| psusue |
08-04-2010 07:48 PM |
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Originally Posted by TakeALook
(Post 1963557)
Well, yes. I wouldn't say there's an exact number, but multiple people would have to express similar opinions that "XYZs are nasty hos" before I would consider it a commonly accepted opinion. Those people would be a combination of those I speak to: frat guys, friends on campus both in and out of sororities, facebook friends' pictures I can see, etc.
I'm not saying that opinion is an accurate representation of all XYZs, but it's something that some people would associate with the letters. And I care too much about what other people think. We've established that.
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And because I'm not that far away from 18, I can completely understand where you are coming from. At 18, in a new place away from home, going through this seemingly superficial process which requires you to be judged almost immediately for your choice (i.e. wearing bid day letters the next day), it is a scary prospect to end up in the "ugly, fat chapter". If I went through recruitment as an 18-year-old, first semester freshman, I may have let the stereotypes and what my new fast friends from my Pi Chi group said get to me. However as I went through college, through a process of the friends I made, the experiences that I had, and the wonderful and amazing women that I met, I was convinced to go Greek. And I chose the chapters that I pursued after careful and thoughtful deliberation. And, in the end, I ended up where I was meant to be. However by my junior year I realized who I was, who my friends were, who and what type of people I got along with, the kind of woman I wanted to be, who I cared about, whose opinions mattered to me, etc. In short, I knew who I was and that made it much easier for me to know where would fit me best. Luckily, the sorority I was interested in thought I fit in well too. But I understand the difficult position that you're in and to be honest, not many of us were so open minded when we went through recruitment. We just know that now at the other side it is probably the most beneficial thing that you can do for yourself. And I know where you're coming from, you want to know what you're getting yourself into. That, in itself, is not bad. Just don't let other people tell you where you fit. Because in the end they won't be the ones living with the decision for four years. That's all. |
