never understood why so-and-so pledged ASA. She was so quiet, and I can't imagine she was comfortable with us." Everyone just stared at her with her mouth open, because every single one of us had speculated the same thing about our beloved Kristi!

My daughter's friend recently completed recruitment at Bama. She became very ill prior to graduation, and as of mid June hadn't secured any recommendations. I was able through my contacts, to secure her one recommendation to each house and to some two. She is an out of state student, she is an Alpha Phi legacy and she knew only one girl in a house at Bama. I tried to advise her and her mother on how competitive the recruitment process is at Bama. I honestly don't think either of them listened to a word I said. As her going away gift, we packed her a bag full of the sorority essentials needed during the process, we also added in some extras. Again, I discussed in detail how competitive this recruitment process is at Bama. As of late July her mother had not sent in a legacy form, nor secured her a recommendation to Alpha Phi. Neither the girl, nor her mother, ever thanked me or my contacts for assisting them with recommendations, this was kind of expected as they are kind of lacking in the manners department. I never heard from the mother, prior to her leaving, during the process or upon their return home. The daughter had a very rough recruitment, she only had four parties on 11 party day, and only 3 parties on 7 party day. She was dropped completely prior to preference round. I recevied a voice mail late last night from her mother blasting me for her daughter's results. I was quite shocked at what was said. I haven't returned the call as I have no idea what to say. Any suggestions from the experts?